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| TeJo |
Posted - Oct 11 2008 : 8:37:19 PM
I know I'm new, but here goes...
The 81 yo mom with the total knee replacement is not the problem. She is advancing with her physical therapy wonderfully; more so than people much younger. Her house is the problem. She is a hoarder. Which is apparently an actual psychological disorder. Her house is such an out of control collection of every item that has come into it in the last several years that it makes me physically ill to go in and try to clean it. Actually it's my sister's house, and she asked my mom to move in with her a couple of years after my dad died and the old house was too much for my mom. The sis was working full time and going to school full time for her RN and I guess was just too caught up in her own hectic life to keep mom under control. By the time she was done with her degree, it was a disaster. Mom has had this problem since my brother killed himself at 19 in 1975. It just sort of gradually grew into enormous proportions. We cleaned and sorted and tossed and even bought a storage shed for the back yard to hold lots of her junk so she wouldn't have to get rid of it when she moved in with the sister. But 5 years later...oh my god.
Please send her healing thoughts and helping vibes so that she can overcome this whatever it is. and for me to keep my s@#* together to sort it all out and make it clean enough for her to go home from the rehab and be able to get around safely.
Thanks for allowing me to vent. 
Teresa
To me, a witch is a woman that is capable of letting her intuition take hold of her actions, that communes with her environment, that isn't afraid of facing challenges.
- Paulo Coelho -
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| TeJo |
Posted - Oct 15 2008 : 07:25:00 AM
Thanks, guys. I've been back to my mom's a couple of times, and am headed that way in a bit. I've done about as much as I can do. I just want to make it safe for my mom to come home Sunday and be able to do her at-home PT starting next week. I saw a show on TLC one night about hoarders after I got home from their house . Apparently it is an actual psychological condition. According to this program, it does no good to go in or have someone go in and clean for the individual; they actually have to face up to and confront the problem themselves and most likely need therapy. After a couple of blow-ups with my sister, I think she's realizing that my mom isn't the only problem. As it said in this TV program, usually at least one parent is a hoarder. My grandmother, my mother.... Apparently with my sister, the apple didn't fall far from the tree....She'll have to fix this herself.
After discussion with my husband, I've decided I'll do what I can to make it as safe as possible before Sunday, then it's pretty much up to them to address and correct the actual problems, and get the clutter and mess under control.
Thanks for allowing me to vent,
Teresa
To me, a witch is a woman that is capable of letting her intuition take hold of her actions, that communes with her environment, that isn't afraid of facing challenges.
- Paulo Coelho -
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| ddmashayekhi |
Posted - Oct 14 2008 : 6:33:53 PM
Teresa, I hope your mom recovers from her surgery and that she seeks help with her hoarding problem. I saw a show on that on TV not to long and ago. I was really surprised to see how bad it can get. Best of luck to you and your sister in dealing with this.
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| Lainey |
Posted - Oct 14 2008 : 07:51:14 AM
Teresa,
I'm sorry to hear about your mom and I'm sending warm and healing thoughts to you all. That sounds like quite a job and I agree with Alee, you might need some help with it.
(Hugs)
Farmgirl Sister #25
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| Alee |
Posted - Oct 12 2008 : 06:55:55 AM
Teresa- That sounds like such a hard situation to be in. Have you considered hiring a profession cleaning crew? They could come in, clean everything and place the freshly cleaned obviously not garbage items in those storage bins for you and then you could do a quick sort of "Keep" "Garbage" and "Donate/Garage Sale". It might be expensive because it sounds like a big job, but it might be worth it because once the sorting is done, you probably don't want to have do the actual broom and mop type cleaning.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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