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bohemiangel
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Bridget
Ligonier
pa
USA
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 Posted - Apr 14 2009 : 08:30:57 AM
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My ex that I was with for 3 years has been creeping back into my thoughts and dreams. Literally dreams. I have a great guy now that is what I wanted/want in a man. I just don't understand why old feelings and emotions are popping up when I thought I had them taken care of.....please help, I feel like I'm at a standstill.
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true."
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http://ligonierliving.blogspot.com/
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melanie47601
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Melanie
Boonville
IN
USA
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Posted - Apr 14 2009 : 11:44:57 AM
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Bridget I think it's just a mind's way of playing not so nice tricks on us. I went through something similar about a year or so back. I have a wonderful man in my life and in June we will be together for three years. It wasn't my ex-husband that was plauging my thoughts, it was a guy I had a crush on before I met my Jeremy. At the time this guy was popping up into my thoughts, I was going through I guess you could call it an insecure moment. I knew I was crazy about Jeremy and he was all I had ever wanted. The problem I was having was I wasn't sure if he felt the same way about me. But once I came to understand how Jeremy felt/feels about me and be okay with him not being this all out romantic guy, the thoughts of the other guy were gone.
You have a good man and I wouldn't let it worry you.
Melanie
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
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Posted - Apr 14 2009 : 11:55:19 AM
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Bridget, I agree with Melanie. It's probably just your subconscious kicking up -- maybe you're a little stressed, or like melanie says, an insecure moment. I know I've been there before, and just recently. For me though, it was a guy I 'dated' when I was FOURTEEN, for pity sakes! (I'm now 50). Don't panic. Just hug your new sweetie a little tighter!
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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Posted - Apr 14 2009 : 12:19:44 PM
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I was engaged to a guy that I had dated for 5 years. the relationship ended VERY badly. I then started dating my husband. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my husband but everyonce in a while thoughts of that guy creep back in. I have no desire to rekindle ANY sort of relationship with him but I hav also come to grips with the fact that because he was such a huge part of my life it is impossible to "erase" him. I just remind myself of why it ended and I am good!
Farmgirl Sister #17
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bohemiangel
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Bridget
Ligonier
pa
USA
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Posted - Apr 14 2009 : 12:25:59 PM
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AH! I think this is all true. I was panicking and feeling like I was doing something wrong to my new and wonderful man. He loves me unconditionally and I've never had that even with my father. Yeah the guy this is about I was with the longest 3 years. So I'm fine and ok and this too shall pass essentially. I was feeling guilty and just BAD. Thank you girls. I can always count of ya'll to put it in perspective! WHEW!
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true."
http://liggybitsandpieces.blogspot.com/
http://ligonierliving.blogspot.com/
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gentlewoman farmer
True Blue Farmgirl
66 Posts
Judy
Bakersfield
Ca
USA
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Posted - Apr 14 2009 : 12:28:26 PM
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I think what you are going thru is very normal. Remember, that guy you got rid of, and is now thinking about, is a guy you once thought you loved. Now, you have a new love, your mind is questioning your choices. It a weird protective way us women have of trying to protect ourselfs.
Keep what willowtreecreek said, and just enjoy your new love.
Be good to yourself and be good to this earth.
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KayB
True Blue Farmgirl
540 Posts
Kay
Del City
Oklahoma
USA
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Posted - Apr 15 2009 : 1:35:10 PM
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I've been divorced from my first husband for 34 years and occasionally he pops into my dreams and is a really nice guy. But since I know the truth about him, I just ignore it. Also, he still looks the same as he did then and I know that can't be real.
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - Apr 15 2009 : 1:41:28 PM
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When I was really boiled up over my parents and family, I was having the worse nightmares. Once I dealt with it, they stopped. They do pop in now and then but they seem to be unable to talk. Strange!! : )
I look at our dreams as a flip book of our life and sometimes we revisit those old albums.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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idsweetie72
True Blue Farmgirl
129 Posts
Sandra
New Meadows
idaho
USA
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Posted - Apr 16 2009 : 07:42:25 AM
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I was married to my second husband for 7 years- and when I married him I thought he was the love of my life- (obviously I was WRONG!)- anyway- when we seperated I knew that it was the right thing to do- but for 3 years after the divorce I kept having nagging feelings that "what if I had?", or "maybe I was wrong"- questioning my choice to do what I knew was right- because with me I was worried that I had given up, let my kids down, and that 'maybe' I had been totally wrong about the reasons we seperated- but with time I began to realize that these thoughts were only my own insecurities about myself- and me doubting that I had made the right decisions-
But now- 5 years after the divorce I can tell you that time answered questions- and I had listened to myself and had made the right choice- so hang in there- and hugs for you
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pinkroses
True Blue Farmgirl
2350 Posts
Sheila
Virginia
USA
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