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| Alee |
Posted - Nov 07 2010 : 7:55:14 PM
EEEEE
It has been WW3 at our house lately. Nora is waging a war against her daddy. Tonight she was kicking at him and calling him "stupid daddy" which is not any sort of sentiment we express to each other in the house so she didn't over hear me saying it about Doug.
She is in her room screaming and crying right now- throwing a temper tantrum. I am having to wait it out because she will calm down if I go in there but then it takes the bite out of the punishment Doug had to dishout for being so rude to him. I am praying that she gets over this stage soon!
I feel so guilty because she and I have been getting along great laltely so here we sit having a great relationship and she is totally trying to push him out.
I wonder if in some way she is jealous of my time?
Alee
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| msdoolittle |
Posted - Dec 09 2010 : 4:27:34 PM
Lol, oh she will. My oldest was such a little hormonal toot. She's mostly over it now, but I am NOT looking forward to the teenage years! Lol! Ugh!
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| Alee |
Posted - Dec 09 2010 : 11:25:55 AM
Thanks Amanda. Things have been slowly getting better around here. I am hoping that she is getting over this phase!
Alee
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| msdoolittle |
Posted - Dec 09 2010 : 11:15:43 AM
You're doing the right thing by removing her from the situation and letting her calm down on her own. My firstborn is THE strong willed child, so I feel your pain! Sometimes I wanted to just ship her off to a foreign country, lol! (joking, joking)
I would do exactly that, though. At that age, I would tell her, "NO, Ma'am, ABSOLUTELY NOT" and put her in her room. Eventually she'd calm down. In fact, we had it out yesterday (she's now 7!)...I called my husband and asked if he'd replaced her with a small demon when he dropped her off at school. I knew she was likely either sleepy, hungry, or sick to throw such an ugly fit, and guess what? She woke up with a fever this morning.
One time I read something about training puppies. It had something to do with the fact that their attention is easily diverted and they're always onto the next thing, so punishment doesn't really work (not discipline, but punishment). I think small children are the same way. You just have to 'switch their channels'. Sometimes that requires either diverting their attention to something else, or simply putting them by themselves and letting them calm down by themselves.
After an hour of screaming and being a little butt, my daughter came downstairs and came and cuddled with me on the couch as we watched a movie. I just told her that seven year olds do not act that way. Good luck!
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| Ninibini |
Posted - Nov 07 2010 : 9:08:55 PM
Aw, Alee... I feel for you! It's all normal, though. I used to say, "What's all this about the terrible two's? Are they sure they didn't mean traumatizing three's???" (Me, of course, being the most traumatized one! LOL!) Don't worry, it won't last forever. You are probably right, though - she probably loves being with you so much, she is having trouble sharing you. Don't feel guilty - it's natural. Someday, you'll most likely find the tables turned, with her not wanting to share Daddy with you, either! :)
Here's a thought, though: Maybe if you make a big deal about including daddy and telling her how special he is, all the nice things he says about her, pointing out all the great things he does for both of you, how much fun you all have together, and how that shows how much he loves both of you, it will help. Tomorrow, maybe you both could make a big deal about him coming home, make something special for him - like a picture or card or something - that she can give to him. When I was little, my Mom would tell us in a sing-songy voice, "Daddy will be home soon!" and we'd stand at the front glass door calling his name and singing for him. It was always a big deal. When he'd come home, he'd say, "Was that you I heard calling for me and singing while I was on my way home?" We'd giggle and be so excited; it made us feel so special, and I'm pretty sure he felt special, too.
I know it's hard, but hang in there. It will be okay, honest. Each stage is so different, with new exciting abilities, and some not-so-fun challenges. It all comes together eventually... At least...that's what my mother tells me... :)
Hugs - Nini
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