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| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Jul 28 2006 : 9:58:57 PM
I am having a heck of time with my youngest.
She will be 2 in a few months and is just awful all the time anymore. SHe had a rough start in the beginning and she got a little spoiled because it was hard to tell if she needed something or didn't feel good or what the deal was, and now she just goes into a rage every time she doesn't get exactly what she wants when she wants it.
She also is doing really bad things to test me now.. like today feels like it was the last straw, in the split second it took to stand up and answer the phone, she unscrewed her sippy cup lid (she just learned how to do that the other day) climbed up and dumped it out in my new 500.00 laptop... first nice thing I've owned since having kids and I only got to have it for a week.. I am still beside myself about it.
My husband keeps telling me that she's just a baby and I can't get mad at her, but when I talk to her and look at her face, I KNOW she knows, she will look away and then look back at you with this little smirk and then do things anyway right after I tell her no.
I did really well with my oldest, but this one has got me to the end of my rope.
I have tried spanking, I have done time outs, I have held on to her and pinned her arms to her sides to stop her from screaming and throwing herself around, I have ignored her, I have gotten down to her level and talked to her matter of factly and I have been nothing but snuggles and love towards her. NOTHING seems to make a difference.
My mom thinks I am not strict enough and that I need to be tougher on her, but she can't really come up with any examples of what I should actually be doing that I haven't tried yet. My husband thinks I am too tough on her because she is just a baby and will grow out of it..
At this point I think we should be beyond screaming every time she doesn't get her sippy cup filled as fast as she would like it, and past the point of throwing herself around like she is demon possessed every time I have to tell her no or take something away from her. Kaylee was never like that, and I am just so overwhelmed that I don't know what to do with her anymore.
I am getting really frustrated and it's like trying to love a rattlesnake right now.. it makes me sad to say that because I feel like the worst mommy in the world to her because I just can't get her under control.
Anyone else have a little rager on their hands who loved to distroy everything in their path? Do you have any tips on how to parent them without just putting them in a straight jacket with a bow on it and leaving them on someones doorstep?
Lately The running joke in our house has been, "If we love her maybe we should set her free and if she doesn't come back maybe it was never meant to be!"
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
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| katiedid |
Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 3:50:33 PM
Bobbi~
I am so glad things are better....I know exactly what you mean about parenting under a microscope...sometimes I have had to just let my kids scream...having nosey neighbors makes it so tough...
Your house sounds so perfect..and exactly what I want in a dream house! I need more bedrooms we have 3 and now that we have 4 kids it would be nice to let the older ones have their own space but the bigger living areas are what I want! Sometimes I feel like we are just so crowed! Especially in the winter.
I can't wait to hear more and see photos of the house in progress.
Kate
my new blog http/www.theknifemakerswife.wordpress.com |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 12:28:26 PM
congratulations on your upcoming new addition! Yeah things are still going well, much better now that we don't have neighbors attatched to us, and now that I am worried about it if she screams, she has of course started doing it a lot less... I tried not to care in the apartment but it was so hard when people were on all sides of you.
Things are going really well here, if I look out my back window of the trailor we are renting now, I can see our new house being built down the road... It's a toupe color with blue trim. Very pretty! We will have 4 bedrooms and two bathrooms... we opted for all smaller bed/bath rooms and huge living areas. We will have a semi formal dining room off the kitchen, a sitting room and off of that will be a large additional living/play/rec/entertainment room. We figured with as cold as winters get here, it would be smart to have a large area where toddlers can run around and be spastic. Right now we have the exterior all up and ready except the rain gutters, and through the next couple of cold months the guys will be turning the inside into an actual house instead of a bunch of stud walls and bare wires.... I guess I am posting all this in the wrong place, but I just got on a roll because it's so exciting... I have a couple of pics of the exterior I'll download and post somewhere more appropriate whenever I run across the firewire.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| Alee |
Posted - Oct 17 2006 : 08:39:28 AM
Hi Bobbi-
I am so glad to hear that you have made such wonderful progress. I am sure I drove my mom to distraction when I was a kid. I had food allergies that would cause me to have irrational anger. I was allergic to 26 different foods, from wheat to dairy to citrus. I actually drank a soy formula as my milk until middle school.
One thing my mom did with all four of us if we had a tantrum is- laugh! She would laugh at us and then turn around and walk away. That was definatly _not_ the response we were looking for and since she then would walk away were never got that idea that it would be "fun" to do.
I also remember having a very structured childhood. We always had a very set bedtime and mealtimes.
It sounds like you are having much more sucess! I am so glad for you! I am really interested in what other parents are going through since I will have my first in April. keep us posted! |
| MustangSuzie |
Posted - Oct 05 2006 : 03:57:22 AM
I have a couple of strong willed children. Dr. Dobson's book The Strong Willed Child is full of good info.
Sarah |
| katiedid |
Posted - Oct 04 2006 : 7:51:29 PM
Bobbi
I am so glad things are going better at your house...I know, it can be so hard and there is nothing worse than feeling like you aren't doing your best as a parent...well YOU are..
Your kids are lucky to have you for a Mama
Kate
my new blog http/www.theknifemakerswife.wordpress.com |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Oct 03 2006 : 3:00:17 PM
Overall she has been a lot better! We still have occasional setbacks and tantrums but they have been a lot fewer and farther between. We are out of the apartment which helps too.. I have found that now that I am not afraid of my neighbors hearing, I can send her to her room for acting out and let her cry it out as loud as she wants. Now that She knows that she has to sit there until she can be nice, it's been a huge difference.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| lilpunkin |
Posted - Oct 03 2006 : 10:43:38 AM
Bobbi- How is the update on your situation? And then first and foremost I want to say, you are a good mother. It is amazing how society can make us mothers feel like we amount to nothing. But we are something. We are raising the next generation. And yes it is hard. I have two boys. My first boy is easy going, easy to please, that whole bit. And my second one who is still a good boy, is more of a pistol. He needs more attention and requires it for sure. And there have been several times I wanted to pull my hair out. But I have to do what I know is right for my kids and what works for my kids. My oldest I can just look at and he knows he is in trouble. My second one, well, we have done several forms of discipline. The one that works the best for his temperment is time out. He hates to have to sit there. He has to sit until he is quiet, totally quiet. And then when he comes out we talk to him to make him understand why he got in trouble.
But what ever you do, dont feel like you are a bad mother. A bad motther is only one that gives up completely on her kids. And I know at times you may feel like giving up, but you don't and you haven't. So just keep hanging in there and know that you have people that back you and support you. And you know that you can always come vent to us gurlz.
lilpunkin |
| Lynn B |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 2:09:20 PM
Bobbi,
I definitely feel your pain! My youngest, who will be 2 in September, has gone down a very similar road to your little Halsey. He had (and still has) reflux, as well as another stomach condition called delayed gastric emptying. He has/had a milk allergy, though we think he if finally growing out of that. He screams and rages just like you described Halsey doing. In fact today we left Barnes & Noble with the stares of everyone in the store as Ross was screaming at the top of his lungs. (he wasn't happy with me because I told him it was time to go and he had to stop playing with the toys there) And now, to top it all off, his older sister (who is 3) thinks it's really funny to make him scream. Wonderful!
I certainly understand what you mean by feeling like a bad mother, it's hard not to when one so little gets so angry. I have tried everything like you, time outs, spanking, holding close arms down, distracting, EVERYTHING! It's hard to feel like you're not doing something wrong! I recently got a book called, RAISING YOUR SPIRITED CHILD. It seems pretty good, but I haven't gotten very far in it! I say it seems pretty good because it describes Ross quite accurately! I'll let you know if it is worth reading.
Also, Halsey doesn't have to be spitting up in order to still have her reflux flaring up. Since I am REALLY well versed in reflux (both of my kids had it) I am a volunteer for a supportive organization for parents of children with reflux. www.reflux.org I would highly recommend going to the website and checking it out. Lots of great information and support. You are also more than welcome to contact me directly with any questions you may have. (reflux...the screaming/raging I'm just as lost!) It might be a good idea to have her checked out for the reflux, as that may be why she is screaming. There is a very simple test they can do to determine if she still is refluxing.
Hope things continue to get better for you!
Lynn
Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused.
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| katiedid |
Posted - Aug 24 2006 : 08:51:53 AM
Bobbi, I am so glad to hear this!
I just cannot say enough for good, homemade food. I am not a super freak about food...My SIL won't let her kids have anything cooked, processed, pastuerized, non organic, no meat, no dairy, it is crazy! I refuse to be the food police, BUT I think a good diet with healthy meats, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, and minimal processed foods and no food dyes is close to a miracle, or at least it was for us. My kids behavior is SOOO much better when we eat well, and like you said, stick to a routine.
And you know, I think kids want to be good. They love positive attention...my girl Julia will just cry and tell me that she doesn't know why she is naughty after she eats red food dye. It really is sad.
I am so glad things are better.
Kate
http://theknifemakerswife.blogspot.com/2006/07/knifemakers-wife.html |
| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Aug 23 2006 : 2:56:04 PM
aww I am so very glad to hear that things have improved! yay!
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~ |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Aug 23 2006 : 2:15:52 PM
Things have been improving by leaps and bounds lately. I have been keeping us on a set routine along with finally switching my families diet back over to a MUCH more organic lifestyle.. I grew my own fruits and veggies at the last house, and baked my own bread and the only sweets we had were things I made.. when we moved I got into the habit of buying really easy prepackaged food full of additives.
The most suprising thing that has come out of the last week of this change in diet and the last few weeks of a stricter routine, is that she is finally talking! The little thing will be 2 in November and has mostly just said more, milk, ow and pointing and screaming about everything! Yesterday was so amazing! She was able to communicate her needs without shreiking, and saying all kinds of words that I knew she knew the meaning of but wouldn't say.
So things are looking a lot better than they were. Not perfect, but better!
Thanks for all your ideas and support.
Bobbi
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| blueroses |
Posted - Aug 23 2006 : 11:27:20 AM
Bobbi,
I think Kate is spot on. The food dyes and corn syrup/sugars are so bad for us and some kids are just hyper sensitive to them. Now the thing is -- to get Granny to stop. That's gonna be a tough one.
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 7:22:31 PM
I kept that in mind all day and I noticed, we had a great day today, then we went to grandmas house where she let her have some lemon drop type candy things, she conked out on the ride home, we got home and she wouldn't eat her dinner threw it across the room as she is prone to doing, had a screaming fit in the bath when I tried to wash her hair, and is in fact howling in her room as I type. I will keep the sugar thing in mind going forward and yes I saw your e-mail. I'll start writing you there as things go on.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| katiedid |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 11:45:02 AM
I am thinking since she did well on the Enfamil AR, which is a dairy based formula, and she did well with milk at 1, it probably isn't a dairy intolerance.
My first guess would be sugar, particularly corn syrup. Which, by the way, is in EVERYTHING sweet. Keep track of this in your food journal. The next suspect is food dyes.
Did you know that they are illegal in Europe and Australia? Because of the cancer risk, and also because they are a huge contributor to ADD ADHD and behavior problems.
After keeping a food & behavior journal for a day or two, or even a week, I would then cut out food dyes and corn syrup. When I did this with Julia I noticed HUGE improvements in just a couple days. Some say it takes a full two weeks.
Julia's sensitivies are just the dye and corn syrup/sugar.
Chloe has those plus a cow's milk allergy. It is tough, I have to religiously read labels, but it worth it!!
I would definately give it a try.
Kate
ps I sent you and email, feel free to call or write if you need some support! |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 10:15:54 AM
She was on Emfamil AR (Acid Reflux) She threw up the Nutramagen and I've never heard of Alumentum. We started her on Dairy around her first birthday, a little late but I had visions of the whole thing starting over again, but suprisingly to everyone she did just fine with plain milk, I was sure we would have to go with soy, weirdest thing too because the first thing I had to eliminate from MY diet when nursing was the milk. She has never had any skin sensitivities ever. Her favorite foods are: teddy grahams, (I don't buy them but she goes nuts over them at grandmas house) any kind of sweet thing.. she is a real sugar bee. peanut butter, Jelly, any and all bread products, particularly if there is a sweet flavor to it. She loves cooked aspearagus, and raw broccoli, pineapple, cream cheese, cottage cheese, cheddar cheese, string cheese, eggs, cerial, bananas, loves most fruit, but they react so badly with her that I try to moniter it a little, raisins, macaroni and cheese.. nearly any kind of a noodle as long as it isn't in tomato sauce... hates all things tomato. My girls ped had me giving her droppers of Mylanta and Zantac for a while but while it helped the throwing up a little it made the diarreah even worse to the point that she had a wicked ulcer down there, so we went off that stuff and I haven't used drugs on her since, she hasn't even needed antibiotics for anything yet which is also a suprise to me.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| katiedid |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 08:39:50 AM
I have alot of food allergies/sensitivities and sadly my girls have inherited them from me....This is something that most pediatricians know very little about. My dr. seemed to be more willing to push drugs than to explore the food allergy options...So, I found a ped. who would. I am so grateful I did because my girls did a complete turn around when we eliminated the trigger foods. It was so wonderful, because I KNEW that my sweet, loving little girl was in there somewhere, and when her body was free of the offending foods she came out of hiding!
Bobbi,
Which formula was she on? Nutramagen? Alumentum? How did she do on those?
When did you start her on dairy?
Does she have ezcema or skin rashes/dryness?
What are her favorite foods?
I will help, we can get to the bottom of this!
Love
Kate |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 08:29:23 AM
I should also add, she never pukes anymore.. when she is sick she usually gets diarreah instead of throwing up. I don't think she has thrown up at all since she was about 8 or 9 months, around the time she was walking, she lays down on her back to sleep now and, while she does toss and turn more than her sister, she never throws up and now hates to be at an angle.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 08:23:35 AM
How does she sleep at night? Does she go down easily? Does she sleep thru the night w/o waking?
She never goes down very well at night, but she and her sister share a bedroom, so they usually want to stay up and play, but when they are seperated they go to bed pretty well.
Does she seem better or worse at certain times of the day?
We usually have a fight at every meal time, breakfast in particular, Nearly every thing she gets awful about is either related to food, running off when she isn't supposed to (towards the street, in a store etc.) and fighting with her sister over toys..
Does she have a harder day after eating alot of one food?
Nothing that I can pick out too easily... but I know that if she has sugar she crashes HARD afterwards.. much like her dad.
How is her digestion? Is she constipated? Have runny poop?
She gets the runs VERY easily, especially after fruit, one sippy of apple joice is enough to cause a very loose stool for at least a day, and other fruits like citrus and grapes do about the same unless I serve it with cottage cheese or cream cheese to firm things up. .. most fiberous foods do it too.. rye crisps, oatmeal, unless the bread is very floury/white style bread we get runny again. I know thats what it is supposed to do, but with her it becomes really watery, to the point hat we have diaper blow out from time to time even at nearly 2. I haven't even concidered potty training yet because she obviously has little control over it still.
Does she act this way around Dad or other caregivers? How about grandparents?
She isn't very descriminating about who she throws a fit with, she throws more fits with me than anyone else, but she is also with me more. In a new environment she is distracted enough that she is a little less prone to them, but if her sister is there too, she often feels comfortable enough to let it fly no matter who is with her, and no matter who she is with, when food comes into play all bets are usually off, and she expects her sippy cup to never be empty.. we get more fits at one grandmas house than the other because she gives treats and ice cream and sweet drinks on demand, so as soon as she runs out of something unless she is gorged, she is going to have a fit until she gets to that point.
Does she make eye contact when you talk to her? (this is a big deal when you aren't mad and when you are disciplining) she will look at me and then look away a lot, and when I am down on her level and she knows she is in trouble, if I want to look her in the eyes I have to hold her chin to do it. If we are just talking and snuggling in the morning she looks in your eyes and talks like a little angel, but if she knows she is doing something she shouldn't it is really hard to get eye contact.
How does she interact with other kids? Is she passive and allow other kids to steal toys? Does she pick a fight?
With kids she doesn't know she is very respectful of their things, and very willing to give things back if asked.. unless they are eating something that she doesn't get to have.. that always sets her off, but with her sister she purposfully antagonizes her by taking whatever she shows the most interest in food toys, or even her shoes.
I am already tracking activities on a time schedule, and doing meal planning, so I don't think it would be much harder to scribble in what they eat and when at the same time.
Halsey has always had food problems. From the time she was born until we got her on special formula, she had problems with really bad reflux and watery explosive poop. I couldn't nurse her unless I wittled my diet down to bread and water, which I did for a while with a multi vitamin, but even that had pretty mixed results, as soon as she got teeth, I could tell pretty easy when the reflux was about to come because she would bite down and draw blood... thats when we decided enough was enough and did the special reflux formula.. before that if she was laying down as infants often do, she would have it coming out her nose and gagging practically drowing in it, so we had to always have her propped at an extreme angle to even sleep, and even then her sleep was only in about 15 to 30 minute increments until she was about 7 months and didn't start sleeping through the night until she was on all solid food.. even the mushy baby food much came back up. It wasn't until we got into cheeses and breads and cerials into the mix that she could hold it down. The cheeses help with the watery poop a lot.
She also refuses to eat meat in nearly any form. tuna salad, chicken nuggets, chicken salad... I can usually get a little nibble out of her before she spits it out and just plays with it, soft lunch meats, or anything, she will eat the breading off of a corn dog and just mutilate the hot dog, so even typical kid type meats are out, she gets most of her protien from eggs, her vitamin and cheeses...
The doctors didn't act like it was a big deal as long as she was putting on weight, they still don't, I just had her checked out a month ago. We got on wic at the time we needed the special formula because it was pretty expensive, and after talking to the dieticians there, they also feel that as long as she is gaining weight she is ok, but they have tested her and found that she is also slightly anemic. We started a multi vitamin and that has helped with that part of it. Aside from being cranky and preferring screaming to talking, she is meeting all the milestones at the right time, the talking ones are about on schedule, and the physical ones have all come very early. She knows a little sign language because she does so well with physical things. She was actually walking at 8 months which is super early.. she never really crawled, the hands and knees position made her pukey too.
Anyway, with my first post those are the things I was referring to when mentioning that she had a really rough start. We have always been aware that food is a big thing with her, but haven't been sure where to go with that.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| katiedid |
Posted - Aug 03 2006 : 06:58:51 AM
Bobbi~
I think I may be able to help out....But first I need some more info.
How does she sleep at night? Does she go down easily? Does she sleep thru the night w/o waking?
Does she seem better or worse at certain times of the day?
Does she have a harder day after eating alot of one food?
How is her digestion? Is she constipated? Have runny poop?
Does she act this way around Dad or other caregivers? How about grandparents?
Does she make eye contact when you talk to her? (this is a big deal when you aren't mad and when you are disciplining)
How does she interact with other kids? Is she passive and allow other kids to steal toys? Does she pick a fight?
I had so much trouble with 2 of my 4 kids, and it wasn't until I kept a detailed journal that I was able to track down some pretty serious food allergies/reactions. Julia, who is now 8, was sometimes so sweet and lovable...and sometimes it was like she was possessed, seriously! She would push her cousin who is just 1 year younger down, she would have fits that would last 15 minutes or more, she would bite. Other times she would get so hyper, she just couldn't focus. During preschool she would pretend to be a dog and roll around on the floor, barking and wagging her tongue! The teacher asked if we had thought about medication! I went home and cried and cried...I am a good Mama, I spend alot of time with my kids! I felt that the teacher was implying that I was doing something wrong and that medication would fix it!! My Dr. recommended I keep a detailed journal to help track down "triggers" for our tough behavior...This is what I kept track of
1. Wake up time & how much sleep she had that night.
2. How she acts first thing whiny/happy/angry/cuddly etc...
3. Write down EVERYTHING she eats, and see if you find a trend.. for instance: when Julia eats red food dye she gets hyper and lacks self control within 30 min...
4. At the end of the day take a few minutes to sum up the day. This is how mine would go: Morning was nice and quiet, spend some time reading, big fit about going to the park as it was too rainy. Good interaction with her sisters, angry around dinner time. etc...
Tracking down my girls' food intolerances/allergies has made a 100% difference!! This might not solve all of your problems, but it is worth a try!
You can get in touch with me if you like...I will send you an email with all that info...
I will help you and soon you will see the sweet, mild little girl who is hiding inside Halsey.....we don't spend a bunch of money on counseling, drs appointments, and thank God we've never had to medicate our kids since we cleaned up our diets. The biggest offenders for most kids are food dyes and preservatives. We avoid those like the plague! Chloe, who is 3, is also allergic to milk. I feel like it is the best place to start.
It's going to be fine, I will help you all I can!
Love
Kate |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Aug 02 2006 : 1:32:12 PM
Yes Karin it IS Halsey, and aside from the lady downstairs that hates my guts, we like Montana very much!
And yes Marisa it IS crazy making.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| marisa |
Posted - Aug 01 2006 : 12:11:26 PM
i can totally relate on the authorities showing up...i was living in an apt complex a month or so ago while we were closing on our house. the daily screaming probably drove my neighbors crazy, and i lived in constant fear of CPS showing up at my door!! (and his penchant for running around with no shorts on after going potty didn't help my case either, LOL!)
doesn't it drive you nuts that you really are such a good parent and you try so hard, but because of your child's temper people look down on you!?! |
| YiberryYadeeKarin |
Posted - Aug 01 2006 : 12:09:19 PM
Bobbi,
Is this my little pal, Halsey?
Sorry you're going through this. REALLY sorry about the new lap top (sigh).
I don't have any advise for you like the other ladies. But I'll send good thoughts your way!
Karin
P.S. Thanks for the mail art awhile back, btw. And how is life in Montana? (I drive past the street to your old house quite often, when I'm in no mood to take the interstate home. I always think of you!) |
| quilt8305 |
Posted - Aug 01 2006 : 11:47:08 AM
Bobbi,
I would have her hearing checked if you haven't already. And then a thorough medical checkup just to rule out anything physiological or chemical in the way of imbalances. It never hurts to know where you are starting from. I feel for you.
Mary
Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding. Albert Einstein |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Jul 31 2006 : 2:22:10 PM
Thanks for the tip Barbara. She is talking enough that I can understand her but most of the rest of the world can't. She does sign the word more when she wants more of anything be it more time at the park or more food, and she can say milk now so she doesn't use that sign so much anymore.
My neighbor downstairs has had enough of it apparently because she had 2 police officers at my front door this morning after Halsey threw a fit over me not giving her more yogurt when she threw her current dish of it across the kitchen. All I actually did when she threw her fit was turn her chair and her booster around so she wasn't facing the table, and told her that when she could calm herself down she could turn around and be with the rest of us. So of course she started crying and kicking and wasn't calming down.. I know it didn't last that long but they showed up while she was in the midst of it.
There were two cops, a man and a woman who stopped by and they saw that everything was ok, and what was actually going on so they told me not to worry about it, she even said "I have kids too I know how it can be." but just having them in here checking things out was enough to get me to tear up.. I'm so frustrated, and really embarrassed. All my neighbors must think I'm abusing her or something.
We gave our notice today that we will be leaving as soon as our lease is up in September because for one thing it's not fair to make other people listen to her wailing.. I swear she sounds like a cat being tortured.. and for another, I really don't like the idea of the authorities showing up each time she doesn't get her way.. as if there isn't enough pressure on me already to get this girl to calm down, now I have to worry about that!
I have asked her Doctor at her last appointment if there were any signs of anything I should be aware of that would cause all this acting out and they said that she just had a temper and to do most of the things I am already doing.
Thank you all for your tips.. still not entirely sure what to do about this, I never EVER thought I would see myself in this situation. I took parenting classes back when I was pregnant, I have read tons of books, and after Kaylee has turned out to be such a fun happy little thing, I really thought I had my stuff together with all this...
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| BStein |
Posted - Jul 31 2006 : 07:06:31 AM
Is your little dolly a talker yet? Some children become so frustrated by their inability to communicate that they scream and act out. None of my four were like that, but I have studied American Sign Language some and know that many preschools/day cares and speech pathologists use ASL to help get through the terrible twos. I found a sign language DVD series with my 4 yo who loves to learn sign. It is called Signing Time and it's a series of 10 or so DVDs designed for young (2 or so and up) children who are developing normally, but can't communicate perfectly yet. It's ideal to teach a toddler signs like "drink" or "eat" or "more." Just basic signs if your child can't say the word they can sign it. We got it from the library. I used to think using sign would delay language, but I really think it would help if a child just can't get the words out. There is also a link for learning sign online http://commtechlab.msu.edu/sites/aslweb/browser.htm
Barbara |
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