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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
 Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 5:08:52 PM
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Have you ever known any one that couldnt tell the truth if their pants were on fire I reacon I just had a little incedent with a habitual liar and it irked me to pieces why lie when it is so easy and a lot less worry to tell the truth.
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 5:24:46 PM
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I am sorry you had that experience, Miss Wilma, but I bet you can probably spot that kind of folk a mile away. You are so real. Let it just roll off your back. Their lying probably stems from a lifetime of having to protect themselves in some way, and has nothing to do with you. People can get very wounded along the way, and make wrong decisions. Sad but true.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
Psalm 51: 10-13 |
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 5:43:50 PM
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Jeannie it was just a matter of having to listen for ever to a pack of garbage, you are right I can spot a liar a mile away, I just dont understand why lying comes so easy, I always taught my children If you tell me the truth I will never punish you If you lie to me youve had it and it paid off I would trust my kids to tell me the truth actually I think they would be afraid to lie to me now that they are grown. There was two things I would never tolerate and that was lying and stealing.And you know I am so proud to say I have never had that problem with my children I am sure there are things they never told me about , but what ever they told me better be the truth HA
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 5:48:38 PM
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You sound just like my mama. (but she was much older!!!) Gosh, in fact, your response took me back so much, I feel her with me right now. God bless you, Miss Wilma.
My daughter tells the truth so much, it evens scares me!!!!! She tells it when she knows it will hurt. And always has. I can't take credit, though I tried to teach her well. God gave her that gift, pure and simple.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
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Edited by - jpbluesky on Dec 29 2007 5:51:21 PM |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 5:49:37 PM
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So sorry for your troubles Ms. Wilma...I have a Mom who is a habitual "embelisher" as she likes to call it. It is lying and it is draining to me. I cannot trust her as far as I can jump. I think after awhile, a person who lies starts to believe them as the truth and then has to lie more to keep it going or else get caught. I have learned to separate myself. I hope you can do the same.
Cheers,
Heather |
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 6:09:01 PM
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Im sorry Heather, I am like you I believe they believe their own lies.Sometimes I think it is something in their lives that has caused it I am so thankful I had parentsthat taught us right from, I used to have a sisterin law that couldnt tell the truth but I knew her back ground and always felt sorry for her
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
http://misswilma.blogspot.com/ |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 8:14:31 PM
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Hey, it's the way my life goes and I am really glad I learned young that family is who surrounds you and lifts you up. My family lives on lies and since no one ever comes to the source (me), I choose just to let it be. I have bigger things and better people to surround myself with. Thank you for teaching your kids about the truth...
Cheers,
Heather |
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 8:27:19 PM
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Sweetie I wish it wasnt that way for you but think of it this way it has made a better person of you, I am so glad you are above it you know sometimes I think it is a sickness that some cant help.
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
http://misswilma.blogspot.com/ |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Dec 29 2007 : 8:38:18 PM
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Oh Ms. Wilma- you are so sweet!! I never was close to my "blood" family and have made ALOT of wonderful "family" in this big world, so I am blessed no matter what....
Cheers,
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emsmommy5
True Blue Farmgirl
1547 Posts
Angie
Buckley
WA
USA
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Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 01:36:06 AM
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Interesting. Lying was the final straw to the end of the relationship with my mother. I have no room in my life for it. I have done the same and told my kids they will be in a heap of trouble for lying, way more than the deed they are in trouble for. It takes a VERY long time to win back my trust, if ever.
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
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Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 02:00:20 AM
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Lying was one thing along with some other basics that my parents would not tolerate. I didn't want to disappoint my folks. Their were times of omission when I became an adult because somethings need to be private. Confidnences for one.
I had sil who could not tell the truth if her life depended on it. Truthfully, and it is sad. I believe she lives in a world of deception of her own making. She believes the lies and lives in that world. You cannot stay around it because the confusion and mistrust are too much to handle. The challenge is the devastation that it causes with relationships. There is also all the manipulation that goes on with the lying as well. Most times, you truthfully end up having to walk away in the long run. Sad but true.
CS
listening to the quiet moments
Farmgirl #39
www.Quitemoments.blogspot.com |
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 06:23:00 AM
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I think telling the truth is one of the main reasons people have to trust us, I was raised that way to, you know its such a good feeling to look back and there was my grand parents , my parents my brothers so many friends that I could trust with my life because they were so honest,seem like most people lie to get attention, but the people that have had influence in my life are the ones that have been truthful.You know lying causes so much damage and why lie because the one your lying to just might know the truth, I am like you Carol I will try to stay away from a liar.
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
http://misswilma.blogspot.com/ |
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Ronna
True Blue Farmgirl
1891 Posts
Ronna
Fernley
NV
USA
1891 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 1:36:50 PM
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Miss Wilma,
Isn't it sad/maddening/aggravating to deal with a liar. I was married to one-I defended him for a long time, until I woke up and realized he was a liar...and he always said he hated liars..so I guess he hates himself. Now, when I occasionally hear things he says, I just shake my head. My sister has become a liar also in the last 10 or more years, and she was someone who would tell the truth, no matter how bad it hurt someone's feelings. I really think both of them believe the lies they've told over and over are truth. Mother did not teach us this way and it bothered her when she realized her oldest daughter could not be honest about anything.
I do my best to not be around these people, life is way too short.
I want so bad to confront those who lie to me and yet don't want a huge mess, so choose to ignore them when I can.
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 1:47:53 PM
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Ronna it is so good to hear from you, Do you think maybe she just has a problem and doesnt know it, How old is she, I am like you ignoring a liar is all you can do and say away from them as much as possible. Did you get my mail
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
931 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 1:56:52 PM
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I know one family member who is like this. The odd thing is that most of the stuff she lied about didn't even need to be lied about. For example, one Christmas she told all her relatives that she was going to make goodie plates of fudge but all the fudge burned and she had to throw it out. Little did she know that her son just told my brother that his mom made the most delicious fudge that week and they ate so much they almost got sick. She could have said nothing about fudge and didn't need the lie. It was bunches and bunches of little lies that were unneeded. It drives me crazy to be around a liar because you don't have any idea about what is true or not when they are talking.
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 2:09:13 PM
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your right but what really gets me do they really think we are believing them, You know sooner or later those lies do catch up People that lie have to be lonely because no one really wants to keep company with a liar, Sometimes I think they need attention so bad that is one way of getting it. One thing for sure , Maybe liars are a work of art because who could ever figure out a liar.
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
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asnedecor
True Blue Farmgirl
1054 Posts
Anne
Portland
Or
USA
1054 Posts |
Posted - Dec 30 2007 : 2:15:37 PM
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I agree with Wilma - tell the truth, no matter how bad. Another thing I hate is lying because you don't have the answer so you make one up. I have a supervisor who does that - he doesn't know the answer to something so he says it is "corporate policy" or he pulls something out of the air and acts like that is the truth and don't ask again. That just irks me. Just say you don't know but will find out and get back to me. How can you trust someone in charge if they don't tell the truth.
Anne in Portland
"Weeds are flowers too, once you get to know them" Eyeore from Winnie the Pooh
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Dec 31 2007 : 5:11:18 PM
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You can never trust a liar and we were always taught if a person will lie to you they will steal from you to, I try to stay as far away from either as I can wg
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
http://misswilma.blogspot.com/ |
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JessieMae
True Blue Farmgirl
702 Posts
Jessie
Raleigh
North Carolina
USA
702 Posts |
Posted - Jan 02 2008 : 12:03:31 PM
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| I know someone like that, and since she is family, I don't have the luxury of distancing myself from her. Whenever she starts in, I try to remember that there must be some very sad, very lacking part of her life that she is trying to compensate for by telling us such stories. |
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
Posted - Jan 02 2008 : 12:20:58 PM
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Jessie mae you are right thats how I felt, about my sisterinlaw because I knew her background I always felt sorry for her and really did love her mo matter the faults
I am a farm girl married to a sewing machine
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bohemiangel
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Bridget
Ligonier
pa
USA
2087 Posts |
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kydeere40744
True Blue Farmgirl
1132 Posts
Jessica
Kentucky
USA
1132 Posts |
Posted - Jan 23 2008 : 9:38:41 PM
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Wilma - I just thought about your post today as I found out that someone well known had told a lie straight to our face. I had to keep from laughing so hard. All I did was sit there and had a goofy smile on my face. What was even funnier, that song "Alyssa Lies" came on the radio right at that moment.
~Jessica in Kentucky & Miss Wilma's Niece~
Gardening is a way of showing that you believe in tomorrow...
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miss wilma
True Blue Farmgirl
3410 Posts
Wilma
Knob Lick
Ky
USA
3410 Posts |
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