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| melody |
Posted - Feb 19 2010 : 07:43:41 AM
My sister begins her incarceration this afternoon at 1:00 for her
2nd DUI offence in less than a year. She will be serving 20-days in the county jail...very far away from where I live.
She insists that she is an Alcohol Abuser not an Alcoholic. I think the line between the two is a very fine one. She is in a very deep state of denial and I want to ask my farm girls to please say a prayer for strength, guidance, and realization; that during this time of incarceration she will reflect on what has led her to this point. And after serving her time, that she move forward to lead a healthy, responsible, and non-alcoholic life.
Thank you so much!
Melody |
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| mellaisbella |
Posted - Feb 22 2010 : 10:23:24 AM
peace be with you Melody...and yes, we all do care about you. HUGS!!
"we must be the change we wish to see in the world"
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| cheneygal |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 9:02:59 PM
Melody, you should never be afraid to post someting that concerns you, as it concerns us all, for you!! I also have a family member who is an active alcoholic. Been through re-hab 3 times, still drinks, cleans up his act for a week or two, and then he's back at it again. It is so terribly hard on the rest of the family members and my heart truly goes out to you. I don't think any of us will ever understand this illness. I will pray for you, and your sister that she comes to terms with this, and when her time is up, will realize her life needs to change. As I said, my prayers are with you. Keep your chin up lady, there are many of us here that care!!
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| melody |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 8:11:34 PM
Terri....I know for a fact that we in our family have addictive tendencies---OCD is a really big one with us. Not to the extreme, but perfectionism to a fault. It was very difficult growing up seeing this in my mother and then later in my life---my sisters still call me "the picture straightener!" We also have a tendency for diabetes and breast cancer. I know that if a person has the genetic coding the possibilities are greater, but I also know that as God's children we have "free will." I know it, but it doesn't make it any easier. I know my sister is an intelligent, sensitive, woman--and my heart just aches for her as it not only affects her as a woman, mother, daughter and sister it affects all of us. I pray that this incarceration will give her time to think about her life.
Terri....I am so glad you posted a comment about this. I think that you are very brave! And, I applaud you for your courage and tenacity each and every day of your life. You have given me inspiration... Thank you!
"The best mirror is an old friend."
- George Herbert
Melody
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| 5 acre Farmgirl |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 5:41:09 PM
Melody...I too, am a recovering alcoholic, havent drank for 30 plus years, but, I still remember what it was like, I NEVER want that life again lost all that was dear to me....I can pray my friend......also, some genetic makeups are more prone to drink than others....its almost they cant help it, UNTIL they realize they are the problem....
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 5:27:23 PM
Melody, It is an illness, It is very hard on all. My son also has this. He would say I only drink on the weekends, I don't drive when I drink. But in one weekend he could put away a half gallon of Vodak when that was done a bottle or two of wine. He is activily working on it now. He does well when he stays in AA daily. He goes to work daily, active in is church, has a lot of good friends, bikes does sports is 30 and has a wonderful non drinking girlfriend who tries to get him past his cravings I hate this illness. You and your sister are in my prayers.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
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| melody |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 3:32:04 PM
Thank you ladies for sharing with me. I was kind of scared to post this, but I am glad now that I did.
Funny thing...On Friday I turned the TV on and who happened to be on that particular channel? Dr. Phil---I rarely watch his show as that is the time the kids are home from school, etc. but on Friday the episode that aired was "Moms Who Drive Drunk" and the guests name was the same as my sisters--I cried like a baby...
"The best mirror is an old friend."
- George Herbert
Melody
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 3:08:09 PM
Melody, there is not a thing you can do? Except to pray for her. It has got to be her that comes to the point where she's had enough and she gets help. No one can do that for her. I also have been through this with family members. I hate it. I don't understand it at all. What makes people choose alcohol or drugs over their own children? I'll never understand. It just makes me so sad. My mother, my siter and brother and my 2 daughters all went through this. My DD's still struggle with it. Not as bad now but when they were teens and yound adults it was awful. Oldest DD lost her 2 oldest kids. Their dad has custody of them.
I'm sorry. I will continue to pray for your sister that she will meet someone in jail that will help her.
Kris
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| melody |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 2:53:17 PM
Mary Jane,
I talked to her just before she had to start serving her 20-days and even then she indicated to me that she would "survive" this. Right then I realized that she is still denying that she is an alcoholic. I believe that when you can rightfully call yourself a survivor, you didn't have a choice in that particular situation. I think one chooses to be an alcoholic and one chooses to admit it and to seek help in overcoming alcoholism. Maybe I am wrong. I don't know how to understand how she is thinking because I don't drink. I hate to say this but I think that when she finishes serving her 20-days being in the mind set that she just has to survive this then she will be no closer to admitting that she has a real problem and will continue drinking like she has done for a very long time... What to do?
"The best mirror is an old friend."
- George Herbert
Melody
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Feb 21 2010 : 2:08:50 PM
I gope that she does some deep thinking and comes to the conclusion herself that she does indeed have a problem. Because until she does that, no one can help her. I ahve a lot of experiences with alcholics in my life and they must choose the path themselves. Good thoughts going out for her and you.
MJ
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Feb 20 2010 : 05:59:10 AM
Saying a prayer for your sister, that she will see through the denial and come to lead a sober life.
Cindy
"Dog is my co-pilot"
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Feb 19 2010 : 6:54:04 PM
Melody . . I will be praying as well.
I have a girl friend who became an alcoholic and did come to grips with the problem. She has been sober for many, many years but she will tell you she is a "recovering alcoholic" . . . she never says she is "cured".
My prayers are with you and your family!
CJ
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Feb 19 2010 : 09:26:30 AM
Melody, I sure hope she gets the help she needs while she's in. So many times though, they don't. I am so glad she's ok and maybe this will be her "bottom". And really, I don't know if there is much difference in the two. Maybe there is technically. It's all over in my family. I just hope she gets help. I will pray she does. And for you, also.
Hugs, Kris
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| dawnm |
Posted - Feb 19 2010 : 08:04:54 AM
Melody, my heart goes out to you and your sister. My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 25 years now thanks to AA. Alanon has helped me through very difficult times in my life, especially with my son's out of control drinking. If alcohol played a part in her incarceration, then alcohol has a hold of her. There are many resources for loved ones of alcholics to cope. Your sister will have to come to grips with her problem drinking.
Dawn
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