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| catramsey |
Posted - May 23 2010 : 7:15:42 PM
My daughter just told me she wanted to leave her husband of 11 years. She said she doesn't feel she is in love anymore. Long story short, they had problems in the past due his depression and not showing affection to her and she weathered it and now things have turned around for the better. However since she has started school and made good grades and she is losing weight, she feels she doesn't love him anymore and wants to move on. She hasn't made up her mind, but is 90% sure she wants to go. She has two precious daughters 8 & 10 who are very close to their daddy. She has at least 4 more years to finish her degree. She thinks she will get grants if she is single as it is she has to pay and it is hard on her.
Please pray she and her husband can find love again and her family stays together. I feel it would be a big mistake if she leaves. I don't want my granddaughers hurt either. Her husband is a hard worker, a great Dad and provider. He doesn't want her to leave.
Please pray for her.
Thank you so much,
Cathy
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| HealingTouch |
Posted - Jun 16 2010 : 10:47:24 PM
There has to be something she hasn't told you. She is angry for some reason. What seems like a good man and daddy to you may not be what he is behind closed doors. It is worse to subject everyone to an unhealthy relationship. Sometimes you just outgrow each other and need to realize it. It may not be easy if she leaves but it may be worse if she stays. All you can do is pray for God's divine intervention and be there no matter what she decides. I stayed with a controlling and abusive husband for 42 years because my parents divorced and I didn't want my children to go through it. Was I right? Now my children say I should have left. I should have. Everyone just thinks my husband is great, the life of the party. See what I said about behind closed doors? I will pray for your daughter and grandchildren that whatever is decided is for the will of God. She is young and has a long life ahead of her. She should be wise about her decision so she can live in peace for herself and her daughters. God Bless. Darlene |
| babysmama |
Posted - Jun 13 2010 : 2:47:44 PM
No one should have to stay in a marriage that makes them unhappy or mad. With that said, I am totally against divorce and rather think that no matter what your marriage is right now, it can always be better. It doesn't have to be this way.
It sounds like her husband is a good man, but just not a good husband. With some counseling I think that he could learn with time what she needs, and what their marriage needs and she could learn the same things.
I pray that she can find some peace in her marriage and that they can get help. A truly good marriage counselor is a marriage saver.
-Elizabeth |
| Cindy Lou |
Posted - Jun 13 2010 : 2:05:53 PM
Your daughter has decided to stay but I pray she doesn't just feel angry and trapped. An unhappy mom makes for an unhappy family. Marriage definately takes work on both sides. If her husband has had bouts of depression that may be a continuing problem that needs to be adressed medically for the good of all of them. She is making changes in her life that are for the better, with school and her health. Sometimes it seems that change is for the best but this one deserves more thought for sure.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
Mary Oliver |
| Roxy7 |
Posted - Jun 12 2010 : 09:55:41 AM
Still praying. |
| tea_lady_tammy |
Posted - Jun 12 2010 : 08:28:42 AM
I will be lifting up your daughter and family and you too. I know this is very difficult time. May God touch her heart.
hugs
Tammy
Tea is like being in the stars with God.
http://breathsoffaith.blogspot.com |
| maggie14 |
Posted - Jun 11 2010 : 8:33:19 PM
I totally agree with Yannira! Fireproof is a great movie.
She should really watch it.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
| peebs |
Posted - Jun 11 2010 : 8:22:18 PM
Dear Cathy, My prayers go out to you, your daughter and her family. I'm sure you have heard of it, but I caught a glimpse of the movie "Fireproof" the other day, and it brought me to tears (of appreciation). If you can, get your daughter the movie. They even sell a daily devotional just like the one in the movie, that she can read. I recommend this movie to anyone, even the ones that have strong marriages. It will give you much appreciataion for the one you share your life with. May the Lord send his blessings upon your family.
Yannira. |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - May 25 2010 : 8:09:00 PM
That is so sad. I pray they will work things out and that she will stay.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| catramsey |
Posted - May 25 2010 : 06:03:13 AM
Thank you. I will keep everyone posted.
Cathy
www.tashicreations.blogspot.com |
| Marcy |
Posted - May 25 2010 : 05:53:43 AM
Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Know that you are all thought of and please keep us posted.
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
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| catramsey |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 10:47:10 PM
The tears just keep coming. I know marriage can be fragile and it is hard. I pray she and her husband can find their way back to each other. I am scared for them, but know God takes care of us. I will continue to pray and seek His guidance.
Thank you all again.
Cathy
www.tashicreations.blogspot.com |
| Roxy7 |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 10:29:23 PM
Prayers sent. |
| catramsey |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 5:18:00 PM
I am crying as I read your prayers and support. I raised my two children as a single parent for over 20 years and it is not what I want for my daughter. Thank you all so much for your prayers and support. I really love all of you and appreciate how you gather around those of us in time of need. I spoke to my daughter this afternoon and of course started to cry. She said she has decided to stay even though it makes her angry to stay. She said she doesn't think she will find anything better if she leaves. I am going to continue to pray hard for her and my son-in-law and I told her I understood and wanted to help her and Ed as much as possible. I told her I wanted her to be happy and that if she hung in there and pulled on us older woman for insite and support that it would all work out and be worth it. Please continue to pray for them. I thank you all for your prayers.
Cathy
www.tashicreations.blogspot.com |
| staci860 |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 12:58:43 PM
Cathy, your family will be in my prayers.
I feel for your daughter as I walked a similar path in my marriage for many years.
God can restore and renew. I'll add an amen and amen to Soibhan's prayer.
Blessings, staci FG# 973
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Joshua 24:15 - ...choose this day whom you will serve,...as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
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| clothedinscarlet |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 11:39:11 AM
Oh :(
Father God, I just ask for You to intervene in this situation and let YOUR love fill both the hearts of Cathy's daughter and her son-in-law. It's not the "feeling" of love that they need again, but actual LOVE, which is You, God. Your word says that You ARE love and we pray together, along with Cathy, that what God has joined together, that no man will separate. We pray that they will find again their first love that was present the day that they were married in Your sight. We pray for the sakes of the children, but also for the parents as, if they hold on through these times, they will surely look back and see Your hand leading them through and they will be glad that they made the decision to stay.
I pray that Cathy's daughter would feel the support and security that she needs to feel from her husband and that she would find affection in his loving embrace like she once did and even more. I pray that Cathy's son-in-law would feel the confidence and respect and honor that he needs to feel from his wife and that he would pour out affection like never before. I pray that he will encourage his wife to follow her dreams so that she would know that her dreams are THEIR dreams and likewise, that she would encourage him to follow his dreams and be the best man that he can be for his family and that she would truly be his help-meet. Father, put passion back where passion has been lost and a desire to kindle a dying flame rather than snuffing it out and moving on. Bring peace to their home and ONLY encouraging words. Thank you, Father, that you are a God of restoration and of life-long GOOD marriage. In Jesus' name, AMEN!
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
| maggie14 |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 10:55:38 AM
Prayers sent!
I agree with what Julia says. Love doesn't always stay like 'falling in love'. Sometimes it takes work.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
| julia hayes |
Posted - May 24 2010 : 08:27:21 AM
Cathy, I am breathing deeply. This is so difficult. It is impossible to know what this kind of decision will bring her. More happiness? Less happiness? Who knows. It is very very sad indeed. People convince themselves that love ought to stay like 'falling in love' and it doesn't. It matures, it stagnates, it wanes, it rejuvenates. It does all kinds of things no one can know if one is always searching for the one thing they think it is or ought to be....
My thoughts are with you for healing...~julia
being simple to simply be
Farmgirl #30
www.julia42.etsy.com
www.about-aria.blogspot.com |
| catramsey |
Posted - May 23 2010 : 10:27:35 PM
Thank you for your prayers. My heart is breaking. I am going to be praying non-stop for saving this family. He is a good man and the granddaughters deserve a whole family with two parents. Thank you all again for your prayers.
Cathy
www.tashicreations.blogspot.com |
| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - May 23 2010 : 8:12:26 PM
Cathy, prayers out to your daughter and her family. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. She should not make any decision quickly that involves breaking up a family. I pray that the love she had for him in the beginning is still there and she can find it. Sometimes it is something that we just need to make up our mind to do.
Age only matters if you are wine or cheese.
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| Bear5 |
Posted - May 23 2010 : 7:28:10 PM
Cathy:
I will be praying for your daughter. I will also pray for her husband.
God Bless.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
