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bohemiangel
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Bridget
Ligonier
pa
USA
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 Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 08:20:57 AM
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I honestly don't know what to do in my relationship that is still new? I seem to not do anything right and he is not being very nice lately. I know I'm not myself cause I'm stressed out because he is. How can I go back to being chill and relaxed and not reading into things? I love this man and he loves me but there are things that are weaseling their way into what we have. I am just feeling lost and need advice and help.
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true."
http://liggygirl.blogspot.com/
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Hideaway Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1553 Posts
Jo
Virginia
USA
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Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 09:20:27 AM
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Ah, Bridget...good luck working out whether this new relationship is worth the apparent cost. I would ask that you reread the words of your own post to find some clues, then listen to your inner voice. Sorry you are feeling lost, but my advice is to perhaps let this new relationship rest for a while, and see if this really is the man for you. If he is not being nice, and making you feel this bad..can you truly expect "...to thine own self be true"?
Hugs to you,
Jo
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Georgia Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Denise
Atlanta
GA
USA
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Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 09:49:04 AM
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I have to agree with Jo. I have a question too, how "new" is this relationship and the "L" word is already being used. Use of that word to early in a relationship can kill it faster than anything. Also, if he is already being ugly, do you really think things will get better? I would say take a step back for a while and see what happens.
Denise
Proud Farmgirl Sister #113
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Corrine
North Carolina
USA
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Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 09:51:28 AM
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Sound like your getting good advice, Bridget. From my own experience, once they start acting ugly they don't stop. It just gets worse. It is better to be lonely and alone than lonely and in a relationship.
corrine
It sounds so good to hear myself laugh. --Rascal Flats, "No Reins" |
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lisamarie508
True Blue Farmgirl
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Lisa
Idaho City
ID
USA
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Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 10:09:44 AM
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Bridget when you said that "things that are weaseling their way into what we have" it kind of sounds like you guys have baggage from previous relationships and possibly blaming each other for things that were done to you before? Is it possible that you or he or both are not quite healed from a previous relationship? If that is the case, then the other gals are right - you both may need to step back and take a breather and re-evaluate.
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
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bohemiangel
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Bridget
Ligonier
pa
USA
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Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 11:02:37 AM
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Yeah, after posting this I just calmed down and he called wanting to hang out at lunch, I said we need our space. We really do. It is true the relationship went super fast, faster than I wanted. He was the one that took it fast. Now only 3 months in we are having issues. Yes we both have baggage. Mine is newer. His is old but he has family issues. I see an immense of good in this but we both are stubborn so I need my time and he needs his to calm down and figure it all out. Let the "chips" fall into place. People are the weasels. One of his friends. A family (not either of ours) and a few other people. The ugly on his part is stress from lack of $ because of moving out here and its different than the city. Thank you gals! I needed to vent and straighten my head out. It was so dusty and cobwebby in there. I feel more balanced now. Seeing more of the picture. Getting myself back. Thank you all again!!!!
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true."
http://liggygirl.blogspot.com/
http://liggygirlslonggreen.blogspot.com/
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