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Across the Fence:  How would you re-live your life??  |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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 Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 07:32:52 AM
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Since I'm getting older, I've been thinking about all the things I wished I had done. My ex-MIL once told me she wished she'd taken more chances in life and I took that to heart.
I've done just about everything I've wanted except I still want to visit Australia/New Zealand and would love to see the Pyramids in Egypt.
I don't think I would have married so early (I was 22) and I would have gone farther in college. I'm glad I have my kids and glad they are on their own with kids but that leaves me with the rest of my life to look at. I've done everything competitively with horses that I ever wanted to do and now am happy just spending lots of money on my Gigi...but a competitive spark has risen just lately...we'll see how that plays out in the future.
There have been times I wished I had several lives to live, there was so much to do. I've been in the military and wished I had stayed in and got my 20 but too late now. I 'let' my ex talk me out of it. Long story there...*sigh*
I feel like I'm starting the second half of my life now. I like/love/hate married life all at the same time but can't imagine life without hubby. Actaully the next part of my life looks like a big, yawning hole and I have to find something to fill it. We are looking at getting off the road and settling down for good...scary. More on that later...
Think this is a mid-life crisis looming?? I think I'm happy but I have my doubts at times. I'm very lucky to have what I have but I can't help but think...'what if...?' I have to get on the road but can read any response to this post on my phone, just can't reply. I really just would like to know others feel this way.
Winona 
When you lose, don't lose the lesson!!
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palmettogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
571 Posts
sue
camden
south carolina
USA
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Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 07:59:14 AM
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| i go through those feelings too....maybe it is mid-life crisis. (i'm gonna be 51 in two weeks.....let me tell you, i can't believe that i'm that old!) i left college after 2 years because i had no idea what i wanted to pursue so i didn't know what to take. i got married when i was 22, like you did. i worked, helped start a very successful real estate, accounting, financial planning business... had kids----started and ran the PTA, was class mom for both of them every year, brownie leader...etc. my husband ran off with a tramp. i ended up okay financially, and even met a wonderful guy who i am with now.... but.....i still go through periods of feeling empty, like is this all there is?? so, i think i understand where you're coming from. what helped put a little spark back in my life was i joined a book club and occasionally i've taken a college course. i really like the ladies at the book club, some are much more interesting and very together than i am so it kind of gets me thinking about interesting things.....and some are so naieve and "un-worldly" that you'll be thinking, man, i've got it more together than i thought.....thank god i'm not that clueless!! and if you take a course at college.....you'll really be impressed with yourself! i love talking to college kids who think they are so smart and worldly....especially if you have a sense of humor. i hope this gave you a chuckle. just know that you're not the only one. |
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abbasgurl
True Blue Farmgirl
1262 Posts
Rhonda
USA
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Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 07:59:43 AM
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Winona,
I think it's EXCITING to think about the new adventures you will have moving on into the next part of your life! I'm sure you will find something to fill the hole! Maybe you are just a bit afraid of the unknown. I personally hate "LIMBO". I always want to "get on with it", whatever IT may be. Are you that kind of person?
Not too much I would change. Maybe I would have gone to college. Not sure what good it would have done me in my chosen profession though. I have probably taken enough classes to equal a degree anyway. LOL
Sometimes I wish I had said what I was thinking more often. You know, call things as you see them. I'm pretty well known for my brutal honesty...but there were times someone was mean or unkind to someone, and I am ashamed I didn't say anything. I probably wasted too much time worrying about what others might think of me.
So, if you're a young un'...please your God and yourself. Most people are too busy thinking about themselves to care what you are doing anyway. Just be yourself and enjoy who you are.
Rhonda
I will sing at the top of my lungs, and I will dance even if I'm the only one...
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mikesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3659 Posts
Sherri
Elma
WA
USA
3659 Posts |
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Utahfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1940 Posts
Portland
Oregon
USA
1940 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 10:25:03 AM
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I wouldn't have married at 19, probably not married The Big Mistake at all. I think my kids would have still found me if they wanted to. I would have gone to college, as my parents scraped and saved for me to do. I certainly wouldn't have broken their hearts by getting married so young and opening that Pandora's Box. I have accomplished a lot of things that require college educations all on my own (becoming a journalist and published freelancer - I was on the masthead of 4 publications), Ministry degree, etc.) but I still would like to have seen what I could have accomplished had I gone a different route.
Of course, I believe in some reality, a different "me" did just that.
Patricia
Proud Farmgirl Sister #19
Rusty Chicks Chapter
check out my etsy site http://ThePlayfulFarmgirl.etsy.com
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 10:59:09 AM
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Can I just pick a little piece of my life to relive? Because, the rest has been as it should be, my life path has been satisfying despite ups and downs. If I can disect a part to relive, I would relive the two years I spent with an abusive, psychotic boyfriend who threatened to kill me, my friends, my pets and my family if I ever left, and I spent those two years both physically and emotionally abused to the point that I didn't even hold my head up walking down the street--two long years of living in fear and thinking I wasn't worthy of even the littlest bit of kindness. If I could relive those two years, I would ignore him in that restaurant, and I would buy my tickets to England sooner, and I would NOT have to find my groove again. I was somewhat waylayed for a time....
Farmgirl Sister #80, thanks to a very special farmgirl from the Bluegrass..."She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 11:41:49 AM
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I wish I had started my real life sooner, but I am working on that now (instead of everyone expecting me to do things). Maybe saved a little bit more $$$ so I could really buy that beach house sooner, but my dreams about that seem to becoming true anywho...so it just has taken a little longer than I thought!!
If I could change one thing, it would be my desire to meet my hubby about 10 years sooner. I think of all the time we missed, but again, things happen for a reason. I changed my mind on being on a "timetable" for things, like marriage, kids, and that elusive "status" everyone seems to think I should reach at certain ages in my life. My life is my life...and I love it and I am finally living it the way I want to.
I do think of the times I spent arguing with people over what is now trivial and doesn't matter, or being sad or angry or just downright miserable. I think part of the journey is the hindsight we receive so we can move forward in life...
Winona- what is your craziest dream or desire? I would start by doing that thing that makes others go "Really?" but makes your heart soar and that will light that fire for you.
As mentioned, we are truly going to go ahead with living our beach dream. Even if it only lasts for a few months, a year or a lifetime, we can say we did it and didn't wait until "that right time."
Cheers,
Heather
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 12:02:35 PM
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I would have not gotten married at 17 and would have definitely gone to college. I'm not sorry I had my daughter at 18 but wish I hadn't married her dad. I'm 55 and I love my life now. There is one thing I wish I could have done over and that would have been to say yes to a marriage proposal from a very special person who I still carry in my heart.
My Etsy Shop http://therusticcottage.etsy.com
The Rustic Cottage Blog http://therusticcottage.blogspot.com
I'm A Rusty Chick!!!
PROUD FARMGIRL SISTER #100
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 1:50:54 PM
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I think about this question alot...what could I have done differently to avoid all the pain of the last 11 years? The simple answer would be "not married Martin," but then I wouldn't have my beautiful babies. I adore my children. They are my life and my strenth. Days when I want to just lay down and die, I keep going because they need me. Life didn't turn out the way I wanted it to, but things are coming back around. I can see daylight again and know that everything that happened to me happened for a reason. Someday, maybe, I'll understand. For now I am happy that we are safe and in the loving arms of family.
What we write today slipped into our souls some other day when we were alone and doing nothing.
-Brenda Ueland
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
4877 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 2:30:31 PM
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Nope don't want to at all. I know lots of things in life didn't go the way I wanted them to at the time. But you know with out them I wouldn't be who I am now and I like that person. So good or bad I would leave my life the same because changing something in my past may not let me have the present I know now and that is all to important to me.
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
Farmgirl Sister #115
my bloghttp://sunshinescreations.vintagethreads.com/
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kydeere40744
True Blue Farmgirl
1132 Posts
Jessica
Kentucky
USA
1132 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 2:33:01 PM
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I have to say because of how some things happened in my life, I probably wouldn't change a thing. There are a couple of moments that I wish I never lived, but those moments also made me become a stronger person. I know that this year and the future I am spending more time with family and friends and cherishing those moments. :)
~Jessica in Kentucky & Farmgirl Sisterhood #137~
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a rose
True Blue Farmgirl
443 Posts
Linda
Waterford
NY
USA
443 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2008 : 4:34:50 PM
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I wouldn't trade a thing. Life was tough as a wife and a mother but I have been blessed with wonderful children three children and a great husband. It's the tough things in life that make you stronger and wiser. God has been real good to me and good things began when I met my love at the age of 15. He made him just for me!!
Remember me as a rose. |
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