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Across the Fence:  Do you find yourself getting quieter?  |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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 Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 08:11:06 AM
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I don't quite know what this is but I'm getting where I don't talk on the phone that much anymore. I email and pm people but just not much of a talker. I listen to the extreme to anyone within earshot but have found I don't have much to say back. I'm thinking of things to say, just don't say them. I kind of feel like someone else will say it anyway at some time so there's not much point in me saying it.
Even out at the barn, I sit and listen to the other ladies talk about whatever but don't input. No one has said, yet, that I'm stuck up or anything, just quiet. I watch everything that's going on but just keep my thougths to myself.
I talk to hubby alot and my kids but that's about it. Even tho I've posted a lot last nite and today, I usually just log on and read the posts, not much posting going on now. I lurk on quite a few sites, never posting.
Anyone else getting this way?? Is this a sign of something...good or bad? I'm really pretty comfortable about it but like now, wondering if I'm really THAT comfy.
Winona :-)
When you lose, don't lose the lesson!!
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Firemama
True Blue Farmgirl
1731 Posts
Amanda
Medical Lake
WA
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 08:16:34 AM
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I am usually pretty quiet, I dont find that when I am with friends I need to talk constantly. I kind of enjoy that comfortable silence. I dont talk on the phone TOO often, just to family far away. So yes I am getting more quietER,lol. I guess I am more of a listener, cept when I'm mad or upset ; )
Mama to 2
FarmGirl# 20
People can only make you feel inferior with your permission, and you dont have my permission......
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Betty J.
True Blue Farmgirl
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Betty
Pasco
WA
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 08:25:42 AM
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I find that when I get really quiet and don't talk much that depression is sitting in. Then I have to do something about it. I make myself call that special someone on the phone and we chat. I don't know what I would do without my dear sister. We talk at least every other week and then it is for two hours or so or until we run out of things to talk about. She only lives 135 miles from me, but we see each other only once a year. She is such a sweetie.
Then there's the kids. They call, but not reliably. What can I say. I'm a loner until I get to know someone I'm not a talker.
Betty in Pasco |
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 08:33:09 AM
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I think because I talk to so many people so much of the day at work, that when I'm home, I just like the peace and quiet. And yes, as the years go by, I've found myself saying less and listening more. Part of it for me is growing older and wiser (I hope!).
from the hearts of paradise... |
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 08:43:51 AM
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I've found that I no longer like to talk on subjects that I used to love. I notice mostly when people are talking about religion, history, literature. I still think about these things a lot, but when you aren't in school or a similar forum, you don't get a lot of opportunity to put your thoughts into words. I'm out of practice, in other words.
Also, when I'm around people I don't know pretty well, it's hard to tell what kind of language or type of argument to use. Are they going to get it or not? I find it's easier to stick to topics that don't require much thought. Pretty sad, now that I think about it.
Maybe I need to go back to school... |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 10:29:33 AM
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I find I go through cycles. Right now I am really busy with School so I am often in my study/sewing room working on something. Doug and I usually chat on the ride home from me picking him up from work and maybe while we are getting dinner- but then I am usually busy.
I guess I didn't realize that I am getting quieter too until last night. We had some friends over and the girl is very talkative. Very nice...but very talkative. It was fine though because over all I just was okay with enjoying the time with company.
I guess I was talkative enough as a younger me so now it is time for someone else to have a turn! LOL
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 10:55:45 AM
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I appreciate quiet the older I get...but I do still talk quite a bit. I for sure NEED my no talking time at night when everyone else has gone to bed. I don't think I am nearly as talkative as I was when I was younger.
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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kpaints
True Blue Farmgirl
1564 Posts
karen
cheney
wa
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 11:03:58 AM
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I'm into the quieter mode also but I suppose that comes with living alone. I was very shy as a youngster and up until my 30's. I am considered outgoing but really I notice that I tend to listen more also. Do you think that just might be part of getting 'old'? Ha. I do notice when family is around that my jaw gets sore from talking! Now I am not talking THAT much! Ha!
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acairnsmom
True Blue Farmgirl
1319 Posts
audrey
cheyenne
wy
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 11:25:50 AM
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I've always been quiet when I'm in a group and talk more when it's just a few of us. And if I've just met the person I'm even more reserved. I've also never really liked to talk on the phone. I've always thought that was because I feel I can't hear the other party because of a poor connection or because they hold the receiver under there chin when they talk (my older sister does that). On the other hand, when it's just me and my husband I become quite the chatter box so much that he laughs at me.
Audrey
Toto, we're not in Kansas any more! |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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grace gerber
True Blue Farmgirl
2804 Posts
grace
larkspur
colorado
USA
2804 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 12:51:40 PM
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I thought it was me...
I found that folks can not be silent - when they are not comfortable with themselves they fill their lives with endless noise - the need to have a cell phone attached to their heads, music in the ear buds and the TV/DVD shouting the in background while typing on the computer in endless chatrooms,myspace,facebook and such. I found that all keeps folks from really connecting to themselves and the soft sounds of nature. Maybe to some I am out of touch but I have spent a lifetime talking and enjoy being silent at times.
A person can speak great thoughts without saying a word.
Grace Gerber
Larkspur Funny Farm and Fiber Art Studio
Where the spirits are high and the fiber is deep
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bushelnpeck
True Blue Farmgirl
262 Posts
Debbie
Sparks
Nv
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 1:01:00 PM
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I agree with something that everyone else has said, Mostly I think the world is too much with us and I so appreciate my quiet. Too much techno stuff and chatter and buzzers and beeps and cars and people noise, just give me the birdsong and quiet moments with my cat and sweet conversation with my dh and occasionaly catching up with friends and I am content. I hate television and I seek out to be quiet...Debbie
Farmgirl Sister #324
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AuntPammy
True Blue Farmgirl
488 Posts
Pamila
williamstown
wv
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 1:10:14 PM
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This subject really intriques me, as I am not,nor have I ever been much of a talker. I am, on the other hand, a very good listener and agree whole heartedly with Grace that actions speak louder than words. I hope my actions speak well of me and I have tried to instill this in my children. (I must say I always puff up a little when strangers tell me that my children are so kind and thoughtful.....just as they should be.) I wish sometimes that I would have said more...geez, this is the most I've said in days!
Let's dance in the rain and play in the puddles under the rainbows.
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 1:49:40 PM
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I find I am getting more "to the point" about what I say when I talk and otherwise I just don't talk for the sake of gabbing unless you get me with a good friend who I have a lot in common with. We can talk about anything and everything or sit and sew and be quiet together and it's just okay. Hopefully it's maturity that might be setting in and not senility... or maybe a bit of both! I have grown quieter as I have grown up (I'm NOT going to say older).
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
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LivingWell4You
True Blue Farmgirl
1411 Posts
Karen
Hillsboro
MO
USA
1411 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 3:27:05 PM
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Winona, I just had to click on your post as I've been wondering the same thing myself. I think it's because over the last few years my husband and I have been working at simplifying our lives (still far from where we'd/I'd like to be). We were just walking outside and my dh mentioned how hard this time last year was for us, especially me and it lasted til spring. This year is a 180-degree difference but we keep cutting more and more out of our lives to get to what's really important for us. Since I don't work outside the home, my church group is mainly my social outlet and I've been finding myself even backing of from doing as much with that because it seems like there's "always" something going on and I could keep running all the time just with that.
Like Grace said, the TV/internet/cell phone/etc. was keeping me "from really connecting to [myself] and the soft sounds of nature."
God bless -
Karen
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SusieQue
True Blue Farmgirl
603 Posts
Susie
Greenville
Ga
Georgia
603 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 3:41:30 PM
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I appreciate quiet at home as I am either on the phone or talking in person to clients at work ALL day long for 9 hours. QUIET is good!
"A mother is someone you never outgrow your need for"
http://drycreekfarms.blogspot.com
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ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl
4739 Posts
Dawn
Naperville
Illinois
USA
4739 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 3:45:39 PM
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Yes, I'm becoming rather quiet too. I have noticed during dinner that neither my husband or I say very much. I don't talk too much to people unless I know them really well. I'm not sure if it's because I distrust people or figure they really don't care what I have to say. We have tons of rollover minutes on our cell phone since I only talk to my husband on it. So I guess I am one of the crowd here.
Dawn in IL |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 4:00:40 PM
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Winona,
You sound just like me. I too can listen 'till the cows come home, but then retort in short sentinces that tend to sum up rather than draw out more converstaion.
As a kid they always labeled me as quiet.
I never raised my hand in class
Finally got confidence and courage when I befriended someone who was able to draw me out of my shell. And in turn, I was able to soften her a bit. This was 8th grade
In large groups these days I will speak if its something I know well or feel strongly about........otherwise i'm content to listen.
At work there are a few overbearing personalitits, so i have to constantly interrupt and interject quickly in order to get points or ideas out in time.
And here's a funny. Two of my best friends and I would go on shopping forays once a month. For awhile, it was jsut me and one girl. She is EXTREMELY outgoing and talkative to a fault. The otehr gal to join us was the same. So here's me sitiing in the back of the car listening for most of what made for a very long day,and speaking maybe just a little. They each moved away in different directions, so I have otehr friends who do thihgs with me one on one. Sadly, or mabe happily, my mother is my best shopping buddy these days.
I'm also not a gossip, so dishing dirt on people and coming up with new inflormation is very rare.
And not everyone revels in animal/zoo or farming lifestyles, so unless they have a frame of reference, that's about all I have to say. Kind of sad when they get a glazed over look when i start getting excited about how many jars of this and that I canned or how a particular harvest went.
And really, even your average zoo keeper isn't farm savvy . So if I go to zoo parties, its the same thing.
We too do not have a cell phone, high tech gagets in our vehicles and no access to cable. (Can't justify 100 plus channels on satellite to a channel surfing husband who drives me crazy surfing with only 4 channels!!! |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 4:03:14 PM
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And in this same vein, I have said befroe how I am so paranoid about altzheimers for those of us who would rather stay at home.
Sometimes I must force myself to go out with friends when a quiet evening at home is much more appealing.
I like new and different if someone else does the driving. |
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Georgiann
True Blue Farmgirl
109 Posts
Georgiann
Seymour
IN
USA
109 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 6:03:28 PM
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I don't enjoy talking on the phone. It may be the memory of my mom, who discouraged lengthy phone conversations, or a little difficulty I had with someone a few years ago who would call each afternoon and talk for an hour or two, never recognizing my signals to end the conversation. I'd much rather talk to my friends and family face-to-face.
Ive been a pretty chatty cathy all my life, but I do notice that I'm not so much anymore.
Older and wiser? I hope!
Georgiann
www.oldsweetsong.blogspot.com
Whatever you do, do it with your whole heart
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chicken necker
True Blue Farmgirl
509 Posts
Sherry
Eastern Shore
Maryland
USA
509 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 7:29:10 PM
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I think it really is an earth change. But maybe not so much in the hippie way. We are as Farmgirls, finding our place, and losing the need for needless converstation just to be heard. We just Are. Then we tend to SHOUT when we feel need to! LOL!
FarmGirl Sister #123
Crafty Bay FarmGirls Chapter
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elphie0503
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Samantha
Gilmer
Texas
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Sep 09 2008 : 8:37:44 PM
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I find that I still talk~I love my phone and face-to-face~BUT, I have found that I hate the TV being on. I would rather put on a good playlist of music and let that go than the tube be on...it makes my teeth grate!
Samantha
www.elphie0503.blogspot.com
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort~~Albright
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Ga Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
2355 Posts
Karen
Meansville
Ga.
USA
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Posted - Sep 10 2008 : 05:13:35 AM
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Yep , same here. I am quieter than I used to be. I just don't seem to say that much anymore. I do like to listen to others. I do still talk to kids and hubby some when he is here. Hubby works long hours so he's not here alot. Just don't seem to have the urge to say that much anymore. Glad I'm not the only one who feels like this. I used to love to stay gone all day now I'd rather be at home. Dont know if this relates as well. Maybe it is age I dunno.
Create in me a pure heart,O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10 http://farmgirlingastyle.blogspot.com/ |
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neighsayer
True Blue Farmgirl
81 Posts
Shirley
Arabi
GA
USA
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Posted - Sep 10 2008 : 07:14:01 AM
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I don't ever want to hear men talk about women talking and talking. My husband is the WORST Chatty Cathy there is. He can call his friend and talk for hours and hours. Drives me nuts. Guess I am getting quieter. ha ha
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
1238 Posts
Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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keeperofthehome
True Blue Farmgirl
154 Posts
Suzanne
Atlanta
Georgia
USA
154 Posts |
Posted - Sep 10 2008 : 08:02:59 AM
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I think that as I've gotten older I've learned when to speak and when not. When I was younger I would give my opinion at the drop of a hat, yet now I know it isn't necessary. I enjoy the peace during the day when my kids are at school because I know when they get home there will be nothing but chatter!
I don't think anything is abnormal about being quiet unless you feel there is something wrong. Maybe ask your closest family and friends if they've noticed anything different about you.
Blessings!
~Farrah
http://homesteadblogger.com/keeperofthehome/
http://oldfashionedhomekeeper.blogspot.com
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