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pinkroses
True Blue Farmgirl
2350 Posts
Sheila
Virginia
USA
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 Posted - Mar 02 2008 : 7:40:20 PM
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I wounder do you have peace in your family.?
Maybe I am being to nosy, if so, don't answer.
Just wondering? pinkroses
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Mar 02 2008 : 9:30:21 PM
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we do here because we communicate,communicate,and communicate. we also include the children in letting them know when there is an important family issue.we sometimes kiss in front of the kids and we also let the kids know if we are aggravated at each other..this allows them to see that although we are deeply in love,even the best of marriages have moments when folks do not see eye to eye. I feel this is a good balance for kids to see that marriage/relationships/family dynamics take work. when the siblings have their moments as all siblings are prone to once in a while..we try to let them work the issues out amongst themselves.
I like to think we have a very peaceful and well balanced environment in our home.
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JessieMae
True Blue Farmgirl
702 Posts
Jessie
Raleigh
North Carolina
USA
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Posted - Mar 03 2008 : 04:17:44 AM
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Depends on what you call "peace."
At any given time, there might be three or four quibbles going on within various members of the family, but in the end we know we all love one another. We know that if one of us needs our family, they will be there for us. Arguments usually blow over fairly quickly. |
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palmettogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
571 Posts
sue
camden
south carolina
USA
571 Posts |
Posted - Mar 03 2008 : 06:45:08 AM
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| i'm big on trying to maintain a relatively "stress free" home. i grew up with a very controlling father and there was always tension in the house. i decided that i was not going to live like that once i got out of there. i was married before (we actually got along pretty peacefully, but he was cheating on me so i decided to end the marriage....when it got to the point that i had to remove his girlfriends luggage tags off of MY luggage...that was too much!) anyway, i met dick, who's wife was the town tramp and so he left her. okay.....so...i moved in with dick (we're gonna get married) and my daughter moved in with us---she's 15----the reason i'm telling you this is that's why we have conflict in our house. jill had to learn what his boundries are---he's stricter than me--and he had to get used to having a teenager in the house again (his daughter is 28) what i find is that if i concentrate more on maintaining their basic needs, things flow pretty well. sounds simple, and it is, at least in my mind!! when she's at school, he loves it if i make him lunch...even just a sandwhich! because he feels like he's getting some attention. (another pet peeve of his is he likes a piece of cake every night---so, big deal, i make sure there's usually cake in the house!) if she's grouchy after school, rather than letting her get me crabby, i'll try and joke about it, or sometimes suggest solutions and bring her out of it. if i really can't stand it, i'll get myself a glass of wine and sit outside and tell them i'm mad at BOTH of them.....you'd be surprised at how guilty you can make them feel and then they'll try and team up together to try and "fix" things! like i said, it seems that if you take care of at least the minimum basic necessities of each family member.....talk about things so they don't fester (or sometimes give them their space to work it out and if it's taking too long---then talk about it) and if all else fails, do the guilt thing!(i'm kidding!!) you can usually get things to run on an even keel. sometimes we need to just hear things to keep them in perspective. i hope this helps! |
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blueroses
True Blue Farmgirl
1323 Posts
Debbie
in the Pandhandle of
Idaho
USA
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Posted - Mar 03 2008 : 09:31:32 AM
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We have peace, but it wasn't always that way in my life. My mother & father had issues and we kids would fight, fight and fight. Lots of yelling and stomping off all the time. My first husband (he cheated too) just wouldn't talk things out and would leave and I was left feeling very riled up - no peace there. I decided my children would have peace and we worked very hard (they're grown now) and still do to always talk things out - even if we are angry. My current dh will share and talk things out and we have such peace and contentment in the home.
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
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a rose
True Blue Farmgirl
443 Posts
Linda
Waterford
NY
USA
443 Posts |
Posted - Mar 03 2008 : 4:21:43 PM
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Funny you should ask! I just got off the phone with my half sister. A cousin of ours just passed on this weekend. My sister never had a kind word to say about this cousin and now she's ticked off at me for not letting her know about the death. I told her that she never liked her and I didn't think it was important to tell her. So guess who is in the wrong. She is such a phony and she makes me sick to my stomach with her acting tactics. She'll go to the funeral and be the motherly figure to my cousin's children.
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pinkroses
True Blue Farmgirl
2350 Posts
Sheila
Virginia
USA
2350 Posts |
Posted - Mar 03 2008 : 5:25:32 PM
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Yall know ?
Sometimes it seems that we have to bend over backwards to get alone with our family'
We have people that are hard to.
Seems like all my life I have had to deal with diffcult people
Sometimes, I feel like I need to go to the nut house just to have some peace from it all . Ha.
I just can't understand why people want to fight and agrue
I try not to say things that I know some of my faimily members would not like
One family member; you can't answer a correct answer he wants to hear
If the answer is not correct he will continue on.
Ha pinkroses
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