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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Case of the blues  |
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lilyblossom
True Blue Farmgirl
416 Posts
Donna
Evansville
IN
USA
416 Posts |
 Posted - Mar 09 2008 : 11:52:15 AM
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Life has really thrown me for a loop since my dad passed away unexpectantly on Valentine's Day. Dealing with funeral arrangements, family, friends and estate matters, along with a full time job, etc. has left me totally wiped out.
I don't fell like doing anything, but there seems to be a never ending list of things to take care of and I feel like I'm doing everything in a fog.
What would a farm girl do in this case? I know my daddy would tell me to "pull up the boot straps and move on", but I'm struggling here.
Any words of wisdom?
Donna....true blue KY farm girl, farmgirl #86 |
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
1545 Posts |
Posted - Mar 09 2008 : 12:10:04 PM
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Donna,
Give yourself some time to grieve. Of course you are feeling blue. You just lost your Dad. You will come around, you just need a little time to heal. Feeling overwhelmed in a situation like this is perfectly normal. Any of us who have been through this know that it is a rough time physically and emtionally. It has been a short time for you honey, don't feel upset with yourself for feeling blue and out of sorts. Be kind to yourself and do a little here and a little there, soon you will be feeling less stressed. You just don't get over losing someone you love overnight. Time will help believe me.
Farmgirl Hugs and prayers,
Mary Jane
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Mar 09 2008 : 2:30:04 PM
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Time will help...as Mary Jane mentioned. One thing that helped me when I lost my granny and my dad within 7 months of each other..was to sit down and get out the photos of them and create a memory scrapbook..it took me a couple weeks to create and of course I cried..but it actually helped. I also wrote down the things I remembered about them the most.It actually really helped to take that private time by myself and allow myself to grieve and to let go. Of course I have days even now 3 yrs later..where I will find mysself choking up/tearing up if I remember something about them. You never get over it..but you do learn to live again...and to continue moving forward.
Sending you a great big hug..I have been where you are at now and yes..it hurts. Allow yourself the time to cry.
hugs to you.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~
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Lainey
True Blue Farmgirl
2401 Posts
Elaine
Waco
Kentucky
USA
2401 Posts |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 07:56:55 AM
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Donna,
I was sorry to hear about your father. I know it's hard losing those we love. I lost all my 3 of my remaining grandparents within several years. I had a hard time dealing with it and was not really myself for a while. I still miss them so much, I was close to them all.
I also know what you mean by feeling like you're in a fog. I felt like that before and when I did, I just didn't feel like doing anything. I hope that you take some time to take care of yourself. I agree with Mary Jane and Tina, it will take some time. You are still in my thoughts and prayers.
(((Hug)))
Farmgirl Sister #25
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myfairlady636
True Blue Farmgirl
226 Posts
Janice
Fort Bridger
WY
USA
226 Posts |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 08:06:04 AM
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Hi Donna- I feel the same way!!! I lost my mom on the 25th and just cant seem to get it together. I am so glad I found your post this morning. It is so good to know we have sisters here. I thought I was just feeling sorry for myself (which I probably am to some degree) but it is nice to see that I am not alone. It seems like I am barely able to go to work and then when I get home I am totally useless. I don't have a lot of encouraging things to say except that you are not alone, I know how you feel and I am sorry for your struggles. It gave me some comfort knowing that the things I am experiencing are not just in my head. I guess if you have to be in this boat, it is nice knowing you aren't in it alone. XOXOX friends... Jan
My Fair Lady Farm Girl Sister # 92
"Our lives have meaning, purpose and direction"
http://millberrycottage.blogspot.com/
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Meg
Moderator/Farmgirl True
974 Posts
Meg
Idaho
USA
974 Posts |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 08:09:36 AM
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Donna and Jan...no words of wisdom from me, but just wanted you both to know you are in my thoughts.
MaryJane's daughter,
Meg
megan@maryjanesfarm.org |
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
4033 Posts |
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lilyblossom
True Blue Farmgirl
416 Posts
Donna
Evansville
IN
USA
416 Posts |
Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 4:35:10 PM
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Thanks to each of your for your hugs and prayers. That's what makes all of you farm girls special!
Janice, I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. I read your blog post and it was beautiful. You were truly blessed to have her for your mother.
This week I have taken a few minutes each morning just to have some quiet time to myself and reflect on some of the great things that I remember my dad doing or saying. Most of them leave a wonderful smile on my face and it helps me get through the day. I just have keep reminding myself that this is going to take time.
Thanks again.
Donna...true blue KY farm girl, farmgirl #86 |
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EnchantedWoodsGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
959 Posts
Kathy
New Jersey
USA
959 Posts |
Posted - Mar 14 2008 : 5:38:16 PM
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Donna be easy on yourself. Breath. Sleep. Do what you can to get through each day. Each day is a stepping stone to the next. The loss of my dad rocked my world and I have felt that any happiness I would ever feel again would be over-shadowed by the loss of him. To a degree, this is true, but in the same respect, any little moment of happiness has become bitter sweet (if that makes any sense to you). Somehow no matter how old we are, we never stop being "daddy's little girl", and it is a good thing, a comforting thing.
Hugs
Kathy of the Enchanted Wood
Kathy of the Enchanted Wood
Farmgirl Sister #59
http://enchantedwoodmusings.blogspot.com/
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