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Across the Fence:  Nora is going away for a week...  |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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 Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 11:17:00 AM
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The daycare that we have been using for Nora had an "incident" yesterday at that same time Doug picked Nora up. Nora was playing in the one area you can't see from the door and the childcare provider went back to get Nora for Doug.
Doug heard one of the kids being sassy and then a *slap* then right after that a louder *slap*. Then a kid crying "Ow my face! My Face! I want my mommy!!" When the childcare provider came back with Nora, Doug asked what had happened. The gal said "Oh that other girl slapped me so I slapped her back."
WHAT?! Doug was furious but played it cool. He got Nora (not the slapping victim) out of there and we are NOT taking her back! My sister is going to take her for this week so I can get it set up for her to go to her preschool. *sigh*
What a mess and so disappointing. I really like the owner (who was not there at the time) but I can't, just can't take a risk that someone would abuse my child.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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emsmommy5
True Blue Farmgirl
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Angie
Buckley
WA
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 11:26:44 AM
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How scarey. I'd would have pulled her out immediately too. I would also write a letter or talk to the owner and let her know why I was pulling her out because of what happened. That kind of behavior is opening the owner up to huge liability.
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Karrieann
True Blue Farmgirl
1900 Posts
Karrieann
Northeast
Georgia
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 11:32:53 AM
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oh gosh Alee! Glad Doug played his cool... and kudos for you both to stand for Nora. .. I would also send a letter to the state in regards to that daycare!
Karrieann ~ Farmgirl Sister #766 (29 Sept 2009)
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graciegreeneyes
True Blue Farmgirl
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Amy Grace
Rosalia
WA
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 11:46:51 AM
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I would let the owner know first - she/he may not be aware that this behavior is going on, the fact that the owner wasn't there when this happened could point to that. I don't blame you a bit for pulling Nora out though - would have done the same thing.
Amy Grace
Farmgirl #224
"use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without"
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 2:24:28 PM
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I would have called the police and stayed til they got there, so to tell them exactly what I heard and what was said to me, then I would have taken my child out, and found another school for her. If it had been my child slapped, it would have taken an act of God to stop me from beating that women within an inch of her life, this makes me soooooooooo very angry, how dare she slap a child...
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
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kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 2:32:52 PM
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Alee, that is so sad. I'm so glad you won't take her back there again. I had to leave my kids once at a lady's daycare in her home. That lasted 2 days. I quit my job. I said I would never take my kids to a daycare. And I never had to. You just never know what goes on there. And the kids have no voice. I'm glad your sister is there to take her.
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 4:52:08 PM
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Alee:
I'm so sorry to hear that. Nora will be happy with her Aunt. Hugs.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22937 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 5:01:43 PM
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Thanks ladies! At this point we have to step back and divorce ourself from the situation. Nora says she has never been hit/spanked etc there so we are confident that Nora never suffered. I am so thankful for that. First thing tomorrow morning I need to call the Preschool that we have talked to about taking Nora and see if they will accept a mid-cycle addition. I am not sure that they will. If they can't then we need to find interim childcare until August.
The thing that is really scary is that Nora has allergies that can cause mood/rage issues. She is doing great and hasn't had one for a long time. But what if she had had one when that lady was there?! And if she is willing to slap a child, what else is she willing to do?
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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Betty J.
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Betty
Pasco
WA
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 5:44:25 PM
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It sounds to me as though this lady needs a good talking to and maybe removal from the care of these children. There is never a reason to slap a child, though some are really too young to reason with. You can always remove a child from a situation though.
I am sorry that this had to happen to you, Alee. Day care is such a precious thing these days.
Betty in Pasco
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
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Hannah
Washington
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 6:20:20 PM
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So sorry this happened to you Alee!
Glad you caught it in time.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
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Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 7:02:50 PM
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That's awful :(
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 8:20:32 PM
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Oh my gosh!!! I sure hope that gal never works with children again!! I do full time daycare in my home and I do know that it is very hard to find someone you can trust to watch your precious children. That is why I originally, many years ago started doing daycare in the first place..couldn't bear to leave my own boys in daycare. I have done daycare off and on ever since. iMy youngest kids are teenagers now and I feel like I still am needed as a daycare provider in our area. I wish you were closer,I would love to care for little Nora.
I hope it all works out well. YOu guys sure did the right thing..no second chances in that case!!
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2875 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
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Posted - Jul 11 2010 : 9:01:53 PM
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
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Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2010 : 05:14:30 AM
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That just kills me...slap a child back to teach them not to slap. It reminds me of my friend who's son was hitting another child. She went over to him and started hitting him and saying "you don't hit". I have never hit my children and they have grown into wonderful and caring adults.
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2010 : 06:14:12 AM
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I agree! I wish I could have Aunt Jenny watch Nora too!
We never discipline in anger. I think it's the worst thing you can do. Sometimes Nora has to go sit in time out while mommy cools off but slapping is so aggressive! I know there are lots of parenting styles and that's good because not every child fits with one method- but I don't think slapping should be any part of any parenting style.
I have heard the child who go hit is a bit of a spitfire- but that doesn't excuse the daycare worker's behavior. Slapping in anger only taught that child that if she pushes the right buttons you can make adults lose their temper. Can you imagine what she is going to do with that "lesson" as a teenager?
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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sherrye
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sherry
bend in the high desert
oregon
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2010 : 08:08:24 AM
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NO ONE should touch your child in a discipline way. that job was given to you and doug. so glad you are on top of things. i must say that to protect other kids i would have turned her in. had some one come talk with the day care folks. its wonderful that you have family close to help with nora. i know what a fine parent you are just by your many loving posts. heres hoping you find a wonderful place for her to go. happy days sherrye
the learn as we go silk purse farm
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22937 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2010 : 08:18:29 AM
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Well the Preschool we had toured is AWESOME and willing to let her come in mid cycle instead of having us wait for the next session... Thank GOD! We paid the down payment today and will pay the rest when we bring her on Monday. I have gotten early out time at work for the first week so now we are just scrambling to get everything else lined up!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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melanie47601
True Blue Farmgirl
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Melanie
Boonville
IN
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2010 : 3:10:09 PM
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That is awful Alee! My kids came out of daycare for a similar reason. Except it was the owner and what I saw picking my kids up was verbal abuse. I had heard allegations of physical abuse. My kids and my nieces and nephews were always complaining about her and her son. And when I walked in on it, I knew then what they were telling me was right and it wasn't just kids not wanting to go to daycare. I picked them up that day and they never went back.
It's nice that your sister can help you out. And I'm sure Nora will love hanging out with her aunt for a week.
Melanie
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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