| T O P I C R E V I E W |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Feb 21 2008 : 08:59:17 AM
Could you please remember Patricia and Stu in your prayers today? Stu is having a really difficult time. Patricia took him to the hospital yesterday afternoon and the doctor's feel that there is something neurological going on. They are to call the doctor today to get tests scheduled. Please pray that they get an appointment today and that the doctors will be led to find the problem. Please pray for peace and calmness for Patricia as she is feeling very overwhelmed by all this and some other family issues.
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 12:45:27 PM
Good news, Patricia! Still praying for you both! Sounds like things are so much better!!!
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 12:10:57 PM
YEAH!!! Now we can have Stuie salad at our Farmgirl's get together! Glad he's home and you're both doing ok. Love you!
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| Meg |
Posted - Mar 12 2008 : 9:09:07 PM
Good news!!
MaryJane's daughter,
Meg
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| blueroses |
Posted - Mar 12 2008 : 2:32:37 PM
Patricia,
So glad that Stuie is home with you. Sometime it just takes the right amount of a prescription drug to help make a sufferer's life no longer a living hell. It's hard for those who don't experience this or have a family member go through it to sometimes understand why a person can't just "snap out of it." I wish Stuie and you good health, happiness and many many many years together. You are always here for us with your help and wisdom and we care about you both.
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| Alee |
Posted - Mar 12 2008 : 1:17:20 PM
Hi Patricia!
I am so glad to hear that he has been able to come home! What an achievement for you both! I hope he continues to grow and strengthen in your loving arms!
Alee
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| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Mar 12 2008 : 1:01:16 PM
Stuie came home last night and went into the day program this morning. He's calm for the first time in his life. Literally. And he has to get used to it but he likes it. It's so good having him home again. He was even singing along to the American Idol contestants. It'll be interesting to see what he has to day today. Again, many thanks for all you've done for us.
love,
Patricia
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| katmom |
Posted - Mar 11 2008 : 7:46:05 PM
Sending you continued Hugz & Prayers.
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| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 11:04:19 PM
glad that your husband is showing some improvements..may it all be uphill from here and every day be better.
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 7:58:34 PM
Stuie is an amazing man - he is as kind and giving as Patricia. He just hasn't been himself for quite some time. But he is in a good place and I'm so happy that he's making progress already! Can't wait until the new and improved Stuie gets to come home.
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| Alee |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 2:58:27 PM
Patricia-
I am so glad that Stuie is feeling and looking better! He is doing a WONDERFUL thing by exercising when he is anxious as that will release the natural endorphins to regulate his moods. He sounds like such a sweet and loving man. Especially working so hard to help his mother who was non too kind to him. It tells me that he thinks first and foremost about others before himself. It reminds me of women who give give give to others and never take time for themselves.
I know that this has to be a trial for you, so very hard. But perhaps this is like the butterfly struggling to break through the cocoon. The fight and struggle for Stuie might just rub away the rough edges and the brilliant shine of the diamond underneath will show through.
I have Faith that he will come through this physically and mentally whole, as will you! *lots of hugs*
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Alee
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| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 10:31:37 AM
Once again, a big thank you to my Farmgirl sisters. I really think your love and good wishes and prayers and blue light have held up these past few weeks. Stuie is showing signs of getting better. He told me when he feels anxious he goes to the stationery bike and pedals away until he feels better. Yesterday he said he pedaled about an hour. I told him when he comes home he will be a new man inside and out. I brought him a book he had requested from the library about sacred geometry and when I asked him how it was he went into a whole lucid discourse and analysis, something he couldn't begin to do last week. I thought he wouldn't even pick it up, but he not only picked it up but read it. He also said he watched some History channel on the community TV.
I brought him in a bath sheet (he loves those) and a nice face cloth and an Italian scented soap for his shower. Any little comforts are appreciated and I'm going slow. He sees his psychiatrist today and then I will talk with the psychiatrist and see what's up.
I feel very hopeful. He looks a million times better. I'll let you know how he does as we go along. I'm sure the medication coupled with our spiritual work (prayers, blue light, good wishes, etc.) are working wonders.
love,
Patricia
PS Meggie, I got your email about Stella and Josephine. I don't remember if I answered you, but if I didn't I want to tell you that it really made my day. The thought of that little girl carrying around her Josephine all day and only letting her dollies play with her that day was so precious. Thank you.
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| Meg |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 08:04:05 AM
Aunt Patty, thanks for sharing some of your details...sending you and Stu so much love.
MaryJane's daughter,
Meg
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| Hideaway Farmgirl |
Posted - Mar 10 2008 : 06:57:47 AM
Patricia -
I'm sending hugs and prayers your way...here's hoping that the doctors will find the right combination of therapy and meds to bring Stu out of that black hole. Depression is so very hard on the loved ones as well, and I hope that you will continue gaining strength from all our thoughts and prayers.
Thanks for keeping us up-to-date, and let Stu know that we are pulling for him!
Jo
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| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 8:51:34 PM
praying for you both.hugs
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 7:29:21 PM
Oh Patricia...it has to be so draining for you both!! I will keep you both in my daily prayers and thoughts too..that you will be able to be strong and that Stuie will be able to climb out of the depression. I wish I were there to help..or just sit with you!!! (((((hugs from me and Mona)))))
Jenny in Utah
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| Leezard |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 7:20:09 PM
Sweetheart! I have no words other than those of support from my heart to yours, you are both in my thoughts and prayers many times a day. I wish I could be closer to be of some physical assisitance but I am sending you all the mental and emotional assistance I can! Take care of yourself!
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| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 12:46:16 PM
sending prayers and hugs your way.
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 11:55:23 AM
Patricia, I know what you are facing seems to be so without hope. But, please believe me there is hope. This could actually save his life and give him a life that he has always wanted and you have wanted for him. When life hits bottom so hard like it has for you and Stuie, it is hard sometimes to see an answer, I have had family members who have been through this. and I myself lived for many years of my life struggling with depression and incapacitating anxiety. I never had to be hospitalized, but my Aunt did. She was so ill I really didn't think that she would ever be well. She was in a totally unresponsive state and pulling imaginary spiders out of the air. She tried to cut her own throat. It was horrible. She was in the hospital for about a month.Same type as Stuie.It was an eerie feeling when the doors closed and locked.Stuie is right it was a prison. One to protect the patients from themselves.Funny,the Dr.'s felt that her problems stemed from problems very similar to your husbands. She was in intense physcotherapy and they found the right combination of drugs for her. When she got out she still had a lot of therapy to go through and her meds to take. But, she was 100% better than when she went in. That was almost 40 years a go. So imagine how much more they can do now to help today! I am so glad that you wanted to tell all of us the truth of what is going on. Believe me it will help you to talk about your fears and feelings. Nowadays people aren't as judgemental as they once were. It is an illness like cancer or diabetes or any other,no one would be ashamed of them and should't be about mental illness either. If you do encounter people who react like that, just know in your heart that they are to be pitied,they are the ones who truly do have a problem. By all of us being honest I really feel it helps us and everyone else to know that someone else has been through these things and there is a light at the end. I will pray for you and Stuie everyday. Please let us know his progress and how you both are doing. May God Bless you both,
Love and prayers for healing, Mary Jane
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| Annika |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 11:53:16 AM
Patricia, don't despair. There are many things that can help, some medicinal and some not.
Wrapping you in rose light and sending you strength. Mental illness is not a crime nor is it a failing, it is an illness like any other. Help is on the way. And he is in the right place for the moment. You need to take care of your self and try to do things for you and not worry your self ragged hon, ok?
Hugs
Annika |
| Corinnelouise |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 11:34:17 AM
Oh Patricia, do not give up. I am sure it is very tough on you especially knowing about what you do and how deeply you connect to others. Please try the BACH REMEDY RESCUE, it does wonder. Use it for you and for him. Try to find a little place where you are safe and can heal. If you get the chance to go to a health store where they sell them all, look up to MUSTARD as well, it is recommended for depression. Would love to be close enough to hold you tight and give you a big hugs. Will go to France very soon and will send more Holly water to you.
Love, Corinne
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| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 11:16:41 AM
My dear sisters, I don't know how to thank you any more than I have, but thank you again anyway. Stu was transferred to OHSU's psychiatric ward last night for an unknown time. At this point, I believe the diagnosis is severe depression but his regular psyciatrist won't be there until Monday so I will know more then.
This is a place where there are no handles on the doors and locks everywhere on everything. There is no light switches on the walls. My purse is confiscated when I arrive and given back when I leave. I find it interesting that the walls in Stuie's room are painted blue.
Stuie just wants to die. He has terrible guilt and feels he is a burden to me and I would be better off without him. He feels worthless and that the situation will never change. Left to himself, he said he would swallow every pill in our sizable collection. I'm telling you all this because I know you're probably curious about what goes on in the psych ward and that you're interested in what is happening with Stuie. 50 years ago I probably wouldn't have uttered a word and pretended he had something physical but times have changed and mental illness is no longer viewed as a personal failing. What I have been researching tells me it is a result of brain chemistry mis-firing and precipitated by Stu's past.
Suffice it to say that his parents offered no love at all and told him constantly that "anything less than perfection is nothing". Lucky he had a genius mind - or unlucky for him because genius is a hair away from madness. He never learned how to love until he met me. He says I am the only person he has every connected with on that level and I believe him.
Add to this the fact that he was closed up in Adademia (he calls it his "ivory tower" and his "escae from reality") at Cambridge for 25 years and you have the basis of a big problem. At Cambridge he didin't have to do anything for himself - he had people to do everything. Ten years ago when his mother died and he came back to California, he was suddenly thrust into the real world and had no idea how to deal with it. He spent every penny he had (and he had a lot of pennies) trying to keep his mother alive and when she died, he realized he should have saved something for himself. Good thing I was there at that point.
From that point to today, he was a failure at just about everything he tried. He sabitoged (sp) every job opportunity he got until he was fired by all three of them (three jobs in 9 years) and his self-worth got lower and lower until he just bottomed out.
So that's the story.Visiting hours are 2-8 weekends and 4-8 on weekdays. Stu says he feel like he is in prison.
Quite frankly, I don't see how they're going to get him out of this big deep hole he's in. I've been blue-lighting and "faith not fear" ing like crazy but right now I'm kinda low on hope. And pysically, I'm having a very tough time.
It's good to know you guys got my back.
So that's the latest Challenge report.
Much love,
Patricia
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| Annika |
Posted - Mar 08 2008 : 06:10:33 AM
Sending hugs and a whole rainbow of light. Hugs to you dear farmsister, be of good cheer we are all here with you.
Annika
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Mar 07 2008 : 11:55:39 PM
Feel so bad for her and Stu. Tell her many prayers are being said for them. What is the diagnosis now?
Farmgirl Sister # 31
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Mar 07 2008 : 11:17:06 PM
I talked to Patricia tonight. She said that Stu is at Oregon Health Sciences University in a private room. There isn't much change and all this will take time. But she did tell me to send everyone her love. She said that Farmgirl prayers are all that has kept her going.
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| farmgirl blessings |
Posted - Mar 07 2008 : 8:04:00 PM
Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear this. I will be praying for them both.
Blessings, Lea
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