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| Cozynana |
Posted - Dec 03 2012 : 8:10:55 PM
My granddaughter has a classmate whose mother is dying and there is not a dad in the picture. Arrangements have been made for this girl to move in with a family when needed.
I would like to do something for these two before Christmas. Anyone else ever been in this situation or heard of a kind act that helped or was appreciated? I want to spend/give $100 to them. Any ideas? |
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| MagnoliaWhisper |
Posted - Dec 06 2012 : 09:34:07 AM
Yes that is exactly the kind of book I am speaking of Carol. They sell many different kinds, but they all do the same basic purpose, filling in a ton of questions about the mother. This way she can have them all in one place...and doesn't have to think while young and stressed out of the questions herself.
I like the letter idea! Maybe send her some nice stationary to do this on!
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| Lessie Louise |
Posted - Dec 06 2012 : 07:01:44 AM
That's a great idea too Julie. This post might help us all. Hallmark used to sell a book that a grandma or mom could fill in. I think it had 365 questions, like Do you remember your first vacation or What is your favorite Christmas memory. I have not been in a Hallmark for a long time but those type of books are out there somewhere. My mom did one for me and what I love is seeing her handwriting.
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| ClaireSky |
Posted - Dec 06 2012 : 06:49:34 AM
What about putting a quilt together using the mother's clothing that she is no longer wearing...
Julie
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| rough start farmgirl |
Posted - Dec 06 2012 : 06:32:05 AM
Beautiful, Joann. Such a lovely way to remember her mother.
Marianne |
| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Dec 06 2012 : 05:45:49 AM
Oh, Joann, that's a wonderful thing--a terribly poignant and sad, but wonderful thing. That's my vote, hands down. My father passed away suddenly when I was 19 and these were all things I wish I'd remembered to ask, along with asking more information about my heritage.
"Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile..."
The Only Living Boy in New York, Paul Simon |
| Joey |
Posted - Dec 05 2012 : 9:46:22 PM
I worked as a hospice RN for awhile and I would encourage the Mom to write a letter(s) to her daughter, maybe for graduation or her wedding day,and future grandbabies. I would encourage the daughter to ask her Mom whatever she want to know... Favorite color? Food? How you met my Dad? First date? Favorite name? Jewelry? Etc. Hess are the questions people wish they had asked before it was too late.
SO sorry this is happening to her. Joey
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| MagnoliaWhisper |
Posted - Dec 05 2012 : 1:51:05 PM
I like the plaster of paris thing and the photos too. REALLY REALLY good photos! Not sears or something. Maybe you can find a local photographer that is really good that would cut you a deal as charity as well! Something not in a studio, but like outside or in their home, or something that is not the usual hum drum photo session!
Also Leeza Gibbons mother I believe has since passed away, but she had alzhiemers and Leeza came up with this kit where you were to use it at the beginning of the disease to get all the info you could from said family member before their memory was too far gone. Questions to ask and such as that. Cause once they are gone they are gone....if you can't find the kit by Leeza. I know I've seen many many mother daughter books like this in the stores the past few years, like even at Sam's club. Find a nice one. And then maybe even help her mom or have some one help her mother fill it out before it's too late. It would have all kinds of questions answered she may have later one after her mother is gone....
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| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Dec 05 2012 : 07:45:03 AM
What a sad, sad thing. As a mother of a little girl, my heart is absolutely breaking for them both. It is so terrible.
I love the idea of the plaster paris thing--and I like the idea of photos--almost anyone with a good digital camera can take good photos now, and then making sure to frame some and put them in an album for her would be key--something tangible that she can take with her anywhere and everywhere throughout her life.
If her mother is able to get around, maybe a "girls outing" would be a nice memory--because, sadly, all the things that this poor thing will need from her mom as a tween, teen aren't going to happen, like makeup for dances, recitals, things of that nature. I'm not a girly girl, but I do know mother's and daughters who go get manicures and pedicures together, or go get their hair done together. It's just a thought.
"Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile..."
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| Lessie Louise |
Posted - Dec 05 2012 : 07:32:04 AM
Maybe some one to take nice pics of the mmom and daughter together? There is a company, NNow I Lay Me Down to Sleep, that takes pictures of stillborns and dying babies. A truly wonderful origanization, here they are professional photographers who donate their time and the photos. Maybe you you can contact them to see if some one could take photos for free or a reduced price. That wolud be a treasrue to the daughter.
....it's what's inside a women, when she's up against the land.
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| Cozynana |
Posted - Dec 04 2012 : 5:28:22 PM
Yes, I was asking what to do or give that would be special. I appreciate funds raiser ideas, but I don't live in the same town. I was thinking of something like the plaster-of-paris kit. I don't know what I want to do. I have never been in this situation before. I just know I want to help somehow. |
| Ninibini |
Posted - Dec 04 2012 : 06:31:52 AM
Kem - we had foster daughters who lived with us when their father was dying of cancer. I suggested to their counselor that they buy a plaster-of-paris kit so that they could make molds and subsequently models of each of their hand in their father's hand. They did so, and now each girl has a beautiful work of art from the heart that they will treasure for a lifetime.
My prayers are with this girl, her mother, and all those who love them. God bless you for your lovingkindness.
Hugs -
Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
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| Emily Anna |
Posted - Dec 04 2012 : 12:42:50 AM
I wasn't sure what you were asking....if we had any ideas of what to give them or how to raise the money.
I was thinking if you were wondering what to give, maybe something they could do together.....like movie and a dinner or maybe getting a manicure together or some kind of pampering. Or, I don't know if your town or one close has some type of class at a local craft store, tech college, or something to that effect where they could go and make something together that the daughter could keep for a remembrance.
Is the mom still able to get around?
Will keep this family in my prayers!
Emily |
| darlenelovesart |
Posted - Dec 03 2012 : 10:33:44 PM
Maybe a good spaghetti feed or Garage sale works well also.
There was someone who had some health problems here and they held a dinner and they did really well.
prayers for the girl and family.
darlene
I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment.
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| Annika |
Posted - Dec 03 2012 : 9:09:08 PM
Kem, are you a good organizer? I've been part of but never organized one before, but community fund raisers can help a lot in that there are likely so many expenses right now in their lives. A community bake sale, pancake breakfast, craft sale etc. could at least give them one heck of a good Christmas together. I'm sad to think of this little girl growing up without her mama and will be keeping them close in my heart.
Thank you for being there and being such a kind and wonderful farmgirl
Hugs n' cookies =}
Annika
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Dec 03 2012 : 9:01:12 PM
I am so sorry to hear such sad news. I will keep your granddaughters classmate in my prayers. Maybe have a cake sale.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
