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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Need some prayers and advice!  |
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Sue Feely
True Blue Farmgirl
1044 Posts
Sue
Buffalo
New York
USA
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 Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 06:25:22 AM
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I am turning to my farmgirl friends on this, I am so upset and embarassed almost even to tell all of you but here goes:
Elevan years ago, we had a wonderful girl exchange student from Austria, through the years we have keep in touch. She is visiting the states now and was scheduled to visit us August 23-August 28. I
talked to her on facebook this morning and she has had a change in plans, she is coming here on August 14, yes in three days!
Ladies, out house is such a mess, my husband is somewhat of a hoarder, we are batteling mice and the plumbing in the shower does not work!
I am disabled and can not get things done very fast, I have been painting, we thougt we had more time to get ready, but now, it feels like a hopeless case, I just feel like throwing up, I called my husband at work, and all he said was well we'll just have to get moving!
She is going to stay in my room, which is not a problem, but the piles of stuff everywhere, including mouse droppings, is most unbearable! I can send her to my daughters house a few blocks away to shower but that is terrible, I think!
I need some prayers and some encouragement please!
Thanks my friends,
Sue Feely |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22944 Posts
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Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 06:45:26 AM
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Oh Sue! That is such a tough situation. I wish I could come out and help you!
Is there anyway to kind of make an apartment of cleared out/cleaned up area in the house? Even if it's just the living room and kitchen?
I lived in a house that was infested with mice and it was horrible- so I have the greatest sympathy for you.
Is your husband okay with cleaning out some of the hoarded items?
Another idea is to (and this would be very hard for me, so please understand I don't suggest this lightly) talk to your church and explain that things are beyond your control and you need help. Your church might be able to assist you in getting your house back together. Even if it is after your friend visits- you deserve a house that is safe and clean!
Oh and I also recommend having your vacuum at the ready and vacuum everything as you move it so you get the mouse droppings up. Have you used mouse poison to try to get rid of the infestation? It was the only thing that worked for us. I had to be very careful that my dog and Nora did not get exposed but it really helped.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 07:09:25 AM
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Sue, I wish you had more time too. But I am sure this girl must love you both so much to want to come so much. What will she be doing while here? And how long will she be staying? Maybe she could help. Has it been this way for a long time? I have a friend who's husband finally admitted he could possible be a hoarder after watching a show on tv. So that's a good first step. My parents were starting to become that way. I sure hope you can get some help quick. I'd do what Alee suggested. Or family too. I am praying that ya'll get through this.
Hugs, Kris
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Mama Jewel
True Blue Farmgirl
435 Posts
Jewel
Sweet Peas Farmette,
Bend, OR
USA
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Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 07:35:45 AM
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Aww, Sue. I agree with Alee; you deserve a safe place to live. I would just tell the exchange student that you're not in the position to be able to have overnight company due to some "house repairs" that need to be made, but that she can either stay at your daughter's (which is really sweet of your daughter to help) or you could make her a reservation. If I were planning a trip somewhere, and my friend said that she was having home repairs done, I would totally understand. Then you could meet at restaurants & parks to enjoy her company. In the meantime, yes, please contact a pest control company for your safety. You might also tell your husband that you plan on boxing up all the items & setting them out to be hauled away by the garbage service, due to the infestation. That might make for more urgency in him to either take care of the items or see them gone. My prayers are with you.
Farm Girl Sister #1683 Living Simply & Naturally on our lil Sweet Peas Farmette
"Do Everything in Love." 1 Cor 14
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
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Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 08:25:05 AM
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I totally agree with everything Alee said, especially the part about having some church friends or other friends come and make a day of getting the house safe for not only your friend, but also yourselves. I also think it would be a hard thing for me to do (ask for help). I have a hard enough time with the fact that I am not an organizer whatsoever and there are times when the clutter feels a little out of control and I feel I should have someone who is gifted in organizing and decluttering to come help me with all that. But I always talk myself out of it because I don't want people to know that I am that disorganized. For some reason I feel that other moms with kids and hobbies like me somehow have perfectly clean and tidy homes, but I know in my heart that it is not the case. I just recently told my pastor's wife (who happens to be an organiza-a-holic) that I am at my wits end most days with the mess in my house (mostly from the three little boys running around and terrorizing it all day) and she offered to come over and help me get a handle on it. And she was very gracious to me and didn't make me feel like I was a failure for not having a perfect house. She admires the gifts God has given me and keeping house is just not one of them. That's her gift and she doesn't have a lot of the gifts that I have.
Anyways, all of that is to say, don't be afraid to ask someone who is gifted with clean and tidy to help you get a handle on things. If you know someone like that, just ask and maybe you and that person and a couple friends can tackle it in the next couple days, or at least enough of it to make a safe place for your friend. If I was anywhere near you I would totally help out as much as I could.
(((HUGS))) It's going to be OK. Like someone else said, if this friend is such a close friend she will be understanding. Just do what you can and don't fret.
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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Bonnie Ellis
True Blue Farmgirl
2474 Posts
Bonnie
Minneapolis
Minnesota
USA
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Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 7:52:15 PM
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Sue. I have health issues too. Take a deep breath and make a quick list of the things that bother you the most. Do them first. Enlist help from friends, church, husband, kids, anyone. Do what you can and focus on your guest. Have fun with her. You'll feel better not feeling so stressed. You'll be a gracious hostess. Life happens. Bonnie
grandmother and orphan farmgirl |
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Aug 11 2010 : 9:40:39 PM
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I've noticed that there are several girls from new york on the forum. I am wonderin if a farmgirl rescue could be organized? Is there a chapter close to buffalo? I'm quite a few states away, so I don't really know the area or am able to help. I so wish I was. I like helpin others, just don't get a lot of time out of the house to do much of it. If I can do anything from my end let me know.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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Keeper of the Past
True Blue Farmgirl
925 Posts
Sarita
Battle Creek
Michigan
USA
925 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 04:20:55 AM
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Sue, I would just be honest with her and tell her that the shower is not working and that you don't feel like you can entertain guest in your house right now but you would love to meet with her at a public place for a meal or a visit. I am sorry about your situation and wish I lived nearer to help.
I would just tell your husband that it is not healthy to have the mice in the house and the hoarding has to stop. Set a schedule of cleaning one room at a time and give yourself so many days to get it done, maybe your family would help.
I have some in laws that live out of state that thought when they came back to visit that my home was a bed and breakfast. I was not in good health and had autoimmune problems. I had to just tell them that I didn't feel up to entertaining house guests. I am sorry to say this but I felt like my home and I was being used to make their vacation plans cheap...for them.
Hope you can find peace...it will be OK.
Sarita
www.coffmanspinningcfarm.blogspot.com
"The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you."
"A happy heart makes the face cheerful..." Proverbs 15:13
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Sue Feely
True Blue Farmgirl
1044 Posts
Sue
Buffalo
New York
USA
1044 Posts |
Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 05:49:16 AM
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I am so grateful for all your posts and comments! What a wonderful group of women!
After my initial shock and about 15 minutes of "why me" I sat down with my cup of tea and made a list of what has to be done in the next three days and broke the work into the three days. Now it seems doable (sp?)!
My husband finished the room I was painting and we collected boxes and went to work. We were actually going to participate in a street garage sale on my daughters street nearby, my husand has had a good talking to by me recently about his "stuff". Our plan is to move south in just less than 2 years so I have been already weeding things out for the past 2 months!
As far as the mice, it may be under control, have not seen any in the past 1 1/2 days.
Just wanted to thank everyone and update you as to what is going on!
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 06:45:51 AM
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Sue, that sounds like a good plan. It's not so much when it's broken up like you have done. And good for your hubby! It takes a long time to get rid of so much. But you can do it! Take lots of breaks.
Kris
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
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Posted - Aug 12 2010 : 07:04:58 AM
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good luck, sue. like alee said, you deserve a clean, safe place to live just as much as you want to give your guest a clean, safe place. this house guest may be the element that has gotten you moving, but you need to remember that you ultimately are doing this for you and your husband. take it easy on yourself and enjoy each new found area of peace as you clean. i know you will get this done and soon feel at rest in your own home.
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Sue Feely
True Blue Farmgirl
1044 Posts
Sue
Buffalo
New York
USA
1044 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 6:54:10 PM
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Update on this - Thursday evening I received an e-mail from Flitzi stating that she could not come visit us this Saturday as she wanted to reschedule fromthe orginal Monday 23rd, because it would cost more than $400 to change all of her flights, we thought this may happen! This news is really great because now we have over a week more to get ready for her visit!
Things are going very well on the homefront (no mouse sitings in over 2 days, poison used, sorry girls, had to do it). I have redone my schedule for getting things ready and spread it over the next 10 days or so instead of only 3!
Thanking you all for the love and support and ideas!
Sue |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22944 Posts
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Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 8:44:13 PM
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Sue- that is super great news! I am so glad that the mouse infestation seems to be getting under control AND that you will have more time! I know that is a HUGE weight off your shoulders! I know I would have been frantic! *lots of hugs* And it's great to hear that your husband is on board too with the downsizing! That is great news!
*hugs*
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
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Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 10:09:19 PM
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I am glad this worked out for you! I know hoardin is a major problem. I am fightin my own version with reciepts and papers. I keep wantin to keep everything just in case. Why would I need to keep a reciept for a candy bar I bought at the gas station months ago? I'm nearly through all of my pile, but it's hard to break the habit.
As for the mice, we live in the country and I convinced my DH to let me have 2 cats by sittin for a friends cats who were good mousers. After 5 little carcasses by the front door in 3 days he told me to locate 2 free kittens and figure out how to make them mousers. I got really lucky and the 2 we got love to catch mice and make mouse tea in their water bowl! LOL! At least that's easy to clean up. Toss it out the door and stick the bowl in the pile of dishes for my girls to do. HA! HA! They are never told why the cats water bowl needs washed, they'd never touch it if they knew!
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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Mama Jewel
True Blue Farmgirl
435 Posts
Jewel
Sweet Peas Farmette,
Bend, OR
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 1:43:43 PM
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Sue, that's fantastic!! So glad to know that no more mice & all the stuff is getting settled away. It's so freeing!! Now when your friend visits, it will be one that you'll be able to focus on & enjoy in every way. Whoo hoo!!
Farm Girl Sister #1683 Living Simply & Naturally on our lil Sweet Peas Farmette
"Do Everything in Love." 1 Cor 14
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violetrose
True Blue Farmgirl
960 Posts
Ruth
Epworth
GA
USA
960 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 3:06:48 PM
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Hi Sue, I just found this thread - bless your heart. I'm glad the major crisis is over and that things are under control. Wish I lived closer - cause I'd come give you a hand.
Hugs, Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 8:51:57 PM
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Prayers sent!
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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