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Runbikegrrl
True Blue Farmgirl
250 Posts
MaryAnn
Waterbury Ctr
VT
USA
250 Posts |
 Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 09:48:13 AM
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Ok girls, this is the scoop-
I have been seeing this guy (4 official dates) but we travel in the same circles now so I have known him for over a month. He is obviously very interested in me. At first I wasn't sure it was mutual...he was too much of a city boy, wore loafers, graduated Ivy league etc. However, he is super nice, polite, does all the right things so I kept seeing him. A few nights ago he kissed me and immediately I knew this was a guy I wanted to have a relationship with. Weird I know but the chemistry is perfect! Now on to the problem. We saw each other again and were having a hard time keeping our hands off each other. He just asked me to come over for dinner and I am sure I know where it will end up...not because that is what he is intending...he is WAY to sweet for that BUT because I don't think I can stop MYSELF! I want to but I don't ...in the past getting physical to soon has mucked things up and morally I will hate myself. I guess I could say we have to go out instead....input anyone. Should I just stop being a prude and go for it...I am a mother of three and it's not like I haven't had casual sex when I was younger...but I really like this guy and want a relationshipwith him.
"So many interests so little time!"
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katie-ell
True Blue Farmgirl
1818 Posts
Katie
Illinois
1818 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 09:55:40 AM
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You know what you want -- a real relationship -- and if it seems like it's too soon for the physical, then it is! Just read what you posted here; it seems obvious that right now is too soon for you. My advice: don't go over for dinner at his place just yet. He sounds like a great guy and worth spending more time with, getting to know each other even more. And when the time is right -- it will be great. Good for you, finding someone worthwile!
www.youaretoocreative.blogspot.com |
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DaisyFarm
True Blue Farmgirl
1646 Posts
Diane
Victoria
BC
Canada
1646 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 10:03:26 AM
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I'm inclined to agree with Katie, although I am quick to admit I'm so far out of the modern loop and way of thinking that I'll never find my way back! It just seems that once the touchdown is scored, the player stops running.
Does he share your farmgirl heart at all and truly understand the things that make you happy? If not, could you become a city girl? I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't "settle"...don't sell yourself short to just have needed companionship.
/mother-mode off.
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 10:03:58 AM
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I went through this too, after my divorce. It was REALLY difficult--on one hand, you're an adult, and you think, "I'm an adult, I can do what I want" and on the other hand, there's all that "stuff" that makes you YOU-- a conscience, morals, self worth and value, and insecurity and all other things wrapped up.
If you think he's worth a relationship with, you should take it one day at a time. If that means paying attention to your gut and taking intimacy slow, then do. I was crazy about Justin, my now husband, but when it got a little "hot" at my house, I sent him right home. It wasn't that I didn't want him to think that I was "easy", it's that I wasn't really ready for that part of a relationship yet--I thought he was the hottest thing that I'd ever seen, but what I wanted most was to savor being courted, and dating--which was something I'd never had before.
Of course, he moved in a couple months after later, so that wasn't too easy to get rid of him after that 
"She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian. |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 2:57:30 PM
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I'm going with Katie on this too! Go OUT (not IN) with the guy. If he asks why just be honest and say "Your hot and I am totally attracted to you. I don't think I could keep my hands of you, but right now I feel like I need to take things a little slower." If he is the right guy and the chemistry is mutual he should understand. If not he's not in it for the same reasons as you so you'll know it's not right.
Jewelry, art, baskets, etc.
www.willowartist.etsy.com
www.willowtreecreek.com |
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Annab
True Blue Farmgirl
2900 Posts
Anna
Seagrove
NC
USA
2900 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 4:13:43 PM
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Too soon, so go out.
It's so tempting and it sounds like feelings are definitely involved.
I'd wait a bit longer |
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GaiasRose
True Blue Farmgirl
2552 Posts
Tasha-Rose
St. Paul
Minnesota
2552 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 4:37:14 PM
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I just want to second and third and fourth what everyone else has just said. If you can't keep your hands from getting to heavy in the petting, AND you want a relationship, I would wait it out until the time is right, emotionally and physically.
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Blogs: http://gaiarose.wordpress.com
http://tasharose365.wordpress.com/
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 5:14:46 PM
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Looks like you are getting good advice, Mary Ann. Good luck. Trina
http://glitteringgoat.blogspot.com/
If you would know Love, you must know pain too. -Hannah Hurnard |
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Runbikegrrl
True Blue Farmgirl
250 Posts
MaryAnn
Waterbury Ctr
VT
USA
250 Posts |
Posted - Jul 19 2007 : 03:53:41 AM
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Thanks for the support...this guy is so special, definitely a keeper! Don't want to "ruin" it!
"So many interests so little time!"
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