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Across the Fence:  I'm home, sad trip.....  |
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junebug
True Blue Farmgirl
2421 Posts
Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
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 Posted - Jun 04 2006 : 3:03:17 PM
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Just got home a few hours ago, unpacked and checked out my jungle of a garden. Been out west all week so see my Mom who suffered a massive stroke a few weeks ago, could only make one trip so I wanted to see her one last time before she goes, and she is ready. She won't recover from this one and wouldn't want to live in the condition she is in. So my sisters and I told her not to hang on for us, to leave if she needed too. It's such a sad thing saying goodbye, seeing your Mom in a state of help lessness, knowing she won't be with us much longer. The accue care wing is hospise, and all they can do is make her comfortable, she won't eat or take her meds. I did get a smile which I will take with me forever. Thank you for the prayers and concern given already, sure do appreacite it. Hugs to all.
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dargaonfly1054
True Blue Farmgirl
257 Posts
Georgette
Nicholville
NY
USA
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Posted - Jun 04 2006 : 3:14:40 PM
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Hello Sue, I lost my mom 15 years ago and reading your message brought tears to my eyes as I still miss her soooo much! She fell on the ice in March and hit her head and had a massive bleed......my daughter and I had taken off to go shopping to get out of the house and didn't think to tell anyone where we were going....we went to the mall in a town near by and heard a message over the loud speaker..."attention in the mall, attention in the mall, would Georgette Bacon please come to the service desk"......I will never ever forget that. I never did get to see her concious again. We sat by her bed in the ICU and talked to her for three days until the doctor told us she was brain dead and did we want to shut off the life support systems.......God that was so hard. Three days of no sleep saying good bye to my mom. Okay, now I'm sobbing.
My prayers are with you.
Georgette
"We need the tonic of wildness, to wade sometimes in marshes where the bittern and the meadow-hen lurk..." Thoreau |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Jun 04 2006 : 3:41:34 PM
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I am so sorry to read this about your mom. I hope that during this time you will take care of yourself too.I just lost my dad last March and my granny just 7 months before that..so I can relate to the feelings expressed here.
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
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Posted - Jun 04 2006 : 5:43:23 PM
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Sue-
Although it was a difficult trip, I am sure that you are glad you were able to spend time with your mom. I still have my mom, she lives next door to me. I try to spend time doing things with her so that when it is her time to go, I will have those memories. And that is all we can do- be there when they need us, and even when they don't. I am sure that your mom will carry many memories of you with her on the next journey in her life.
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Nancy Gartenman
True Blue Farmgirl
9093 Posts
Nancy
West Seneca
New York
USA
9093 Posts |
Posted - Jun 04 2006 : 5:51:53 PM
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Sue,
How sad these things are, and there is no stoping it. My Grandma always reminded me that there is a time for birth and a time for death and as sad as it is,and as hard as it is, in most cases is just part of being here. Be sad because it is, and be happy for what that person we lost has brought to our life. We missed you on the site, I'am sure you are glad to be home again, you did the right thing buy going to see your Mom.
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westernhorse51
True Blue Farmgirl
1681 Posts
michele
farmingdale
n.j.
USA
1681 Posts |
Posted - Jun 05 2006 : 08:32:33 AM
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Oh Sue, I am so very sorry. I also went through it w/ my mom, then step mom & dad. I know how hard it is but please find some comfort in knowing that when she does pass on, she'll be out of pain & w/ Jesus. Im not pushing religion on you, just trying to let you know what halped me 3 times. God bless & you are in our prayers.
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Jun 05 2006 : 09:34:15 AM
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Sue -- I am so glad that you were able to go see your mother. My dad had been in a nursing facility for several years when he was diagnosed with bone cancer. I was not able to afford to go to see him and then go back for the funeral. So I made the choice to go while he was still living. I prayed that he would recognize me when I got there. My prayer was answered because when I spoke to him he opened his eyes, smiled, and said my name. The next day when we went to visit he had lapsed into a coma and died 5 days later. It was almost like he was waiting for all children to be there together and then he would go. Although I still miss him terribly I have the wonderful memory of that last smile. Even though your trip was very sad for you I know that your memories of it will be comforting to you. Hugs to you dear friend.
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sweetpea
Farmgirl in Training
18 Posts
Kelley
Oxnard
California
USA
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Posted - Jun 05 2006 : 09:50:36 AM
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Sue, we went through this with my grandma 3 years ago and it's so hard!
Your mom and family and you are in my prayers!
I am so glad though that you got to see your mom! |
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blueroses
True Blue Farmgirl
1323 Posts
Debbie
in the Pandhandle of
Idaho
USA
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Posted - Jun 05 2006 : 10:36:23 AM
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Sue,
Glad you got to visit with your Mom and say your goodbyes. I'm sure it meant a lot to her as well as you. Sending hugs your way.
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
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Lacy
True Blue Farmgirl
114 Posts
Lacy
Dallas
Texas
114 Posts |
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LisaBee
True Blue Farmgirl
149 Posts
Lisa
Sparta
TN
USA
149 Posts |
Posted - Jun 05 2006 : 2:45:48 PM
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I hope you are holding up ok. I read your post and went and called my mom before I posted this. I am so glad you got to go and see yours...you will be able to get a lot of comfort out of that later on. We're here for you, and you are in my prayers.
Lisa
"There is no teacup too large, nor book too long."
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farmgrlchick
True Blue Farmgirl
439 Posts
Theresa
Columbus
Montana
USA
439 Posts |
Posted - Jun 05 2006 : 4:41:46 PM
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Sue Sending thoughts your way...I know these are hard times...
((((HUGS))))
Theresa |
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junebug
True Blue Farmgirl
2421 Posts
Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
2421 Posts |
Posted - Jun 06 2006 : 04:46:50 AM
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Many thanks ladies, I find much comfort in your words! My heart goes out to you all who have or are going through this hard process of life. It was SO hard saying goodbye, leaving the hospital knowing I won't see her again. But I take with me her smile, the words " I love you" and the gift of letting go. Bless you all for being here, in good times and bad, this is such a special place!
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country lawyer
True Blue Farmgirl
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Posted - Jun 06 2006 : 10:15:03 AM
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Sue, I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
"All shall be well and all shall be well and all manner of things shall be well."
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Meg
Moderator/Farmgirl True
974 Posts
Meg
Idaho
USA
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Posted - Jun 06 2006 : 8:17:38 PM
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Sue, you are in my thoughts...much farmgirl love to you and yours.
MaryJane's daughter,
Meg
megan@maryjanesfarm.org |
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sleepless reader
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
CA
USA
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Posted - Jun 06 2006 : 8:58:53 PM
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Sue, my paryers are with you. Hospice is wonderful and those poeple are angels. I'm glad you were able to visit with your mom. I will keep you in my prayers.
With love, Sharon
Life is messy. Wear your apron! |
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junebug
True Blue Farmgirl
2421 Posts
Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
2421 Posts |
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Phils Ann
True Blue Farmgirl
1095 Posts
Ann
Parsonsburg
Maryland
USA
1095 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2006 : 1:32:05 PM
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Another hug... and prayers for you all. I also can say Hospice is most comforting and loving-- all you would wish for your mother. I'm also glad you got your smile to remember.
Love,
Ann
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Aunt George
True Blue Farmgirl
1476 Posts
Georgann
Midlothian
VA
1476 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2006 : 1:58:02 PM
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Sue,
I'm so sorry about your mother. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers too.
Georgann |
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junebug
True Blue Farmgirl
2421 Posts
Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
2421 Posts |
Posted - Jun 09 2006 : 11:36:29 AM
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Thank you Aunt George, sure do appreacite it! I attended a funeral this morning, of a mother to one of my sister in laws. A beautiful service, as I sat there I couldn't help but think what my own funeral would be like, and if I was to die today would my family know of my wishes? It was a humane feeling, one to seriously consider since facing this time of life alot this year. Do any of you have your final wishes written down somewhere to be granted later on?
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