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| Alanna Neupert |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 04:03:52 AM
Please pray for me and my family as we lost my husband, Norm , to bladder cancer Tuesday nite. He fought so hard for 2 years and a yr. ago today had a new bladder put in. I feel so helpless and so alone. I don't know how i'm going to continue on. The farmhouse that we live in is so special and it has been in the family since 1902. We are all so close and that is the only thing tonite that I take comfort in. I can't believe now that I'm a widow. |
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| sherrye |
Posted - Sep 07 2011 : 07:08:56 AM
such a hard position to be in. the feeling of loss is huge. i met a new friend yesterday. she lost her man in june. the sadness is over whelming. we know your pain and are so sorry you are going through this. the time will come when the hole will fill with the good memories. you will be able to think of him with out wanting to stop breathing yourself. in my life i have lost way too many loved ones. some way too soon. right now just hanging on and letting the clock tick time by is good. staying busy with those you love helps too. remember who he is is now a part of who you are. you carry him with you always. Jehovah promises us that all those in the memorial tombs will be resurrected back to life and reunited with their loved ones.it is a wonderful hope. i remind myself of this promise when i am missing my loved ones. i will carry you in my heart today and pray for you to have good sleep and lots of love in your life right now. so very sorry for you. sherrye
the learn as we go silk purse farm
farm girl #1014
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| rough start farmgirl |
Posted - Sep 07 2011 : 04:39:33 AM
Alanna,
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. I know your pain is so fresh that it must seem unbearable, but I hope the love you have pouring out to you from this forum helps some. Praying for peace for your heart.
Marianne |
| HealingTouch |
Posted - Sep 06 2011 : 4:15:45 PM
Alanna, So sorry for your loss. May your memories bring you comfort. God bless you and give you peace.
Be Blessed,
Darlene
Sister 1922
God first, everything else after!
When Satan's knocking at your door, just say "Jesus will you get that for me?"
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| Annika |
Posted - Sep 06 2011 : 2:03:59 PM
Alanna, how are you doing? I've thought of you many times and wished I was there to share a pot of tea/coffee and listen to you and help you as a sister would. I have lost most of my family to cancer, held her hand and watch the life leave my beloved grandmothers eyes. Please allow yourself the time to grieve and find your balance. While I am not the most religious person around, this passage from Psalms 23rd always brings me comfort
"Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil: for thou art with me;
thy rod and thy staff they comfort me"
The key word is through, and I have spent many times contemplating and meditating on the that word. It may sound strange, but knowing that the divine has a light at the end of the dark tunnel of pain and loss may comfort you too.
Hugs
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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| crafter |
Posted - Sep 06 2011 : 1:32:44 PM
Keeping you in my prayers, I'm so sorry for your loss!!
Lori |
| Tapestry |
Posted - Sep 05 2011 : 9:12:31 PM
Alanna I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom this past Feb. to ovarian cancer. Her battle lasted 3 yrs and I spent much of the last few months of her life at her side helping out in any way I could. My dad needed a break. It was very hard on not only mom but the whole family. I'm not sure everyone understands that cancer claims the whole family, not just the person who gets it. I know that its very difficult for your whole family. When mom passed my family did not shed tears. We were so relieved mom's struggle was over. I'm sure some at her funeral thought us a heartless bunch but when you're talking years of ups and downs it becomes a blessing when it is over for your loved one. Some of my siblings would ask me if this was normal for us to feel like that? My answer as a nurse for so many yrs in geriatrics....ABSOLUTELY. I still miss mom every day and I'm sure I will for the rest of my life. I stayed a month and a half after my mom's passing with my dad so he'd not be so lonely during the hardest days so soon after. Do you have a family member or close friend who can stay with you or spend some extra time with you? It helps to have someone close who understands. Take extra good care of yourself for awhile. You deserve it dear Alanna. My prayers are with you.
Happy farmgirl sister #353
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| Blessed in Colorado |
Posted - Aug 27 2011 : 12:37:32 PM
Alanna and family, I am so very sorry for you lose and I will keep you in my prayers, heart and thought. May you find comfort in the memories you and your husband have made over the years with your family.
We (farmgirls) are here to offer comfort and support love and hugs.
Farmgirl {{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}},
Debbie
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| emtfarmer |
Posted - Aug 27 2011 : 12:30:36 PM
Alanna,
I am so sorry for your loss and you are in my prayers. Some of what you may be feeling at this time is sheer exhaustion. Being a caregiver for so long can take its toll without really knowing it; the caregiver keeps on going and giving because they have to. Give yourself time to just rest; don't make any major decisions at this time.
I agree that you should let the folks that are willing to help do just that. There really are people that want to help and they mean it when they ask, "Is there anything I can do?" There presence and generosity are what you need now.
Sending up prayers,
Darlene
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| LuckyMommyof5 |
Posted - Aug 26 2011 : 9:46:45 PM
Alanna - You have my prayers and sympathies - I am so sorry for your loss.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
| Lieberkim |
Posted - Aug 26 2011 : 9:15:41 PM
Alanna,
No words can adequately sooth your broken heart. So I'll just say how sorry I am for your loss and I'll pray for the Lord's peace to surround you.
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - Aug 26 2011 : 05:14:57 AM
Alanna,
I am so sorry for you loss. Prayers for you that God will comfort you and strengthen you. Lean on Him, he can handle it.
Hang on to all those wonderful memories. And as others have said, be open to those around you and let them be there for you.
Hugs,
Denise
farmgirl sister#43
O, a trouble's a ton or a trouble's an ounce,
Or a trouble is what you make it!
And it isn't the fact that you're hurt that counts,
But only--how did you take it?
--Edmund C. Vance.
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| vmfein |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 12:43:29 PM
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I agree with the others and surround yourself with the ones you love.
Farmgirl Sister #2619
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| Sheep Mom 2 |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 11:06:45 AM
Alanna - I know what you are going through as I am a widow too. It's so hard to have an "empty" house....Know that you will get through this. You must allow yourself time to process everything. I am with Grace on this one - let folks embrace you and you them. The worst thing you can do is to withdraw from those you love and that love you. I am keeping you in my prayers - you truly are not alone.
Blessings, Sheri
"Work is Love made visible" -Kahlil Gibran |
| Alanna Neupert |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 10:55:52 AM
Thanks for all of your replies and beautiful prayers. Cabot, Pa is about 30 miles north of Pittsburgh. We just moved onto the family farm about 7 years ago after my father-in-law passed. We had lived down the road in a little cape cod our daughter bought. It's going to be so lonley with out my husband. We've been fighting this cancer for 2 years ago, with all the chemo drugs, hospital visits, nursing home stays. I'm so used giving the shots to him and self cath 4-5 times a day that I don't know what to do with myself. |
| grace gerber |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 09:52:44 AM
Oh Alanna I am so very sorry to read of your loss - I am a widow also so I know of your pain. I am here for you in any way you wish me to be. Hold your family close, give yourself time to deal with the pain and sarrow, reach out to others and PLEASE except their help in whatever form it comes in. I with pray for you and yours and know that the love you shared with your husband is still there even if he is not. Love, Light and Peace to you - you are not alone.
Grace Gerber
Larkspur Funny Farm and Fiber Art Studio
Where the spirits are high and the fiber is deep
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| Calicogirl |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 08:54:53 AM
Alanna,
I am SO SORRY to hear of your husband's passing. I am keeping you in prayer asking that the Lord would comfort you, strengthen you and give you peace in your heart.
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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| Ninibini |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 08:20:53 AM
Oh, Alanna... I'm SO sorry... You and your loved ones are in my prayers. God bless you. Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 07:43:23 AM
Alanna, I am so sorry. I am praying for comfort for you and your family.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| craftingram |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 06:09:54 AM
Alanna, I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for you, for strength to get through the coming days.
Karin
Farmgirl #2708
Romans 8: 38,39 |
| Annika |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 05:57:33 AM
Alanna ~ Love, strength and comfort coming your way. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.
Farmgirl hugs
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 05:57:22 AM
So sorry for your loss, Alanna--bladder cancer is sure hard on a body and your husband is at peace, now. Sad for those left behind, but I'm glad that you can take comfort in your family and the farmhouse.
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| embchicken |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 05:08:31 AM
Alanna~ I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for your strength and peace of mind.
~ Elaine
Farmgirl sister #2822
"Find yourself a cup of tea; the teapot is behind you. Now tell me about hundreds of things." ~Saki
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| beekeepersgirl |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 04:57:57 AM
Prayers going your way Alanna -
Where is Cabot, PA?
Big farmgirl hugs,
Luanne
beekeepersgirl #691
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
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| momshopsalotta |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 04:37:39 AM
God bless you Alannna and give you strength to endure.
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Aug 25 2011 : 04:30:55 AM
Praying for you and your family. Find strength in the memory of your dear husband.
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farmgirl sister #922
Don't go with the flow...you are the flow.
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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