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Across the Fence:  Help... how do I tell unwanted match makers NO!  |
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couggardengirl
True Blue Farmgirl
89 Posts
Bridgette
Clarkston
WA
USA
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 Posted - May 06 2009 : 4:38:55 PM
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Help!!
I'm 27 and single and as this spring has rolled around it seems that everyone seems to think they need to play match maker for me! A relative of a family friend is just determined to set me up with her son, knowing a little bit of background on this guy its not someone I'm interested in......how do I tell her and or her son I'm not interested ??
I put things off as long as i could but she took my number from another person she works with and gave it to her son, now he's calling. Ugh! HELP! |
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SuzieQ
True Blue Farmgirl
175 Posts
Suzie
Texas
USA
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Posted - May 06 2009 : 4:47:38 PM
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 honesty is always the best policy. |
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
5216 Posts |
Posted - May 06 2009 : 4:50:03 PM
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I agree with Suzie. I had my share of matchmakers when I was younger too. It is best to just be honest. Maybe you can say, "I really appreciate you thinking of me and your concern for me but I am not looking right now. I am focusing on....."
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
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one_dog_per_acre
True Blue Farmgirl
1572 Posts
Trish
Sandpoint
ID
USA
1572 Posts |
Posted - May 06 2009 : 7:12:47 PM
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Just humor her. Maybe you'll end up with a friend. It's likely he feels the same way you do. If it goes terribly, it will give you a great story.
Trish
Make cupcakes not war!
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
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Posted - May 07 2009 : 05:53:55 AM
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Tell her you just don't want to date anyone at this time but if your son wants to buy me a real nice dinner I'll go, But remember it's not a date. I just love free meals, and hot fudge sundays for desert.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
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C.W.
True Blue Farmgirl
101 Posts
Chelsea
Prosser
WA
USA
101 Posts |
Posted - May 07 2009 : 06:43:52 AM
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - May 07 2009 : 07:11:59 AM
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Ugh. I went through this after my divorce. All I wanted to do was hang out with my dog and go hiking and do things I COULDN'T do when I was with a man! My mom was the worst cupid, though--I think she was sooo worried about me becoming a recluse...thing is, I was having a blast!
When I did finally give in and go out with this guy "Dan" that "had so much in common with me" it was a disaster. He spent the whole dinner asking me questions and for every answer I had, he'd say, "you're really weird"...and then he stalked me because the date "went so well" !!! I told her NEVER again to meddle, and she hasn't :)
Just say "no" in a very nice way. They'll get the picture eventually.
Musings from our family in the Bluegrass http://sweetvioletmae.blogspot.com/ |
Edited by - FebruaryViolet on May 07 2009 07:12:29 AM |
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couggardengirl
True Blue Farmgirl
89 Posts
Bridgette
Clarkston
WA
USA
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Posted - May 07 2009 : 9:58:46 PM
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Thanks so much for the support and encouragement!! He called yesterday and it was a 2 minute conversation full of awkward silences like when you first work up the nerve to call someone in junior high. I did all the talking! I can just imagine a dinner where we spend the whole time saying nothing !
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