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| Ca-Reds |
Posted - Mar 29 2012 : 09:03:49 AM
I was just wondering how many of us suffer from mental illness of some sort? I am a stay-at-home mother of 3. And i live with being Bi-Polar. Not an easy thing to do. My ups and downs are dramatic... I have been in and out of the hospital 4 times over the last 12 years, but am holding fast to my Lord and Savior and the medical doctors. I hope and pray i don't pass this on to any of my children. The Lord has blessed me with a very understanding husband, who is my saving grace at times. Even when i don't want to admit it! ;-)When i had my first episode, My oldest daughter was 9 months old. As my family sat in the waiting room of the ER, my mom looked at my husband and said "If you want to leave her, we will take care of her. And we promise not to take away Emma (our daughter)." He looked at my mom with a puzzled look, at what she had said. His reply... "I love your daughter and i am not going anywhere!" He has stood by my side for the good and the bad times. I love him so much!
Would anyone be willing to share a little about themselves on this matter of life? I would love to hear you story and what you have found that works best for you... I stuggle with keeping a level head with the children and being consistant in their lives, as i know that being consistant is a big thing in raise children. My 3 year old is really giving me a run for my money though! I know that he does not mean it, nor does he really know what he is saying/doing, but it really brakes my heart with some of the things he says... And to be real honest i don't even know where he is getting it from! It's not like he is in daycare and "picking things up" there. He is home with me, and i know for sure i never tell him these things. Nor do my husband and i talk like that at all! So i am really at a loss. Must be is age for now. Have a blessed day yall! -Kristy
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| alterationsbyemily |
Posted - Apr 21 2012 : 10:08:54 PM
I was actually diagnosed with PTSD about a year ago, due to the impending birth or my 2nd. Long story short, I was very close to being paralyzed because of a nearly botched spinal block. So the idea of childbirth downright terrified me, I was having night terrors and wasn't sleeping. I had to work through it and was very nervous until the moment he was born and it was like a wieght was lifted off my shoulders, the poison was the cure.
I believe in the full ability of therapy, and I go once a month, but I don't go longer than 6 months with out an appointment. It just helps keep me grounded.
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| Ca-Reds |
Posted - Mar 30 2012 : 08:26:29 AM
Jonni and Julie, thank you for your replys! I knew i was not alone, even when some days it feels that way. I have decided to just take it one day at a time. With my illness and with the little ones. Baby B was a very good boy yesterday, and my middle daughter is getting student of the month this morning at school, so i must be doing something right. My oldest daughter got it 2 months ago too! I have thought it out and am going to think positive thoughts throughout the day. I had posted something on FB and a dear freind of mine made me post 10 things that i was happy about. It really got me to thinking that just my thoughts alone can sure mess up my days. So i am going to be positvie even when i don't want to! I pray for healing daily and my pastor told me something very valuable! That maybe my miracle what that i live in the day and age of medication. SO now i think of it as getting my healing touch twice a day from Jesus!!! I am okay with that.
As for the kids, my husband and i are on the same page. That is really nice, and we stand together on everything either of us do. We work well as a team. Since the kids like to "team up" on us at times... :) Thank You again for you imput ladies! -Kristy
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| FarmDream |
Posted - Mar 29 2012 : 2:41:57 PM
Thanks for sharing your stories. My DH suffers from depression and PTSD. Boy does it push my patience sometimes and others, too. Some ask why can't he just work up to adding more things or responsibilities to his schedule and they don't understand that he can't. He's the best he'll ever be and he can't take on the role of typical head of household. We have a system that works for us. When he is down then I take on the majority of the house and then when he is better he takes those things back. We work as a team and we don't keep score of who has done what how many times. I really like when he is up and doing all the housework, though :D since I hate it. I always tell him he makes a great housewife.
Yes, those 3 year olds are trying. It's true it's not personal but also set firm boundaries of what's acceptable and what simply won't be tolerated. And follow through on punishment. Good luck to you!
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| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Mar 29 2012 : 09:21:51 AM
Hey Kristy--first of all, let me say how refreshing it is to read your story--it's humbling. My husband has what they call "bi-polar disorder II" which has the ups and downs of bi-polar disorder, though not the mania and the ups and downs are not the same degree. It seems like just another "label" to me, but then, I'm not a person who struggles with this, other than as his wife. His family always seemed to me, like yours, to be waiting for the other shoe to drop, often "thanking" me for loving their son which I found...a little insulting, honestly. He's wonderful, and I'm not inclined to like mean people. But, after adjusting to some of his behaviors when unmedicated, I can see from their perspective--they've dealth with these issues for his entire life and I was still new at it while they had grown tired. While I can't comment to what you experience yourself raising your children, I can say that when my husband found out that we were expecting our little girl, he immediately took stock of himself and after years of not wanting to medicate or seek therapies, he made the call himself and has maintained a medication and counselling regime that speaks volumes to his abilities as a father. He is a wonderful father and is very present in her life--probably even more than me! Keep working out the kinks--you will find the solution. Just remember, medication is made for a reason--listen to your doctors and make sure they're listening to you when something isn't working.
Don't worry about the things your 3 year old says, that's 3. Testing the waters. And each child is different. You simply need to remind him that those words hurt and it isn't nice to hurt. He'll figure it out, but until then, don't take it too personally--3 year olds switch on and off like the weather :)
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