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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Me and Relationships  |
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 07:09:23 AM
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Ok, girls. Most of you know a bit about me and the messed up marriage I came out of. Since I have attempted to rejoin the dating world, I keep finding myself attracted to the same type of men and getting myself into more distructive relationships. Yesterday, I decided that I was going to spend the next year with out a realtionship or the persuit of one. I want to focus on God and all he is doing and learn to love me the way HE does. To help keep me on track, I've started a blog. Please read and support.
http://oneyearjustme.blogspot.com/
http://www.alittlebitofred.webs.com/ |
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gramadinah
True Blue Farmgirl
3557 Posts
Diana
Orofino
ID
USA
3557 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 07:49:34 AM
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Good idea you really need the time to find you again.
Diana
Farmgirl Sister #273 |
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Ingrid
True Blue Farmgirl
432 Posts
Ingrid
BC
Canada
432 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 07:56:16 AM
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Good luck in your journey to find yourself. It is difficult, and you will be lonely. In the end you will be a better person because you will have found your whole self again.
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 07:57:34 AM
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I'm proud of you, Corrine...I know where you've come from, and I know where you're going--it's REALLY important that you recognize your pattern. I had one, too at one time. After my divorce, I stayed single for some time and was fairly hesitant about dating. I started spending more time with my dog, Lily (who has now passed on) and focused on fixing up my little house, and garden and really just focused on what made ME happy. I was broke, but Lord, I was happy! And, when it was meant to be, and I believe it was, I met Justin. Wasn't at ALL lookin'.
Again, just keep that in the forefront of your mind--what you DON'T want. We all know what we want :) And remember that, in the end, you're the only one who can take care of you (and your wee ones...). They're vitally important in this equation, too.
You can do it--I know it.
Musings from our family in the Bluegrass http://sweetvioletmae.blogspot.com/ |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 08:03:43 AM
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Hey Corrine. I just went over to check out your new blog. I am the first to post there! I have saved it to my favorites list and will be checking it out. I am so proud of you for doing this. You have made the best choice you could ever make. I hope others will see it and it will make an impact on them. There sre so many women like you. My oldest daughter in one. She has always felt like she's needed a man in her life. Now she is married to a loser. He could change, but doesn;t want to. So she is the most unhappy person I have seen in a long time. I wish she could have done something like this before she jumped.
I will be praying for you. And checking in to see how you are doing. I have just made a big life change too. I started walking for my health and weel being. So this is a good thing. I am looking forward to hearing more form you.
Hugs, Kris
Happiness is simple. |
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 08:28:10 AM
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I did that Corrine after my own disastrous first marriage, it really is a good thing.
Opens your eyes and helps you regain a truer sense of self.
Merry
Farmgirl #536
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
Your life is an occasion, rise to it. Mr. Magorium |
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Merry
True Blue Farmgirl
765 Posts
Merry
Ankeny
Iowa
USA
765 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 08:34:08 AM
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I did that Corrine after my own disastrous first marriage, it really is a good thing.
Opens your eyes and helps you regain a truer sense of self.
Merry
Farmgirl #536
http://afarminmyheart.blogspot.com/
Your life is an occasion, rise to it. Mr. Magorium |
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
1333 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 09:57:06 AM
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Corrine, I could have wrote your exact post almost ten years ago. I was always feeling the need for a relationship so that I could feel validated as a woman, but I always ended up with someone who was not good to me or for me. Looking back, I didn't really know who I was. I was 1 month from getting married back in 1999 when I was 19 years old and that would have been the disaster of the century, but rather than go through with it, at the last moment, I had a God moment where He intercepted my mistake and took the veil from my eyes. Don't get me wrong, this guy wasn't necessarily a bad guy. He was a Christian and cared for me very much, but the closer we got to the wedding date, the more God showed me that the relationship was, once again, all my doing and that I had picked someone who wasn't for ME. So, I bailed. The very day that I chose to call off the marriage I got a catalog in the mail from a Bible School down in Dallas, TX that I had never even heard of and it was addressed to me. So, I called the admin. office even though I knew that the new semester was set to begin in less than two weeks. They sent me an application overnight. I overnighted it back and was accepted within one week of school beginning. So, I got a plane ticket (not easily and I fought against a lot of battles that week that would try and keep me from God's plan) and flew to Dallas with just about nothing to begin a two-year journey with God. Funny thing was, God knew me so well and my desire to be wanted by a man that He allowed me to develop a good relationship with my roommate's friend from back home. The thing was, he was still "back home" in Michigan (and no, he is not my husband). So, I had this online "relationship" for two years while in Bible college, that kept me from getting involved in a more serious relationship while going to school. I had a lot of time to focus on me and my relationship with God there. But God wasn't through with me yet. I graduated two years later in 2001 and moved back home to VA. it was then I realized that this relationship I had with the guy in Michigan was merely a distraction that God had created and, in real life, we had absolutely NOTHING in common LOL! God is so good. Anyways, at this point I realized how much more I needed God and only him for a while. So, I made a vow, like you, that it would just be me and Him for a year. During that year I got a great job as a bank teller and loved it. I spent time in His word all day when the bank was slow and was able to speak into the lives of co-workers because they saw my passion for my Lord. And then, the next summer, toward the end of my "year with God" I decided to go on a 2 month long mission trip to Kenya with an organization called Adventures in Missions. They had a program for young people who were in that "seeking" time of life like me called "Real Life" where you went on the mission field for two months, but you weren't just reaching out to others the whole time. It was 50/50 reach out and reach in. We spent half of our time journaling and digging into God's word and having lots of quiet, alone time with God. It was and still is one of the most amazing two months of my life. I grew a LOT there and became the woman I am today. I had a total paradigm shift for sure and when I got back, I just went to work again and continued trusting in the Lord. Just a couple months later I got an email from a guy I went to Bible college with (a guy who absolutely repulsed me with his crazy antics and immaturity, by the way) and found out that he was 2.5 hours north of me in DC working as a worship pastor at a church up there. We chatted over email. He came down to the valley and went hiking with me one day and now we've been married for 6.5 years and have 3 amazing children. I am living an amazing life, fully trusting in God and knowing how to be patient before Him. It's a hard lesson to learn, but it's so worth it in the end.
OK...all that was to say, "Go girl"! You are more than just a girl who needs a guy. You are a daughter of the King! Take your time with Him. Get as far away from distractions as you can and let Him show you who YOU are so that He can show you the man He made especially for YOU to meet your needs. I can't wait to see what He does in you and the places He takes you. Let Him lead and don't fear anything. I will keep up with your blog ;)
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 12:07:34 PM
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thanks, girls. i knew i could count on you. there are a lot of personal issues i have to deal with and like it or not, i'm going to have to do it alone...just me and God. there are a lot of things that God has allowed to happen that i do not understand and to be honest, i've been angry with him over them. to multiply things, i've seen my sister totaly disregard God and still get everything she wants from life (doting husband, beautiful son, house in the country). so i pushed God out, I actualy told him "I don't care what you say. I want to be happy." it didn't get me very far. now i'm trying not to ask "why?" and just ask "what do YOU want me to do?" it's not easy.
ok, so i'm rambling....thankyou for the support. i love you all.
http://www.alittlebitofred.webs.com/ |
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 2:26:36 PM
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I also added your blog to my favorite list and look foreward to reading about your journey. I think what your doing is wonderful and I wish you the best.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
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melanie47601
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Melanie
Boonville
IN
USA
1949 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 2:38:09 PM
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{{HUGS}} to you Corrine!!!! Boy have I been in your shoes and I still have times where I question myself and the things I do. There are going to be some really rough times, but the Lord and great friends can help you through that. I'm here for you whenever you need me.
Lots of hugs and prayers to you~ Melanie
Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says "Oh Crap, She's up!"
Blog~ http://wheelsarealwaysturning.blogspot.com/
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jclambert
True Blue Farmgirl
149 Posts
Judy
Stringtown
Oklahoma
USA
149 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 07:49:22 AM
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Corrine,
Good luck to you, and remember - don't settle for less than you deserve. When I decided to quit looking for a man and trying so hard to have a relationship (I went 2 years without dating anyone), my soul mate showed up. We've been married for 10 wonderful years now and I wouldn't change a thing. I truly believe God has someone for all of us. We just have to be patient and wait for them to come into our lives.
Judy
"Courage is when you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what". Atticus Finch - To Kill a Mockingbird |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 8:46:02 PM
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Praying for you Corrine!
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 9:31:25 PM
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I have been in your shoes as well, Corrine and I am so proud of you for making such a smart decision. I wish I had been as wise. I know you will do great..we are here for yoU!
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
http://www.auntjennysworld.blogspot.com/ visit my little online shop at www.auntjenny.etsy.com |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2010 : 09:31:52 AM
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Hi Corrine. How are you on your 4th day? I have been thinking about ya. I know you can do this.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
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knittinchick
True Blue Farmgirl
1854 Posts
Megan
Wisconsin
1854 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2010 : 2:00:22 PM
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Corrine, you're in my prayers!
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
At heart, I am both a sassy city girl and a down-home country gal. |
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
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Cherime
True Blue Farmgirl
1222 Posts
Cherime
Wasilla
Alaska
USA
1222 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2010 : 3:18:05 PM
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I thought I had to have someone and after being married to my first husband for 20 long and unhappy years, I left and got together with my best male friend. We had a blessed 20 years before he died. At this time in my life I am more than content with the Lord and deepening my relationship with him. I get along by myself just fine. Between work and the little faith based non-profit that I work with, I have more than enough to do. Now I am not even in the market for another relationship. If God wants me to marry again, He is going to have to beat me over the head with the guy. I like being able to do what I feel He is calling me to do without having to worry about dinner. So get under His wing and bask in His love.
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Aug 18 2010 : 3:53:19 PM
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Corrine:
Nice blog. Know that you will be in my prayers.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
1333 Posts |
Posted - Aug 18 2010 : 7:40:55 PM
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I was thinking of you today! Off to your blog to check out your progress....
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - Aug 19 2010 : 01:17:11 AM
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Great idea.
I'll check out your blog but haven't yet.
Just wanted to say, my own religion actually advocates this and really really advises for all young people do to this-to really find themselves first and work on their own selves before even thinking about a relationship with the opposite sex. I must say it worked very well for my husband and I.
As for your sister, that reminds me of a scripture-I don't have my Bible by my side, but paraphrasing there is a scripture where one of the people in the Bible is asking God why it seems like the wicked prosper. Maybe look and see if you can find it, that account really helps me often when I think others who aren't doing anything christian seem to be prospering. In reality they aren't, believe me they aren't! Time and again I've been just a slight bit jealous of this person or that, because on the outside it looks like they are prospering then on further closer examination they are in a situation I would not wish on my worst enemy and I have to thank God for the husband/mate I have!
BTW, remember that not all bad things that happen to us is because of God, often it's our own choices that land us where we are. :( Believe me I've made plenty of my own bad choices! EEK!
Also remember a key main point of the Bible is the glorification of God......all things for God's glory you know, and for the world to recognize he is God and we can not live a successful life with out him. So often times in the end a lot of this bad stuff we go through, surely teaches us with out God we can do nothing! As a scripture says Man can not even direct his own step!
*hugs* This year can only benefit you!
http://www.heathersprairie.blogspot.com |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22944 Posts
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violetrose
True Blue Farmgirl
960 Posts
Ruth
Epworth
GA
USA
960 Posts |
Posted - Aug 23 2010 : 6:04:08 PM
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Corrine, Your journey with the Lord will be amazing. Please keep a journal. Well, I guess your "blog" is a journal.
Know that you will be in our prayers.
As far as finding a church goes, just keep on looking till you find the right one. I myself was on a journey several years ago - when I walked in to the church I stayed at, I felt like I was at "home"! It was a very large church too, which I was not used to.
Where are you in North Carolina?
Hugs and Prayers,
Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Aug 23 2010 : 9:51:17 PM
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thanks, alee.
heather, i know that i need reminded of a few and apreciate your input. i know that many issues in life are my own making and that i am accountable for even my reactions to what someone else has done. i didn't make this situation, but in ignorance and frustration i have made it worse.
ruth, the best church i have ever been a member of is mega church in Rogers AR. i really didn't want to go the first time. actualy when i walked through the door that morning it was all i could do not to panic and run (i was just a few months out of my traumatic experience and all those people terrified me), but God did something amazing durring that very first service and i knew it was my church.
i'm not in NC anymore, i just havent ever updated my profile. i've moved twice in the past few years. right now, i am in miami. i know, its not a place a country girl needs to be, but i really wanted to go to this school. chuches are difficult to find here. i was going to a baptist church when i first got here, but i just didn't belong. there were the together people helping the homeless...the halfway together person (me) didn't have anywhere to go.
ok, so...i have rambled a bit. now i am going to bed. love you all.
http://www.alittlebitofred.webs.com/ |
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Aug 24 2010 : 12:11:57 AM
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Corrine, I just wanted to say that I am a member of a very tiny church and am pretty happy with the church beliefs even if not all the members. I don't believe or completely agree with every single thing, but it is the best fit for me. If you'd like to check out a church that is similar to but not the same as the baptists you could look into it. I am a seventh day adventist and there should be a church in miami or really close. They have several in florida. I like that they advocate for the self sufficient and homestead type lifestyle. I also like that they are very bible centered and will not consider much that is not based on the bible. They are usually very friendly and try to do a lot of community work if you're into that. I'm too shy for the outreach stuff, but I like to cook for the bible study groups and organize the stuff for the needy, so I stay in the background and do more of the office type work for them. Most of the people I've met with are very open minded and accepting of my personal beliefs and differences with the church.
Just a thought. I'm in no way tryin to tell you what you should do, just mentioning what I have done.
Hope it helps.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: Me and Relationships |
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Me and Relationships
