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Across the Fence:  Need some words of wisdom...  |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 04 2008 : 6:27:40 PM
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How do you get through something when you whole life gets turned upside down, not necessarily for the worse but definitely a HUGE change in what you expected when you are not ready???
My life just turned upside down today and I am still trying to make sense...I just need some wisdom...
Thanks...
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
FARMGIRL #90 |
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lilwing
True Blue Farmgirl
1403 Posts
Brooke
Fulshear
Texas
USA
1403 Posts |
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mikesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3659 Posts
Sherri
Elma
WA
USA
3659 Posts |
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bushelnpeck
True Blue Farmgirl
262 Posts
Debbie
Sparks
Nv
USA
262 Posts |
Posted - Aug 04 2008 : 7:22:08 PM
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i agree with Sherri,and let time be your friend, time to take it in and don't try to understand everything all at once. i am rather new here, but i know that your friends will be holding you up and clarity will rise through the chaos. what a wonderful thing to be able to come here and know you will be heard and cared about, you are a very rich girl. i have had the rug of change pulled out from under me and it sends us spinning. i know you will rise in true girlfriend fashion to the new thing and be stronger for it...Debbie
Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all
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Txfarmgal
True Blue Farmgirl
585 Posts
AK
USA
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Posted - Aug 04 2008 : 7:32:02 PM
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heather, so hard to absorb things that hit you without notice. Know your true self, dig your heels in, hold on and pray. You will walk through this valley and go through to the other side of the mountain. hang in there and know your farmgirl friends are here to stand by you.
AngiKay
www.angikay.etsy.com
Be strong and Courageous. Jos. 1:9
Texas 4H! http://texas4-h.tamu.edu/ |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Aug 04 2008 : 8:07:17 PM
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Heather, I agree with the ladies. Just try to breathe and go through the motions of each day. Time will help to open your mind and heart to the change. Look at every possible positive that this change might have for you. If there is sadness, then allow yourself time to grieve for the past. This might sound silly, but when we moved from Moscow, I had to let myself grieve a bit for the chapter closing in my life, but the change has brought so many great things!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
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Beverley
True Blue Farmgirl
2707 Posts
Beverley
atlanta
Michigan
USA
2707 Posts |
Posted - Aug 04 2008 : 8:29:03 PM
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Don't forget to ask for help either. you don't have to go through anything alone!!!!! It is not a weakness to ask for help it is strong person that can do it. Bev
Folks will know how large your soul is by the way you treat a dog....Charles F. Doran
beverley baggett
http://bevsdoggies.googlepages.com/ |
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 05:43:20 AM
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Heather, I don't know if there is any wisdom in what I'm about to type but it's from the heart and something I'm going through myself right now. I'm not sure what your change is but I know it's hard when things seem to come out of nowhere.
I'm sorry to say it but I spent half of this year worrying about a 'potential' change in my employment. I anticipated the worst and stressed over it until I made myself physically ill with all the worry. I didn't take care of my health like I should have. I isolated myself a bit and didn't take advantage of certain opportunites that came my way. I let time go by obssessing about it and lost some precious time that I could have spent otherwise. As of now nothing has changed at the workplace, the talk of 'change' is still out there but somehow now I'm not as concerned.
About a month ago my family received some news that has changed the way I'm viewing things now. It has 'turned life upside down' for us too. It's making me reconsider what I thought was the most important things in life, to re-prioritize everything. My mom is saying that we should look for the blessings in this situation which sounds like what Alee said by looking at every possible positive thing the change may bring with it. I'm still looking for the positives in my particuliar situation. But if my Mom can say there are some there, then there must be.
As I said I don't know what happened in your situation but I will be praying that everything will work out for your best. Take care and hugs!
Farmgirl Sister #25
http://countrygirldreams.blogspot.com/ |
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frannie
True Blue Farmgirl
2246 Posts
fran
bonham
texas
USA
2246 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 06:26:12 AM
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boy, heather, thanks so much for starting this thread.
in my life it seems that those,"rug of change" moments sometimes come in multiples, and lately i have been having them.( i LOVE that expression, debbie, hope ya dont mind if i borrow it!)
first, let me just say, i am sorry you are going through any kind of problem. you are such a ray of sunshine here on the site and i have loved reading many of your post.
i read your initial post and thought i would just add some advice, and then i read everyone elses and learned a thing or two for myself! that is one of the things that is so great about the farmgirl site.
it helps you to know you are not alone, no matter what, and that people care.
i'm not sure what i can add, but i know that when i am going through a worrisome time, it does not help to spend time reliving things in your head, especially if it tends to make you stall. you have to just keep going.
i have a tendency to isolate and worry and then the next thing i know as elaine from kentucky pointed out, i too have ended up wasting some of my time and really accomplishing nothing.
heather, i will be thinking of you and praying that what ever is going on that there will be a good resolution. please keep us posted. love and hugs to you.
love
frannie in texas
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 06:34:19 AM
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Thank you my lovely, wonderful farmgirl sisters!!! I love you all (((HUGS)))!!!!
I am very much a positive thinker and live my life by the seat of my pants...just didn't expect this so soon after "thinking" I was getting settled in my life, but what is settled, as defined by me.
I will post more as I know. I have been "chatting" back and forth with hubby when he can get online on th ship. I love and appreciate you all!! (HUGS)
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
FARMGIRL #90 |
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LivingWell4You
True Blue Farmgirl
1411 Posts
Karen
Hillsboro
MO
USA
1411 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 06:42:16 AM
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Heather, like Debbie I'm new here too, but I have found that there are amazing women on this site, as evidenced by the posts so far. I think most of us have experienced major "rug of change" moments and those who haven't will sometime in the future. We live in a wonderful world but it isn't perfect. This is what I try to do: Pray first - for courage, strength and widom. Then I make a list (I'm a major list-maker) of the the pros and cons. When I do that I find a wisdom in my gut that helps me to move forward. Through it all, as Lainey pointed out, remember to take care of yourself. When I was the caregiver for my dad I came across this phrase and it made a huge difference for me: "You can't give to others from an empty cup." I was putting my dad's and my husband's needs first and was runny on empty. When I started taking care of myself, I had more to give. So be sure to eat healthy, drink plenty of water, get 8 hours of sleep (or more), and spend time every day doing something you LOVE - and spend time with people you love and who love you. You'll find a lot of them here.
God bless - Karen |
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frannie
True Blue Farmgirl
2246 Posts
fran
bonham
texas
USA
2246 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 11:02:25 AM
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another great saying, "you cant give to others from and empty cup".
i think this is one we have to constantly remind ourselves of. my family sometimes acts like they dont KNOW what to do when i am the one who gets sick,,,,but if i dont heed your advice, karen i always end up sick.
thanks again heather for starting this "rug of change"post.
love
frannie in texas
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paradiseplantation
True Blue Farmgirl
1277 Posts
julie
social springs community
Louisiana
USA
1277 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 11:14:01 AM
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Heather: I'm another one going through an unexpected (and potentially scary)turn of events in my life. As hard as its going to be, I just turned it over to God. WHY it's happening is anyone's guess, but my dh likes to think that He has a better plan right around the corner, and is putting me in a position to accept it. Just keep the faith that things will happen for the best, and remember that all us farmgirls are here to hold you up until you get to the other side!
from the hearts of paradise... |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 1:27:13 PM
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Well, I am already "hunting" for my new "rug" to land on...ha!!! I am the type of gal that jumps in full feet and asks questions later..well now...but I don't hesitate.. Ha!!!
See, I see it as fun. I get to drive from here to VA, which means going through LA and then up the coast..which would be so much fun...
I met hubby in VA beach, which we would be near...so it is kinda romantic...
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
FARMGIRL #90 |
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pinkroses
True Blue Farmgirl
2350 Posts
Sheila
Virginia
USA
2350 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 4:54:30 PM
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Hugs to you Heather.
My life has been that way most of my life;
and I mean most
I am a Christian,
I totally relie on God. and His word.
Much prayer.; mediating , and writing in my journals
If it were not for God and God's Word and promises in the Bible : He has made to me.;
I know I would be a lost soul in a sea of life's trails and tribulations.
Not to say that my life as a Christian is all bed and roses.
Life can hit you with hard blows when you lest expect it.
I do try to pray and not worry ( which is really hard for me)
and lay it at the foot of the cross.
I just keep on keeping on,
about all one can do if one cannot change the circumstnces that one is thown in.
There are lots of those in my life that I have totally no control over.
Hugs to you and prayers ; Pinkroses
www.ohkayteagirl2.blogspot.com
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deeredawn
True Blue Farmgirl
2306 Posts
Dawn
Cordova
TN
USA
2306 Posts |
Posted - Aug 05 2008 : 5:57:25 PM
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Kisses! Hugs! Cuddles! Foot Rubs! More Hugs!! Your Ohio Sista is thinkin of ya!
"I figure if a girl wants to be a legend, she should go ahead and be one!"...Calamity Jane
www.harvestthymefarm.com
Sister #279 (big grin!) |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Aug 06 2008 : 5:10:32 PM
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Heather:
I am so sorry for any kind of misery that you may be going through. I am happy to read how so many of the Farm girls have comforted you with wisdom. As Julie wrote about God, I too say, "Give it to God". Brook's advice is awesome. And, Alee- that is one smart and wise lady there. Take all of their advice, pray about your troubles, and do what's in your heart. Keep us posted. I love reading that "Hee Haw I'm a cowgirl" thing. I'll be praying for you Heather.
Marly |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Aug 06 2008 : 5:20:42 PM
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Marly---it's not misery at all...just imagine having planned something for 2 years and then POOF presto chango...I am pretty open gal, so I was just caught off guard, that is all. I doing great now..and here is a YEE HAW just for you....YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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Linder
True Blue Farmgirl
592 Posts
Linda
Lake Forest
IL
USA
592 Posts |
Posted - Aug 06 2008 : 7:55:05 PM
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For what it is worth, faith has always played a huge part in my life changes. I KNOW that I am never handed more that I can handle and when my plate feels too full, I make time to sit quietly and digest.
My mantra is "This or something better"
Florence Scovil Shinn wrote a wonderful book 100 yrs. ago that's still in print called "The game of Life and how to play it". She talks in her book about a women who wanted a new set of dishes. She complained to Ms. Shinn one day that a friend had the nerve to give her some old chipped dishes not the new ones that she desired. Ms. Shinn responded that this was wonderful because it was an indication that the new dishes were on their way!
It's all in how you look at things I guess. "This or something better" and then moving forward one step at a time with the solid belief that you will always be taken care of.
Don't quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens!
Hugs,
Linder
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" |
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