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| Annika |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 4:58:06 PM
Some days it is hard to have an empty house when I would rather hear the sound of children, laughing, playing and squabbling. The forum is very mother and child oriented and it is hard sometimes to be babyless when everyone talks babies.
Adoption is a no go and I'm not married to my sweetie.I guess it's bitter-sweet. I'm menopausal early and I'm just plain wistful. Please talk babies, I love reading and hearing and posting about them. I guess I just wanted to say things from my point of view. I love kids and being childless was not my choice. I'm happy for each and every mother out there and all of you who are trying, I'll just say, Don't wait too long.
End of wistful post 
Hugs everyone and your little ones too, hold them dear, they are precious gifts 
Annika
Farmgirl sister #13
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| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Jan 26 2008 : 11:28:22 AM
gurlfren .. i adopted a darling two year old daughter .. and i can PROMISE you .. it is every bit as special as poppin' one out and holding them in your arms. (i've done it BOTH ways) .. and each have been equally special! hugs, frannie
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| sleepless reader |
Posted - Jan 26 2008 : 11:05:02 AM
Oh, Sweetie, I've been there!I was an early meonpaus-er too. Found out AFTER all the test and tubes and trying! I would hope that at some time you may be able to open your heart to adoption, but bless you for your willingness to foster. Those are really our forgotten kids! God bless your journey.
hugs,
Sharon
Farmgirl Sister #74
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| Annika |
Posted - Jan 25 2008 : 12:48:40 AM
Thank all of you for listening and being understanding. I knew I could count on my farm sisters to understand. I'm not so sad as wistful. I get bouts of wanting my own baby really bad but I think that is just natural and part of being a woman. You girls are the best! Hugs to all of you for being so sweet
Annika
Farmgirl sister #13
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| Alee |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 9:25:28 PM
Annika-
*hugs* We all love you so very much and I am sorry you, and others are hurting about this! I wish there was a magic wand that could put babies in the arms of those who want those, and preven babies from going to the ones who don't want or take care of them. I hope you and Drew get to the point where you might be able to adopt or foster soon. Don't give up hope! I have a friend who is 55 I think, who adopted a baby only 15 years ago. When she adopted J, her back was out and everyone questioned how she could take care of an infant. But amazingly, not only did she take care of her sweet baby, she got better too! No more back problems.
If you would like to talk to my friend about her adopted daughter and how she found her and everything, please let me know. I can pass on your name and her phone number to you and her. I am sure she would love to chat with you and help you if she could!
Hugs!
Alee
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| UrbanChick |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 8:53:25 PM
I remember when we were trying to have a baby and it was taking so long. Taking temperature, taking vitamins, watching what I ate, watching the calendar, and making whoopie seemed more like work. I used to walk into Babies R Us near our house to look for deals on stuff and one day I just broke down, sat in a chair and just cried. I remember feeling stupid for looking at all the baby stuff when we didn't even have a baby yet. A week later I told hubbie that we should just take a brake and not think about baby stuff. In a few months after we quit trying so hard we got pregnant. I hope that you don't lose hope. There are always ways to feel that special feeling even if you don't have a little one at home right now. It's nice to know that you are open to adoption or fostering. My sister in law has been trying for 7 years now with 4 miscarriages and her husband is set against adoption. If it's not from his blood he said he doesn't want it.
"Courage dosen't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying: I will try again tomorrow." |
| Corinnelouise |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 8:53:21 PM
Annika, I understand so well how you can feel. Some solutions are good but it is the raw wanting of going through the pregnancy, the happiness of a child growing in our womb, the giving birth, the day per day of this miracle that we miss deep into our heart.
It took me a long time to come to term with this "less" and since I have accepted it deep in my soul, I go on my way. Like Patricia said in one post, sometimes it is a Karma response to something we have forgotten.
Do not despair, take it a day at a time and keep your inner child happy and playfull, this helps.
Corinne
Sister # 101 |
| Firemama |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 6:44:15 PM
Annika i hope I am not inappropriate in asking but have you thought about surrogacy? I have been a gestational surrogate 2 times, and helped (two families bring 3 children) who never thought infants would be in their lives they are now almost 5 b/g twins and a 2y/o little boy. The mom of the 2year old lost her baby and uterus in a matter of 2weeks, and thought she would never have a baby , Anan is now 2 and an awesome little man.
Just a thought, and foster care sounds like it would be awesome, I hope one day to be able to do that.
Mama to 2
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| Annika |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 6:22:26 PM
When Andrew and I get a bigger place we will likely foster or adopt a couple of older children, which is a comfort to think about. It's the wanting one's own newborn baby thing that makes me wishful and wanting sometimes. Thanks for the replies. I'm having a maternal instinct day or some such and wanting a baby to love.
Patricia, you've given me the giggles, but you did turn out pretty darn swell 
Annika
Farmgirl sister #13
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| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 5:50:55 PM
Annika, I wish you would consider adoption. There are so many beautiful children who need love like yours. I was adopted and look how great I turned out, lol.
Patricia
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 5:33:04 PM
Annika, I'm sorry...the baby thing is a new adventure for me...never really thought it WAS for me and then this year, I see things a little differently.
Have you ever considered being a child advocate through your local court. These children could sure use your love and strength.
Farmgirl Sister #80, thanks to a very special farmgirl from the Bluegrass..."She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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| Peanut |
Posted - Jan 24 2008 : 5:01:54 PM
Annika, I wish I could give you a huge hug right now.
"What is a farm but a mute gospel?"
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