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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 4:02:06 PM
I am so upset, I have a beautiful step-grandson who I love more than anything. His mom and her self-controlling daddy of her other child, not my grandson. Just got evicted from their home. She was out looking for another place and I kept Gio. I have him only 2 or 3 days a week (in a row) I used to have him more when she was working. Now she only works one night. So I had him for 2 days + one night.
I went to drop him off but she wasn't home and never answers her cell phone until she checks the message and comes up with some excuse.
So it's past 6 pm she comes over and gives her dad lip as he's trying to find a place for her to live. She does'nt want to live in the one place we can afford to help her with. I said Gio fell asleep 1 hour ago so if you can carry him out now he will probley stay sleeping. I said I think the reason he doesn't want to leave here is because our house is quieter. I thought that sounded polite.
She said it's because we spoil him and I said we just have more time to play with him. I thought that sounded polite.
She said he gets away with everything here. I said we don't yell at him for walking in front of the TV.
Her dad said he doesn't do anything wrong here.
She said screw you guys and picked him up and left. He woke up screaming I want to stay at Gramma's please, mommy please can I stay at gramma's. Her reply shut-up your going home and right in the corner if you don't shut-up.
Please pray for Gio safety. I know she is a good mom most of the time but this guy is really not good for her and she can't see it. He is bi-polar and not on medicine at this time. He does work hard and pays the bills so I give him credit for that.
I know she's stressed out but we have bent over backwards for her, because of her children.
I just love that little man so much. Please pray that she will calm down and let us continue to watch him when she is working so that the new daddy won't have to.
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 3:50:57 PM
Diane, maybe you should bite the bullet and call your stepdaughter. I know you did nothing wrong, amd you don't need to apologize. Maybe just say what another farmgirl said, i know our nerves were on edge and some things got said, lets just clam down and start over. Tell her you love your little grandson, love having him around and are more than happy to help take care of him. This might be hard to do. But, for Gio's sake I would try. This thing will only escalate more and more. And who suffers, the little boy? Cut her some slack and like what was said before she is probably on edge dealing with her mate. If it doesn't work at least you know you tried. A little sympathy and kindness could really turn things around here I think. I know it is hard to do that sometimes, but so worth it for Gio.
Prayers and Hugs
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
| staci860 |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 2:13:22 PM
Oh Diane, you have come to a wonderful place for support from a group of women who seem to have seen the worst (and best) of this world. AMEN to Siobhan's prayer.
Praying for peace and safety for all of you,
staci |
| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Apr 24 2010 : 2:35:39 PM
She hasn't left him alone yet with her new boy friend. He has been going to his other gramma's but he must be driving her crazy because he's suppose to come here on monday. I'll wait and see what happens.
I tried callind social services once on my nephew's they didn't have a full floor on their second story house but social services said they have a roof over their heads and are being fed so their was nothing they could do. So my friend an I put a floor down in a day. It took them a while but they finally grew up into good men.
Not everyone can deal with hyper-active kids. I can.
Thank-you so much for the prayers, I know God heard them.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| Sue Feely |
Posted - Apr 24 2010 : 09:25:42 AM
Diane - I agree with Mary, call protection services, I did my siblings and I on our own father whom has abused my mother in many ways! We called senior protective servies and now my mom (whom is a stroke victim 5 years ago) is living nearby with my brother and his wife; now mom is the happiest she has ever been in her life! This was very hard to do especially since we were all afraid of out fathers retailation but we just bit the bullet and did what was best for out dear mother!
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| maggie14 |
Posted - Apr 22 2010 : 09:07:39 AM
Hugs Diane!! I will be praying!
Hugs!
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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| clothedinscarlet |
Posted - Apr 21 2010 : 5:51:12 PM
Oh Diane....(((HUGS))) :(
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Apr 21 2010 : 3:15:10 PM
My DH went over to babysit the 2 kids today, I told him I would go and maybe that would break the ice, He said she didn't want me there. I said then you should not go. He said I have to I want to see my grandchildren. I said so do I. So he said he would not go. 2 seconds later she called and asked him if he was comming over he said yes...It sucks when you can't count on your husband..He was there for 1 hour than called me and asked me if I talked to his other kids about kidnapping Gio. I said I can't believe you would ever ask me anything like that. He said I know you wouldn't say or do that, so why did you ask me? Call your other 2 daughters and ask them. He said I have to go the baby needs changing and has a rash...I feel like just walking away from him and his family forever..
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| MrsRooster |
Posted - Apr 21 2010 : 11:02:46 AM
Lots of prayers.
www.mrsrooster.blogspot.com
Farmgirl #1259
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Apr 21 2010 : 10:47:45 AM
Diane . . . you can count on me!! I've certainly been able to count on you!!!
That kind of stuff is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO difficult to deal with . . . and I pray wisdom for you and your hubby!!!! Safety for Gio!!!
Keep us posted!!
LOVE YOU GIRLFRIEND!!
CJ
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Apr 21 2010 : 09:29:11 AM
Thank-you, I knew I would feel better when I could get it out. The prayers mean a lot to me. Thank-you all.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| clothedinscarlet |
Posted - Apr 21 2010 : 06:27:50 AM
Awe...poor little guy. It definitely sounds as if your sd is on edge and tired and frustrated probably because of walking on egg shells all the time with a bi-polar man in the house. Is he abusive? If so, I would take the advice of Mary and contact CPS for the child's sake. You can't force her to make the right decision for herself as far as being in a healthy relationship, but there is no reason why her decision should effect the safety and security of her helpless little boy. :(
I'm sorry she reacted so harshly to you. She is probably just very aware that her son feels much safer and happier at your home and is really angry with herself for not being able to provide that for him.
Heavenly Father, I just lift this family up to You and ask that You will bring peace into their household. Shine Your light in there so that the darkness must go! I pray that you would fill little Gio's mommy with peace and love and that those would be the things overflowed into his life rather than frustration and fear. I also pray that you will bring healing in the mind of the man in that house so that there can be stability and security for them all. Give Diane peace as she prays for the safety of this little guy whom she loves so much. I pray that her house will be a haven of rest for him in the midst of what seems like a troubling life at home right now. Be Gio's comfort, Lord, and shelter him from all harm. You are a good God and you love Your little ones. Thank you for hearing all of our prayers on behalf of Diane and her family situation and we pray that your goodness and mercy will show itself in the days to come! In Jesus' name, AMEN!
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
| debtea2 |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 8:44:40 PM
oh diane
i pray gio is safe and your sd sees the light before its too late
i'll pray for her too that she may find her way ..
deborah
http://jerseyfarmgirl.blogspot.com/
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 7:26:41 PM
Diane, I will be praying for this little one. I'm sorry, but this makes me mad and it's not right. I feel so sorry for these poor little children that get jerked around and the parents can't see what they are doing to them. It just breaks my heart for them. Yes, he feels safe and secure at your house. He feels loved and protected there. You give him stability. I just wish there wasn't so much put on these little kids. I pray for him and all the little kids that are going through the same things. And for you and your husband because I know your heart is breaking too. And you probably worry so much when he's not with you. I pray she will continue letting him come stay with ya'll.
Hugs, Kris
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| classygram |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 7:24:19 PM
Oh Diane prayers are coming right now for Gio that things will work out where he will feel loved and safe. Also for you and your husband that the Lord will give the guidence in how to handle this for Gio. God Bless Him.
HUGS~~~~~Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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| MaryLD |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 4:18:24 PM
hi Diane,
Prayers sent!
I am not alone on these forums, as being someone who has called Child Protective Services on a family member. Family ties can mend, but the things that happen to precious little ones that are harder to mend. Unmedicated bi polar can be very scary in any household, esp one with small children. Anyone can make an anonymous call to CPS.
I wish you and yours the best,
Mary LD
Haflingers- You can't have just one!
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| Annika |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 4:13:23 PM
Gosh Diane, it sounds like you could all use a little prayer. I hope that the daddy who is bi-polar gets on some medicine. It is very hard to live fully with out the help when you have a mood disorder.
Praying for this whole thing to simmer down and for your poor GS particularly.
*hugs* This is a difficult thing you are going through. I just hope that you get Gio back soon. It really sounds like he could use the stability.
Blessings
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
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| Roxy7 |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 4:12:40 PM
Prayers sent. |
| Firemama |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 4:10:45 PM
Diane, I am surely praying for the little guys safety!
Mama to 2
FarmGirl# 20
People can only make you feel inferior with your permission, and you dont have my permission......
Dont let the chain of love end with you.....
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