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Family Matters:  Good Friend's lost baby...such a sad day  |
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2875 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
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 Posted - Aug 04 2010 : 7:39:29 PM
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Oh Jonni!! I did not know she was that far along! Nature knows what is best, & I truly believe that God knows......
I will keep you& Jus,(as cherished friends) & Mama & Papa in thoughts & prayers. I also have something to email you...
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
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Posted - Aug 04 2010 : 8:42:41 PM
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| So sorry, Jonni. I'll be thinking of them. |
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katrina
True Blue Farmgirl
63 Posts
Katrina
The Dalles
Oregon
USA
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Lessie Louise
True Blue Farmgirl
1406 Posts
Carol
PECULIAR
MO
USA
1406 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2010 : 06:26:28 AM
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I am sorry for your friends, I'll keep them in my thoughts, Carol
Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit.
Wisdom is not putting them in a fruit salad!
Farmgirl #680! |
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
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Posted - Aug 05 2010 : 09:20:12 AM
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I'm so sorry. I hope they are able to move on and try agian.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2010 : 09:57:25 AM
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That's so sad.
Sorry I';m late on this
Most likely wasn't meant to be and may have been worse off than expected.
I'm sure the child would have been loved unconditionally. But perhaps it was jsut too much for this tiny life.
And do know, as with my deceased sister and our friend's children, Downe's often have heart problems. This one may have been unable to have been detected fron in eutero.
Again. Prayes go out for the couple and you too for being a good friend. |
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KathyC
True Blue Farmgirl
583 Posts
Kathy
Gastonia
NC
USA
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Posted - Aug 05 2010 : 4:29:17 PM
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Jonni,
I am so sorry for your friend. This is such a difficult thing for them to go through. Our first child died during birth, complications of labor that went undiagnosed. Elizabeth weight 10 pounds and was 24 inches long, nothing wrong with her. All my hopes and dreams, it seemed like my whole life just ended so suddenly. People would say I know how you feel - most of them has no idea how I felt and I knew that.
People would say you can try again or I'm sure y'all will have other children. I felt that even if we did, they could not and would not replace Elizabeth. I know they were just trying to help but it really didn't. Just being there and letting me talk is what helped the most. I had a really hard time being around babies that would have been the age of Elizabeth for quite awhile. If I went to the market and parents were yelling at their children I could not stand it, I left my groceries more that once and walked out in tears. I would read stories in the news about people killing their new born babies, throwing them in the trash, or down the steps and I would wonder why can these people that don't want children have them and my husband and I that wanted her so badly could not. We did have another child just 13 months later, she was happy and healthy but when I went to the hospital to deliver I had a really hard time- been that far before only to come home empty handed.
Just be there for her and listen to her or even just sit quietly with her.
When our daughter was 2 we were hit head on by a drunk driver, the doctor said because of my injuries I probably could not get pregnant and if I did I would not be able to carry the baby. The doctor was right, I had 3 miscarriages.
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Aug 05 2010 : 7:45:49 PM
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CJ:
Your Jeremy is very handsome. His smile is beautiful.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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Roxy7
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Robin
Denver
CO
USA
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Posted - Aug 07 2010 : 08:37:35 AM
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13618 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - Aug 09 2010 : 06:36:12 AM
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Thank you all so very much...Kathy, that's what I've been wondering...as a friend, it's difficult to know what to say/do because you simply want to "fix it" and I know that I can't. Listening is the best thing...and again, I'll take my cues from her.
I can't imagine going to the hospital with the hopes and dreams for your child and leaving empty handed--it would devastate me. And yet, I know, like in your case, it happens more than we'd like to admit. Childbirth, though natural, really is traumatic and can be dangerous for both mother AND child...I can't imagine.
I wondered a lot this week if it would be too much for them to be around our Violet, so I'm glad you mentioned that it was difficult for you, Kathy...I would NEVER want to make her feel uncomfortable, or moreover, despondent, so I think we will just "play it by ear" and see what she needs from us.
Thank you all, so much, again for your words of support and kindness. She and Darren will need all the love they can get, even from afar.
Musings from our family in the Bluegrass http://sweetvioletmae.blogspot.com/ |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
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Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 10:27:16 PM
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My mom worked with Down Syndrome kids a lot and she thought they were the neatest kids ever. They loved God so much and were always so sweet and caring. They glowed with a beautiful light! I'll be praying for your friends Jonni. I'm sure they were had picked by the lord to take care of this sweet baby and to love her like no other parent could.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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Good Friend's lost baby...such a sad day
