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Across the Fence:  Irritating problem  |
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
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 Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 03:03:21 AM
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| I live in town, and lately I've been having a problem with my neighbors' "friends" parking in front of my driveway. Sometimes it's almost impossible for me to get out because of the way they park (they're all young people). Tonight there was an SUV blocking half my driveway. So I called the police. I didn't know what else to do. The officer came by and talked to the "kid" who had parked there. He said if it happens again to just call the police. There's only two neighbors on my street who are the source of this trouble and I know my other neighbors don't like it either. I don't like involving the police but these kids are just so oblivious. What if I'd had an emergency and couldn't get out of my driveway? These two neighbors are both single mothers who drink and drive--I wish I could be friends with them but they set such a bad example for their kids that I avoid them. I watched my neighbor drive home at midnight (no headlights) and park in front of her house and stagger up to the door. I know they're struggling to make ends meet, but really--I don't have kids but if I did, I wouldn't drink around them. And these kids are teenagers so I'm sure the mothers are supplying liquor for them when they have parties. I try to get along with all my neighors and generally have good relations with them but I'm tired of putting up with this crap. What's a farmgirl at heart to do when her neighbors are so inconsiderate? |
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Especially For You
True Blue Farmgirl
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Tina
Watkinsville
GA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 05:19:27 AM
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Is there a husband in the pic? I would make a quick call to DFACS. I think the whole family needs help. Especially if she is buying beer and stuff for minors. I have a low tolerence for that.
Tina
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 05:28:41 AM
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If it had been an emergency, I probably would have (accitendally) smashed into the vehicle and kept going...and worry about apologizing later!
And a bad family unit is no excuse for alienating other neighbors and bad form with no regard for others. |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 05:34:43 AM
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Glad the cops understand even tho it doesn't solve your problem
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Stacy K.
Farmgirl at Heart
8 Posts
Stacy
temple
PA
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 05:45:10 AM
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| Love goes a long way farmgirl. If it is at all possible to have her over for a chat and some tea... maybe asking her if she needs anything... that it looks like life is tough tying to raise kids on her own. Even though you don't have children you can let her know that you care and know mothering is hard. Maybe just opening those doors might just get her to care a bit more about her neighbors... and sometimes seeing that you care and are watching might just be enough of an encouragement someday. My momma was one of those kind of mommas. I left to live with my grandma so I would have the mentoring I needed to grow into the woman I am today. Neighbors did reach out and it did help her to seek help. Hope this helps. |
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Lessie Louise
True Blue Farmgirl
1406 Posts
Carol
PECULIAR
MO
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 06:22:46 AM
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I agree with Stacy. I have befriended girls like this, but it can backfire also. We just never know when we might make a diffrence in some one's life, or just set a good example. These girl's probley need a friend, and some one to show a little maturity. A lot of these kids have never had anyone who was nice to them with strings attached. Good luck, Carol
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peapicker
True Blue Farmgirl
716 Posts
texas
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 06:54:44 AM
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We used to deal with that kind of stuff all the time. We lived on a major road with a small neighbord around us. Most of the time we would talk to whoever was playing the very loud music or parking in front of the driveway and they wuold usually take care of it. We always asked nicely and firmly. However we did call the cops a couple of times when the party next door got way too loud. Hey, if you ask them and then they still ignore you there is no sense in loosing sleep and making yourself miserable over feeling out of control of your own property. My husband is a great people person so he always made friends with the kids and most of the neighbors. Sometimes they got a little irritated but it didn't last long.I would just let them know if they have an emergency or need real help your are there, but you do expect respect for your property. It can really be touchy for some. Not all neighbors are willing to even try, so I guess its just a trial and error thing. I hope you get some peace soon, because I know how it can really effect me when I feel like I'm pushed into a corner.
Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.
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knitnpickinatune
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Sherrie
Gardena
California
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 08:13:54 AM
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We have a neighbor like that too-his macho buddies will block the driveway or park their truck in the middle of the street to go have an hour long chat. This neighbor also flips cars illegally (we believe) and the guy is a pain in the rear. No use talkin to him cause he's one of those that is always right in his own mind. Good for you getting the police involved-and you might want to tell them about your drunken driving neighbor-you could prevent her from hurting someone or worse. Oddly enough,our local news is doing a series on women who seem well off but have a drinking problem. My mom invited trouble all the time by trying to help druggies & drunks-I stay away from them.
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 08:56:50 AM
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Sometimes people need a little help in seeing a problem. Perhaps you could ask for the police to do more patrols in your area at a certain time if her habits are pretty regular? Let them know you suspect your neighbor of drinking and driving and you are worried about public safety. I know a lot of people don't like to report on others, but lately we have had a lot of tragedies in our area because of drinking and driving. I always wonder if someone had gotten involved earlier- could a life have been saved?
Alee
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knitnpickinatune
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Sherrie
Gardena
California
USA
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DaisyFarm
True Blue Farmgirl
1646 Posts
Diane
Victoria
BC
Canada
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 5:40:57 PM
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I too totally agree with Alee. I have three family members in emerg. services, so I hear the stories. I have zero tolerance for drinking and driving and would report anyone in a heartbeat! The only love I have in these situations is for the families that are victims.
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 6:03:29 PM
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Do you know any officers personaly? If so maybe they would come camp out at your house and when the problems show up, he/she could go talk to them. I would be careful getting involved with these people other wise, it could be very dangerous. Sometimes people with alcohol and /or drug problems will turn on you if you offer help.
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
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Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 6:45:31 PM
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This woman knows she has a problem--it's the reason her husband left her. the other lady I don't know very well cause she's only been living there about a year. I've tried being nice to the first lady--I listened to her when she had to put her cat to sleep. But then she got a dog, a beagle, who was always "accidentally" getting loose and running everywhere. He wouldn't go to her but he'd come to me. Finally, one day he got loose and she was driving around looking for him--and accidentally ran over him. Believe it or not, she adopted another dog--he's still alive, so far. She lets him run as well but he doesn't go very far or very often. I once reported her for leaving the beagle tied outside in freezing weather--a guy from the animal shelter drove past her house to check on it but he didn't do anything. I think it's because her ex-husband was a prominet figure in local government till we got a new mayor. I don't even know if he's still in the area. In short, this woman tries my patience, severely. I think she'd going to have to hit rock bottom--whatever that may be--before she wakes up and realizes how messed up her life is. We all make messes in our lives, but usually we learn from them. As for the other woman--she seems even more irresponsible than the first one, if that's possible. She had a dog too and let it run everywhere--I finally tied it to her lamppost with a long training leash and suggested that she might TAKE THE DOG FOR A WALK once in a while--she tried to get me to take the dog. i was going to, but then I found the stray kitten and I knew I couldn't bring a young, high-spirited dog into my life with my geriatric boxer and trying to keep him and the kitten separated (he hates cats). So she got rid of the dog. I tell you, I'm ready to FLUSH these people. My other neighbors are all a lot more responsible and a lot nicer. Oh , and this woman told me that the dog was smarter than she was. It's hopeless, isn't it?
anyhoo--tomorrow's Thanksgiving so I'm going to just be grateful that my family members, for all the times we've gotten on each other's nerves, are still a lot better off than some people. And for all the problems I've had with depression and finding the right medicines--I have a dog who loves me and everyone who meets him loves him as well. and I still believe in God and hope that He believes in me. So Happy Thanksgiving to all the Farmgirls for helping to keep me in balance when life seems crazy--you really do make a difference in my life, each and every one of you. God bless and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! |
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