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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 09:38:41 AM
My son is 30 and has everything in my eyes. He just passed the bar exam a few months ago. He has a job working for a nice boss. He's very good looking, plays piano, guitar and sings. But suffers from Addiction. He survived herion and claims he no longer craves it. He suffers from depression and has started drinking again plus he has paronia. I was up all night with him as he threw-up, had uncontrollable body tremors and he was crying saying he wants to kill himself he's so sad. I have him 1/2 talked into seeing a physcologist. He doesn't have insurance yet but hopes to purchase it soon. He feels like a loser, I can't image that but that is how he feels. He was 2an place Mr. Teenage America in body building. Always top in his class. This depression and paronia are real and I am asking for your prayers to help him get through life.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
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| Sue Feely |
Posted - Apr 03 2009 : 7:41:18 PM
Diane -
Wish I had the right words to say to end this, but all I can do is pray for you and your family! Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and from the looks of it also many farmgirls!
Your neighbor and Sister
Sue Feely |
| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Apr 02 2009 : 4:23:29 PM
Thank-you all for your comments and prayers. I am happy to say my son is on the right track. He works 75 hours a week. On the week-end he takes off on his bike for some extreme riding. He has admitted he has an addiction problem and is back in AA. And he hated missing church because of a hangover and prays that he will not stumble again. It is a sickness, people who do not have it in their familys don't believe it. My other son doesn't believe it. But it is.
It was a big comfort reading your messages on the site and off.
Nancy said I would like the MJFgirls and she was right.(as usual)
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| julia hayes |
Posted - Mar 31 2009 : 07:40:37 AM
Diane, my husband is a psychiatrist. There is so much involved here and I hope your son can find the courage and strength to seek medical attention. I will keep you both so close...tight in my thoughts! Many blessings to you! ~julia
being simple to simply be
Farmgirl #30
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| khartquilt |
Posted - Mar 31 2009 : 06:07:20 AM
Diane,
I understand completely what you are dealing with. Hang in there and never give up. The program Laurianne talks of is a good program. Also call your local hospital. Now a days most have access to free counseling. And or can direct you and your son to some.
Your son has good days and bad days. Talk with him on his good days. Do not push too hard. And try not to get upset. You being upset does not help things. Does not help you. You need to be strong and healthy for your son.
I will say a prayer for you and your son.
Take care.
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Kathy H
Farmgirl Sister #81
"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world..." (anomymous)
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| Marybeth |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 7:48:31 PM
Diane, I am so sorry your son and you have to go through this affliction and addiction. My thoughts are with you and also your son. Please encourage him to hear you and get help. MB
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| Alee |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 5:07:52 PM
I will keep him in my prayers. *hugs*
Alee
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| lacisne88 |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 4:43:20 PM
Wow, Diane,
That really made me get teary eyed. I had to go through an addiction like this with my brother. It was the hardest time in my life and it tore me up to see him go through it. Addictions do not just affect the person with the problem, they most definitely affect every one in the person's life. I wish you all well and I hope that you all overcome the side affects of the addiction. My brother suffers from severe anxiety due to his, but it has been a hard battle. I wish you and your son all the best!
Chelsey
Farmgirl Sister #283
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| Calicogirl |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 3:27:38 PM
Diane,
I am so sorry that Jason (and you) are going through this. I will most definitely be keeping him in prayer for the Lord to lift him up and encourage him, to remove any desires for drugs or alcohol or taking his life, for his safety and protection, for him to understand that God made him and God does not make mistakes. I pray for your heart to be strong and full of the Lord's peace as you help Jason through this.
You mentioned that Jason is active in his church. Perhaps he should talk to his Pastor for prayer and guidance. I know that some churches also have ministries helping people with addictions (a prayer/support/accountability group) maybe he should look into that.
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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| LauriP |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 1:29:05 PM
to access information about the Bridges to Access program, go to ~ www.BridgestoAccess.gsk.com ~~
Holding youin prayer
Laurianne |
| AuntPammy |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 1:24:52 PM
My sincerest thoughts and prayers are with you and your son. I hope he can beat this. He sounds like such a wonderful person. Take care and know we are all thinking of you and your son. God Bless.
"Keep your face to the sunshine and you will never see the shadow." Helen Keller
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| LauriP |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 1:17:36 PM
Here is some information that may be of help for you in regards to your son's manic depression.
GlaxoSmithKline has a program called "Bridges to Access", and it works in conjunction with a Dr. from a clinic or pyschiatrist's office. The patient fills out the form, which is provided for them from the office. The Dr. will attach a prescription form for whichever type of medication is needed, and proof of income is also used (a form for that should also be available from the clinic or Dr's office) --this all goes to the Bridges to Access office in Phoenix, Az. --
My middle son had to use this process a few years ago, when he had no ins., and had seperated from his wife. This program enables a patient to the medication they need, and if there is a clinic near you, then they can also provide care for your son, on a sliding scale..i.e. -- his income needs to be verified, but the cost for a standard office visit is reduced by quite a bit.
Please tell your son that there is a way to work thru the depression -- I have 4 family members who deal with this, so I've gone thru quite a few dealings with the medical establishment over this. You should be able to get your son an appt. fairly quickly, as he is making threats about his life. You may also be able to set up a in-home case management visit, with the police department. Call your local office and tell them the basics of the situation..they in turn will have a case worker respond to your inquiry within 4 - 5 hours. Remember to emphisize the drug addiction, as this may speed the process for your son.
My prayers are with you during this wrenching time. I've been there, and there truly is a light at the end of the tunnel.
~~ Laurianne ~~ |
| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 12:53:11 PM
It takes a lot to make me cry, but reading these replys made me cry. It is nice to here that you are praying for us and not saying Man-up, what did he expect would happen when he drinks. When my son was 13 yrs. old he went with his 12 yr old brother and his 19 yr.old half brother to visit his dad who had cancer. Normally they would go with their aunt because I had and order of protection for us. I thought the 19 yr. old would make sure they were safe. I was wrong. Their dad had 6 months to live, My son 8 months before that had asked me if he could get his ear peirced. I said if you make honor roll, have a job where you can pay for it to be done right and cut your hair you can. That was the end of that conversation until 7 months later when I came home from work and he had his waist long hair trimmed, he was a paperboy and he was on the honor list. I took him to the jewery store and I even paid for his earring and he got his ear peirced. 7 weeks later his dad decided he wanted the boys to visit. They were gone for 4 hours. When they came home I took one look at my son and said whats wrong, he started to cry and went to his room. I asked his 1/2 brother what happened. He said Dad made us cut wood but Jason had to stay in the car. It was summer and it was hot. J was not allowed to talk, he had to sit in the car for 3 + 1/2 hours. While his brothers cut wood, they got sandwiches and pop. Jason got nothing. Then Their dad took them for ice cream but Jason could not have one. No son of his was going to get anything if he was stupid and had his ear periced. Can you image sitting in a car and hearing your dad call you a faggot, stupid,ect. Jason is not gay but if he was I would love him just as much as I do now. But, that day was the last time they saw their dad, that was also the day that my very happy child changed. He may be 30 but he is my baby and I hate it when he hurts. He works 70 hours a week. He helps kids in jail get the care they need, He is active in his church and any free time he has he spends riding bike or visiting his grampa. He is an amazing person and I thank-you all for your prayers. I am a firm believer in the healing power of prayer. Thank-you all
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| crafter |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 12:18:11 PM
My heart aches for you and your family. I am keeping you and your son in my prayers. Please lean on the MJF gals- we are here to support you in any way possible.
xoxo-Lori
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| ddmashayekhi |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 11:24:31 AM
Diane, I am so sorry you and your son are going through this. You are both in my prayers.
My best friend is a therapist for a Christian group. They will take cases on for free if the person can't afford it or doesn't have insurance. Have you checked to see if there is a place like that near you?
Dawn in IL |
| knittingmom |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 11:09:07 AM
Your son and your family are in my prayers. I hope the creator sends people his way with the right words and the right skills to help him heal.
"There is no foot so small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world" |
| Lainey |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 10:59:53 AM
Diane, your son will be in my prayers. I'm sorry to hear of his depression. I hope that he seeks further help soon. You're in my thoughts and prayers too Diane, I know it has to be hard on you.
Farmgirl Sister #25
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| dkelewae |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 10:28:01 AM
Diane-I will be praying that your son is healed of his addiction and depression. Unfortuntately lots of depressed people turn to drinking, and alcohol is a depressant, so it further aggravates things.
Diana
Farmgirl Sister #272
St. Peters MO
Country Girl trapped in the city!
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| NudeFoodFarm |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 09:58:00 AM
Oh Diane! I am so sorry. Heroin is no joke. I am told that it replaces very important chemicals in your brain. It sounds like to me that this might be your son's problem. Even if he is off of it, it still will make a differance, he might have to suppliment with a medication under dr. care. I know they give methadone to recovering addicts to help stabalize themselves. This is too big for one person and his momma. You need professionals to help you two. . . Seems like there would be a hotline you could call for free help. Also I know helping people like yourself, helps both. Maybe he could volunteer some of his time giving legal aid to recovering drug addicts (everyone needs legal advice regarding ie child support, rental agreements, etc).
Most importantly I am going to put healing energy out there for you and your son. I will pray that your son realizes that life is worth living to the fullest and has the courage and strength to get through this. I also will pray that you can protect yourself from your son's pull and be true to yourself.
Bless you both.
Heide
Nude Food Farm
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| Marcy |
Posted - Mar 30 2009 : 09:50:24 AM
Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted and please tell him that there are others out there who care about what happens to him. I'm so sorry that you both have to go through this.
Take care and don't forget to let us know how things are going,
Marcy
Farmgirl #170
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