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| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Nov 17 2010 : 10:45:45 PM
Hello Sisters !
I am brand new here I'm your sister #2339. I lost my husband to Mesothelioma July 14th,2010. I am trying to find my new place in this world and discover what my purpose is now that our kids are grown and my husband is gone. I am struggling to figure it all out.
I live on a farm in Kansas and was born and raised on a big ranch on the plains. I can't imagine leaving here, but don't know how I will keep up with it all since I am alone. Don't want to make a move unless it is just too much. The kids are worried but they have families of their own. They say they will be here to help...but.. havent seen it yet ! 
I ask for your prayers that I will be lead to understand just why I am here and for strength to carry on.
Thank you and blessings and hugs to you all..
Kristy
The Eggfarmgirl |
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| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 12 2010 : 4:13:51 PM
Dear Beth,
Yes ,I am in counseling with Hospice. They have been wonderful. I honestly think I would have lost my mind without them. Before husband passed they were wonderful to me and our family. One of their volunteers happens to be a good friend and my case manager (Disability). She has also been so supportive and faithful to check in on me regularly. She is also the one that has encouraged me to journal and do a gratitude check in with her each day. Telling her at least 3 things I am grateful for that day. It has helped me so very much.
I have not been able to attend the group gatherings as I no longer drive. And to be honest... I have not wanted to go to groups where it is widows and widowers. I know.. sounds weird. But, I went to one church function that was a mixed group and it seemed to be a see who you could hook up with situation ! Ugg !! I had the best.. I don't want the rest !!
Thank you all so much for being here for me and for eachother! God has blessed me by finding each of you here at MJF!!
Hugs...
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
http;//www.myhealingthroughartstory.blogspot.com |
| MotherLodeBeth |
Posted - Dec 12 2010 : 12:25:03 AM
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Originally posted by eggfarmgirl
Hello Sisters !
I am brand new here I'm your sister #2339. I lost my husband to Mesothelioma July 14th,2010. I am trying to find my new place in this world and discover what my purpose is now that our kids are grown and my husband is gone. I am struggling to figure it all out.
I live on a farm in Kansas and was born and raised on a big ranch on the plains. I can't imagine leaving here, but don't know how I will keep up with it all since I am alone. Don't want to make a move unless it is just too much. The kids are worried but they have families of their own. They say they will be here to help...but.. havent seen it yet !
I ask for your prayers that I will be lead to understand just why I am here and for strength to carry on.
Thank you and blessings and hugs to you all..
Kristy
The Eggfarmgirl
Kristy is there a local hospice near you? I ask because the one near me has a wonderful widow/widowers group that meets once a week. And yes its hard the first two years after a spouse has died. I say frist two years because thats what we were told at the support group and it prepared me. Reach out and ask for specific help from the kids and be blunt and tell them what you need and when you need it. And tell them you need it NOW. Been there done that.
I remember being so mad because everyone had their family and normal lives and had no idea what I was going thru. Then I spoke up and reminded them that unlike me they had someone daily who loved them and was there to talk to etc. Now I call shut in friends, widow/widower, caregiver friends and ask how they are doing weekly and even more often, just because I remember how sad and lonely I felt after Ron died.
Hope those who read you comments, take the time to call their parents, grandparents etc who are alone now and ask how they are doing and then ask what can they do to help, and mean it.
MotherLodeBeth
~Was born in the wrong era~ |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 08 2010 : 10:38:23 AM
Hello my penpal ! So glad you popped in and saw my loves hand. Thank you for your kind comment. It is a treasure to our family now and brings me such comfort just laying my hand atop his. Weird... Maybe! But who cares ! lol !! I too am excited to learn more about you and get to know my sis ! Soon as I get home from the grandbabies I will get busy and get to writing and creating ! Cant wait to hear from you as well !!
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
http;//www.myhealingthroughartstory.blogspot.com |
| herb19355 |
Posted - Dec 07 2010 : 12:59:23 PM
Hi Pen Pal..... wow... you are an amazing woman. I love the art thing with the hand. What a treasure. I am sure I going to learn a ton as your penpal. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Debi |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 07 2010 : 10:14:01 AM
Thank you Sisters ! Yes, I am feeling joy in the littlest of things these days. As I write I am sitting with my sick daughter and watching my granddaughter, who is also sick ! Ummmm... I'm thinkin I might be next.. sore throat and stuffy nose ! Oh dear ! Will be heading home tomorrow. Have loved every moment with the babies and grands. But ready for home and my own bed !! LOL !
Ok...time to wipe runny noses and fix chicken noodle soup !
Hugs to all...
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
http;//www.myhealingthroughartstory.blogspot.com |
| star-schipp |
Posted - Dec 06 2010 : 11:56:28 AM
Kristy, I'm praying for you too.
We can do no great things; only small things with great love - Mother Teresa
Star - farmgirl sister #1927
Master Food Preserver |
| Cherime |
Posted - Dec 06 2010 : 11:49:47 AM
It reminds me of Celtic art. Woven and interwoven. It took me a while to clean out the bedroom but I did so as well as rearranged rooms and gave away stuff to people I knew would use it and such like. Took quite a while but I am glad to see you taking joy in creating bless you.
CMF |
| Julia |
Posted - Dec 05 2010 : 2:53:20 PM
Hey Kristy, I just sent you an email. Know you are in my prayers.
I wear my cape around my waist.
#440
http://myfeetaredirty.blogspot.com
http://www.turnerhilltea.blogspot.com/ |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 03 2010 : 09:31:03 AM
Thank you so much ! I love doing Zentangle it is not only creative it is calming and very meditative. I'm very happy that I did this just months before he passed. Thank you for your comments!!
Hugs...
Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339 |
| sonshine4u |
Posted - Dec 03 2010 : 06:10:57 AM
Wow! That's so cool! What a great journal page!
Playing in the Sonshine
http://www.homesteadblogger.com/sonshine4u |
| KathyC |
Posted - Dec 02 2010 : 8:22:39 PM
Kristy,
Your art is beautiful!
Kathy |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 02 2010 : 8:15:53 PM
Here is the piece I did in a journal. I'm working with a new scanner/printer and can't get the whole thing in the scan. But at least you get some idea. This one is of my late husbands hand. It has become a treasure to me. It is created using Zentangle(registered trade mark. More info on www.zentangle.com ) I have also done my hand and the hands of our children and grands.I post my work to Flickr and this one went to #3 in the world for several weeks. I also trade and do commissioned workes in this style and others. This one brings my much joy. 
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339 |
| violetrose |
Posted - Dec 02 2010 : 3:50:54 PM
Kristy, Can't wait to see it!
Hugs, Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
St. Augustine |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 02 2010 : 11:58:43 AM
Dear Ruth,
Thank you so much ! Yes I am feeling joy once again through my art. I will post a piece I did that went to #3 in the world on a website I go to. It is something I did in a journal that has become a treasure.You will understand what I mean when you see it. I am going to figure out my new Scanner/printer and load it as soon as I finish my rounds here on MJF...so keep watching !! I guess hearing it from you makes me realize I am making strides and am finally finding peace and joy in my life. I went to our womens Bible study last night and I know it was the first time I didn't ask for prayers for healing of my broken heart. Wow... God is so good ! Ok... getting excited to read,post and there is a muse singing in my ear... you need to get this on paper soon !! lol !!!
Hugs and blessings..
Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339 |
| violetrose |
Posted - Dec 02 2010 : 04:51:09 AM
Kristy, You are making my heart sing with joy and praise! Thanking the Lord for you, and the strides you are making. Can you share some of your art with us? I'd love to see your creations, and I'm sure our other sisters would too! Downloading is so easy now, thanks to our wonderful friends at MJF!
Thrilled about what you have done to your bedroom and the teddy bear! You know I did the same thing after my husband left me, but had forgotten all about it - it did wonders for me! Even got a teddy bear! I still have him and he is a special friend, he's a little worn, but still too cute!
Many hugs sweet sista!
Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
St. Augustine |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 01 2010 : 1:43:27 PM
Thank you Sistas ! Yes my muse is back...my muse is back ! Oh how I have missed you. Peace is found at the end of a pencil,pen,brush and paper. ahhhh...! Oh and the cleaning bug hit hard here the last 3 days. Yeah, the cobwebs were about to cover a window and the dust..well lets just say it really needed it. I am also working on our bedroom. Since my husbands death I hate going to bed. So, decided to turn it into a girlie girl room with lots of pink shades and ivory accents. Moving and relocating a few pieces of furniture,bought some new bedding and we will see what happens then . Even got myself a big teddy bear to cuddle with! Yes...inside this 53 year old hen is a chick just dying to get out ! lol !! or wait...maybe I am reverting to my childhood ? yikes !! 
Off to do somethin...forgot what.. but off for now !
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339 |
| sonshine4u |
Posted - Dec 01 2010 : 10:12:21 AM
Ahhhh! How cool! I'm so excited your creating! That is fun and it does wonders for our souls! Warm hugs to you!
Playing in the Sonshine
http://www.homesteadblogger.com/sonshine4u |
| Annika |
Posted - Nov 30 2010 : 8:31:16 PM
*Hugs* Kristy ! I'm so excited for you that you are creating again!!! How wonderful is that?
Your beloved hunny is looking down and giving you a big thumbs up, I just know it =)
I'm so glad that you've found your way back to your art.
You Rock!!!!
God Bless and have a good night
Annika
Sister #13 |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Nov 30 2010 : 8:19:23 PM
Hello my sisters ! Yes...God is good. I have been so blessed this week. By friends coming over to spend the day with me. Through emails from several of you and your messages here. Counting my blessings not my fears. He will show me a new way of walking the rest of this journey called life,without my loving husband physically at my side. I know he walks with our Lord and they are both with me every step I take and every breath I breathe. I stand on "I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me " Phil.4:13. It does not say some things it says... ALL !! I had a bit of a breakthrough this weekend. I am an artist and I have not been able to do any artwork since my husbands passing in July. He was my biggest cheerleader and the last year together we were together 24/7. Even through his many hospital stays I would take some of my artsupplies with me and do them from my cot in his room. He would always tell me... OH Honey...that's my new favorite ! Lol ! God love him. Anyway, this past weekend I just felt the need to do some creating. My muse has returned and it felt Soooooooo... good ! Smiling tonight as I write this post.
Thank you all for your prayers,messages and emails!!You Rock..as my 3 year old granddaughter says !! lol !!
God bless...
Hugs..
Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339 |
| sonshine4u |
Posted - Nov 30 2010 : 7:47:43 PM
Isn't the Lord good? Your kiddos surprising you on Thanksgiving day is such a fun treat! God knows all those little needs, doesn't He!? He'll sustain you and keep your chin up! Praying for you and so glad you can be part of the sisterhood! Loads of virtual hugs for you! Take care sweetheart!
~April
Playing in the Sonshine
http://www.homesteadblogger.com/sonshine4u |
| texdane |
Posted - Nov 29 2010 : 5:34:11 PM
Kristy,
Bless your heart, sweetie. I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE |
| classygram |
Posted - Nov 29 2010 : 06:54:48 AM
The Lord does take care. What a beautiful blessing your Thanksgiving day turned out to be. It sounds like you had a lovely time. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of you dear husband. The Lord will see you through this new life change. And you have many loving and caring farmgirl sister's here for you always. Hugs, Brenda
http:///www.scatteredlittleblessings.blogspot.com
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
| Cherime |
Posted - Nov 29 2010 : 06:09:54 AM
I understand how you feel and am so glad that the Lord answered all the prayers for you for Thanksgiving. I lost my husband in 06 and was a walking basket case for quite a while. Big hugs and know that now Jesus is your husband now as God is a father to the fatherless. Hugs. Cherime
CMF |
| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Nov 28 2010 : 8:34:10 PM
Hello Sisters !
Please forgive me for not posting this earlier. I ended up having a blessed Thanksgiving ! I did have the younger single woman over for the day. I cooked the traditional Thanksgiving meal for us. Actually fixed way to much, but have leftovers for the freezer and a care package for her. It was great to keep busy and not find myself wallowing my my pain of missing my husband. My son and DIL surprised us and came walking in the door saying... Momma Im home ! Yeah ! We had a wonderful visit and somehow we ate again before they had to head home. I finally crawled in bed about 11 after giving much thanks to God for His blessings and getting me through what I thought was going to be a terrible day ! Thank you all for your emails and your concern. I am so blessed by each of you and so thankful for Mary Jane and MJF Connection. I have already been accepted in a chapter here in Kansas and look forward to getting involved and getting to know more of you !!!
Hugs and gratitude..
Kristy
"Live like you were diein'"
Sis #2339 |
| violetrose |
Posted - Nov 28 2010 : 2:20:51 PM
Hi Kristy, I'm checking in to see how your weekend was. Been thinking about you and praying for you and wanted you to know!
Hugs, Ruth
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
St. Augustine |
