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| momshopsalotta |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 06:40:45 AM
I really need to vent. After five months of no contact I received a phone call Saturday night from a drunk ex-husband. He was livid as he had just received a letter from Child Support Enforcement telling him that since our daughter will be 18 in Oct. but is a still in high school he is obligated to paying his whopping $76.00 a week until she either graduates or turns 19. Our daughter has serious kidney disease, but she is in remission thanks to the Lord and the anti-organ rejection drugs she takes. "The Prince" says when our DD turns 18, his responsibility is over and they can put him in jail..bla,bla,bla. Then he threatened that if I don't write a letter to Child Support Enforcement withdrawing the child support he will take our daughter off his health insurance plan. Doing this could have disasterous consequences to us financially if our daughter has to be hospitalized and my husband can't add DD to his policy until Jan.
I called Child Support Enforcement and they assured me that he is court mandated to both pay the support and to provide health insurance and tell me he can't do what he threatened to do as the support is taken out of hi paycheck. He is a truck driver so he really can't quit his job. I have decided to stand strong, especially since his three pack a day cigarette habit coast more than the weeks support, not to mention the booze.
While he is pleading poverty and I empathize with him, I can't ignore the fact that he can afford to smoke and drink to total excess, not to mention not calling in five months or seeing his DD for over three years.
What I'm asking for from my farmgirl sisters is strength, prayers and suggestions on how to tell him he's not "getting off the hook". Believe me, it's not going to be pleasant. As usual I'm not mentioning any of this to our daughter as she doesn't have to know what her father is really like, although I think she has already realized it.
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| Dusky Beauty |
Posted - Sep 26 2011 : 10:00:02 PM
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Originally posted by Tapestry
Connie sending prayers your way. I don't think you owe him the courtesy of an explanation or response.
Happy farmgirl sister #353
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| Tapestry |
Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 1:42:06 PM
Connie sending prayers your way. I don't think you owe him the courtesy of an explanation or response. Let him stew. Nothing he can do about it anyway. He just phoned to rattle your cage. Don't let him have that power over you. If he makes any sort of threat against you or your DD call the police. Let them deal with him.
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| grace gerber |
Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 12:18:30 PM
Conie I will keep you in my paryers and sending Light to you for a brighter day.
Grace Gerber
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 9:22:11 PM
Connie my heart just hurts for you and your daughter. Hang in there. I will be praying for you, also.
Marly
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 10:17:25 AM
Will be praying!
CJ
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 09:29:34 AM
Connie, as long as it's court ordered and being taken out of his check, there's not much he can do about it besides quitting. I sure hope he's not drinking while he's driving that big truck. It's so sad that men think their responsibility is over when the child turns 18. Gee, what would happen if women said that? I hope and pray all this is worked out and that your Dd never has to know this about him.
Kris
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| MagnoliaWhisper |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 07:42:05 AM
I personally just wouldn't talk to him with any answer. Since he isn't making arrangements to come see your DD, I don't see a reason why you need to communicate with him. Almost every one has caller ID now, so I just wouldn't answer when he calls. Not like he's going to miss his visitation or something if you don't talk to him.
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| Ingrid |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 07:23:13 AM
Hi Connie, I have a similar ex husband who has been in arrears for twelve years with child support and is with enforcement as well. I get to hear the same story and he has a chewing and alcohol habit as well. Be strong like you are doing. Personally I would go after him for time after she turns the age and he cuts her off because he is still her responsibility and you will need the financial and health insurance help.
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| Lieberkim |
Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 06:53:54 AM
Connie,
Don't appologize. I'm so sorry your family is dealing with this. How can someone say something like that regarding their own child? I'll be praying for you and for your daughter's health.
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