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| FieldsofThyme |
Posted - Nov 20 2011 : 3:54:41 PM
What do you do to monitor posting, chat rooms etc. We've stated no facebook at all, no chat rooms unless approved, and we have discovered our 12 yo dd posting on a site with complete lies about our family. We've shut that account down, and closed her e-mail account which she opened without our permission.
Any tips or advice? There is too much freedom for kids to speak on the Internet and I will give her a journal to write her thoughts, but this was a complete shock. Just when you know your kids, you do not. what a wake up call. All during the days I have been sick too.
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| njaw09 |
Posted - Nov 24 2011 : 8:09:21 PM
My niece can't use computer on weekdays and only on weekend and I think she only use for 1 hour. Also her dad hide the cable so she can't use it. Also the computer is at the public place and no computer is allow in her bedroom no matter what.
She use to have a facebook until the parents found out. She was ban. I won't blame the parents though because she is only 11 years old.
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| Ruby V |
Posted - Nov 24 2011 : 12:28:24 AM
This is a tough issue to deal with. Realistically, if a kid wants to be on the net, they'll find a way. Even if you password your computer, have rules, etc. kids will just go to their friends houses and get on the net or use a computer at the library. I know it's upsetting, but a 12 yr old girl lying about her family is pretty common,especially if she's trying to make them sound 'bad'. Nothing girls that age like better than trying to have the 'worst family' stories. {laughing}
I'd definately keep the computer where you can clearly see the monitor while she's on though. Check the history after she's done, to see which sites she's been at. And try to not worry too much, she'll get thru this stage and before you know it, she'll be heading out the door to college and you'll be wishing she was 12 again {laughing}. Hang in there!
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| FieldsofThyme |
Posted - Nov 21 2011 : 2:25:08 PM
Thanks. I have always had a password log in, but we took it off recently. Bad move on my part.
However, the more I thought about the whole event, the more I thought I could encourage her to write. She does have quite the imagination. Just not on a the Internet.
I am trying to look at this with the glass half full vs. half empty also.
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| FarmDream |
Posted - Nov 21 2011 : 2:04:22 PM
Kristina, sounds like you're doing the right thing. I think you should learn how to do that yourself. I found it on my computer by clicking on "Start" in the lower left corner. I selected "control panel." In control panel there is "User Accounts." I clicked on that and it will let you change the password there. We've always had different profiles set up for the adults and for the kids. This way only certain icons or websites are available for the kids but it doesn't limit the adults.
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| FieldsofThyme |
Posted - Nov 21 2011 : 06:57:34 AM
Thanks. The only computer they use, is in my kitchen, where everyone walks through to get back and forth. There is a built in desk we use. With me being sick, I have not been able to be see what's going on and I was alerted by another one of my kids.
This is the first time ever that we've had this problem. They are so used to me hovering over them, watching the amount of time, and kicking them off, maybe she got greedy with me sick, dh working and two other kids working.
We had a long talk about it, but I'm not satisfied. I may take the computer and put a log in password like we used to have, or lock the computer into my desk vs. the kitchen. Passwords would be so much easier.
I think my youngest is learning to listen however. Even with other areas of safety where they think I am paranoid or over protective. For example, the other night I was having a talk with the one child who abused her rights to use the computer, the younger one was going around locking doors. She had overheard me telling dh that there were home robberies going on and they stated on the news that they robbed homes with unlocked doors. She's been locking them for a few nights. Anwyway, she came into the room we were talking in, and told me (my 9 yo) that she thought someone knocked on the front screen door. It was pitch dark and almost 9pm. I was home alone with 3 of my youngest. Sure enough there was a man knocking on the door who ran out of gas. I had to track down dh and have him come pick the guy up to go get gas. That guy could have walked right in if, and we would have never heard him, if little dd hadn't locked it (and it had been a robber etc.).
They all should know better anyway, as their Uncle is a police officer, and has had talks with them too. When my son wakes up after working his 3rd shift last night, I'll have him reset our log in.
Anyway, sorry for the long post, but my kids do get upset when I am adamant about safety. Maybe know they all will pay more attention.
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| Alee |
Posted - Nov 20 2011 : 8:00:41 PM
Thats such a hard lesson- but Doug and I have said that when it gets time for Nora to be using the computer- the desk is going in the living room where we can see the screen so we can monitor without hovering. We will also be checking browsing history until we are 100% sure that she is following our rules and values. Additionally- I think you can set your security super high or block certain accounts, and of course you can set the computer up to require a password to sign on.
There have been way too many instances of adults luring children into sexual exploitation via the internet for me to play around. Such a scary environment for our kids. :(
Alee
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| oldbittyhen |
Posted - Nov 20 2011 : 5:39:33 PM
no internet PERIOD, at least until your child is old enough and responsible enough to respect your rules, and I would change your sign-on password, and not tell her what it is...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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