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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  In Need of Farmgirl SupportToday  |
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beekeepersgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1423 Posts
Luanne
Cresco
PA
USA
1423 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 05:15:00 AM
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Hi farmgirls -
I have been dating a wonderful man for about 2-1/2 years. For the past year his health has been steadily declining (forgot to mention -I'm 55 and he's 62, so we're not kids). This weekend was the worst yet. He has pain in his lungs, coughs constantly, is short of breath with even a little exertion, is too tired to do anything but sit and watch TV or sleep in the chair. He can't even sleep lying down because of the cough. He absolutely refuses to go to a doctor.
I love this man with all my heart, and I am so afraid of losing him. I'm at my wits end, and I don't know what to do or say any more.
Any advice along with your prayers would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Luanne
beekeepersgirl #691
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
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Roxy7
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Robin
Denver
CO
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 06:26:52 AM
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| Prayers sent. Maybe you need to be really upfront about it. SOmething like tell him you dont want to watch him die and he needs to see a Dr. I know of folks who develop asthma as adults and simple meds can help. Is he a smoker? |
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beekeepersgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1423 Posts
Luanne
Cresco
PA
USA
1423 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 06:30:36 AM
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Hi Robin -
Thanks for the prayers - I really appreciate it.
He was a smoker, but quit 20+ years ago. I have said everything I can possibly think of to him and he just says he doesn't believe in or trust doctors. A year or so ago his mother almost died from a doctor who incorrectly prescribed medicine for her - so he has no use for the medical profession.
Luanne
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
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Faransgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
895 Posts
Beth
Houston
Texas
USA
895 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 08:23:34 AM
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You can't make decisions for him. All you can really do is tell him how you feel, then make a decision as to what is best for you. I know that sounds selfish but we can't make other people do what we want. Just be very open and up front about how you feel. Let him decide what he wants to do then do what is best for you.
Farmgirl Sister 572
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Ingrid
True Blue Farmgirl
432 Posts
Ingrid
BC
Canada
432 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 08:44:16 AM
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What about going to a Naturapath doctor? Maybe he might feel more comfortable.
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
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beekeepersgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1423 Posts
Luanne
Cresco
PA
USA
1423 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 08:45:20 AM
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I never heard of Naturapath, but maybe I can find out something about it on-line.
Thanks!
Luanne
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 2:29:32 PM
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Does he have children who can talk to him? I think I would say (I know you hate doctors but I can't keep watching you and not be upset, so please for me go to the doctors..I will go with you.) Saying a prayer for both of you.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 4:27:17 PM
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Luann:
I will keep you and your hubby in my prayers.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 6:01:24 PM
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Prayers are with you Luanne!!
Hugs,
Channah
If you can dream it, and if you are willing to put forth the work and effort, you can have anything you envision. |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13646 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13646 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2010 : 6:28:20 PM
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Luanne,
My dad was that way and it was difficult. Other farmgirls have pretty much said it . . . you can't MAKE him do anything, but you can let him know what you feel and that you love him and don't to lose him.
I will be praying . . . tough situation!!
CJ
...from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
From my Heart - www.fromacelticheart.blogspot.com
From my Hands - www.cjscreations-ceejay.blogspot.com |
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beekeepersgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1423 Posts
Luanne
Cresco
PA
USA
1423 Posts |
Posted - Feb 02 2010 : 04:25:16 AM
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Thanks everybody - I really appreciate hearing from you. He does have a daughter, and I have thought of calling her. I don't know if that would make things better or worse, but she should know how ill her father is.
Luanne
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
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prayin granny
True Blue Farmgirl
1874 Posts
Linda
Kansas
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Posted - Feb 05 2010 : 06:24:50 AM
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Luanne, Praying for you. My dad was the same. Honestly, I am somewhat the same myself. And I worked in the medical field my entire adult life. I think let his daughter know as well. Share your thoughts with him, but, ultimately it is his decision. A naturopath and alternative medicines use natural healing methods, less of all the drug companies. He just may be resistant to all of it though. Take care! Linda
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 05 2010 : 07:58:50 AM
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You can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink. My Dad was the same way, God rest his soul. You just have to tell him how you feel, it may be something like pneumonia which can be fixed. My sister and I "made" my Dad go to the Dr. so maybe calling his daughter will help.
Prayers out to you and your mate.
Why not go out on a limb, that's where all the fruit is! "Mark Twain"
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts |
Posted - Feb 05 2010 : 10:01:00 AM
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Luanne, praying for you and your friend. I hope that he's feeling better soon.
Farmgirl Sister #25
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