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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  What next?!?!  |
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kmbrown
True Blue Farmgirl
459 Posts
Misty
Waynesboro
Pennsylvania
USA
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 Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 05:11:25 AM
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Well, I was all excited because my DH has been working really hard at building his vacation time up so he could stay home and help get everybody on a new schedule once baby Eden arrives.
This past weekend he started having severe pain in his upper abdomen and wouldn't you know....his gallbladder stopped functioning and they have to remove it. Guess what....the recovery time is exactly the amount of time he has accrued. SO that means he'll have to take a day without pay for Eden's birth and then go back to work the next day.
I get to bring a baby home from the hospital and then try to get our sanity back with 4 kids 4 and under all by myself 
I am trying so hard to be ok with everything, but I need prayers because I know it's going to be awful hard. My poor hubby feels so bad....like it's something he could help.
I have struggled with post partum depression after every baby and so I am a little concerned about going through that alone as well.
Please just say a prayer for my little family as we work through all of this over the next 7 weeks. |
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Ga Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
2355 Posts
Karen
Meansville
Ga.
USA
2355 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 05:26:49 AM
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Misty, I am so sorry for you and your hubby. I will be praying for you both. Just remember God is in control. We may not see or understand his plans but afterwords we say oh wow I see how Gods plan worked out for the best. When is the Eden due? Keep us updated on you and hubby! Blessings,Karen
Create in me a pure heart,O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10
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Roxy7
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Robin
Denver
CO
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 06:11:06 AM
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Prayers sent.
Do you have family near that could help? Anyone from church? Mops group? |
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
2099 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 06:11:39 AM
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That's rough, Misty. I wish we had guaranteed parental leave for both parents in this country, the way most countries do.
What about the Family and Medical Leave Act? http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/
Does it somehow not apply to your husband's workplace? I would think that your post-partum depression would count as a family member with a serious medical condition. |
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
2099 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 06:15:15 AM
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Oh, and of course the gall bladder surgery is a serious illness for your husband in the first place...it seems so wrong that he should have to use his vacation time for that.
Although I just learned from my mom that my dad's union doesn't grant him sick days. Who would have thought? If he gets sick, he has to use vacation time or not get paid unless it stretches out into a long enough period to be covered by disability. No wonder my dad always goes to work sick. I thought he was just stubborn. |
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Lessie Louise
True Blue Farmgirl
1406 Posts
Carol
PECULIAR
MO
USA
1406 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 08:12:36 AM
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Misty, good luck to your little family. It somehow all works out like it supposed to...somehow. Please make sure you mention to your doctor your history of postpartum depression. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, Carol
how sweet it is to love some one, how right it is to care |
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Laila
True Blue Farmgirl
273 Posts
Laila
Kutztown
PA
USA
273 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 08:31:43 AM
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Praying for you and your family Misty. Remember, we are here for you. Come and vent anytime you need us.
Laila |
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1badmamawolf
True Blue Farmgirl
2199 Posts
Teresa
"Bent Fence Farms"
Ca
USA
2199 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2009 : 09:24:52 AM
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I had a friend go thru something like this a few years back, and his co-workers each gave him 90% of their sick days, and the company had no problem with it.
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
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kmbrown
True Blue Farmgirl
459 Posts
Misty
Waynesboro
Pennsylvania
USA
459 Posts |
Posted - Sep 25 2009 : 6:04:11 PM
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Thanks for all of your kind words. Brought tears to my eyes...really.
Eden is due November 07 so we are on the last stretch now! My hubby checked into the FMLA and the deal is it only really means they have to hold his job but it doesn't help with his time (or lack thereof). They have a leave bank but that only cover's the employee's so it won't give him anytime for the baby.
My mom and 3 of my sisters will be available to help out for the first several days at least...so I do have some help. I just really wish my DH could be with me.
To top all of this off....my grandmother,who is 102 (no, it's not a typo) is in the hospital with pneumonia and dehydration. Please say a prayer for her as well. Speaking realistically here....it is going to be very, very hard for me to get to Pittsburgh (5 hours away) if there will be a funeral. I am just begging God to give a little mercy and grace during this time.
I sincerely do thank each of you for your kind thoughts and prayers. |
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farmallgrl
True Blue Farmgirl
483 Posts
Angela
Westminster
MD
USA
483 Posts |
Posted - Sep 25 2009 : 7:04:52 PM
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Misty, I wish we knew each other so I could help you out, I don't live that far from you. I am praying for you and your family. And as noted before, please make sure your doc is aware of your postpartum depression. I too went through it and it is really tough. Hang in there dear!
Angela
Farmgirl Sister #337
Instead of telling God how big your problem is....tell your problem how big God is. |
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peapicker
True Blue Farmgirl
716 Posts
texas
USA
716 Posts |
Posted - Sep 25 2009 : 7:09:51 PM
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Misty, I will say a prayer for you and your family. I agree to let the doctor know about the postpartum depression. Let us know too. I am sure many on here will be of great encouragement to you. Sometimes just having someone to talk to helps. Praying for you.
Sharlet
Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.
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Tn.Earthmama
True Blue Farmgirl
451 Posts
Phyllis
Englewood
Tennessee
451 Posts |
Posted - Sep 28 2009 : 05:11:20 AM
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| Misty, prayers for you and the family. hugs Phyllis |
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N@n
True Blue Farmgirl
223 Posts
Hackett
Arkansas
USA
223 Posts |
Posted - Sep 28 2009 : 6:23:42 PM
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Misty, My prayers and thoughts are with you. Please take care of you and get lots of rest and don't forget to ask for help from those who love you. Momma's sometimes forget to ask for help!!!
N@n from Arkansas and Michigan
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kmbrown
True Blue Farmgirl
459 Posts
Misty
Waynesboro
Pennsylvania
USA
459 Posts |
Posted - Oct 04 2009 : 6:40:12 PM
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I want to thank each one of you for your kind thoughts.
My husband had surgery on Friday and we were thrilled everything went well so he will only have to take the two weeks (vs. what could have been 8 weeks).
He has enough time to cover that so we won't be without a paycheck!!!
My grandma is home from the hospital but her days are numbered without a doubt.
I am hoping to get to see her before DH goes back to work but once he can watch the kids ok.
We are hoping that some of DH co-workers will be kind enough to donate a few hours to his bank so he can take a day or two when baby comes! My midwife is aware of my problems with recovery after babies so I will take medication for a few weeks after she arrives.
Thanks again so much for all the kind thoughts! It means so much to me to have a place to "unload" my problems and know there will be people who understand!! |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13645 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13645 Posts |
Posted - Oct 04 2009 : 7:20:47 PM
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Misty,
You have my thoughts and prayers . . . I know what it is like to have multiple situations going on at the same time with different family members. Right in the middle of it myself!!!!
Glad to hear your hubby came through surgery well and is on the road to recovery.
I will pray for all that it happening for you and your family!!
Blessings!!
CJ
...from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665 |
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