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| dg7954 |
Posted - Oct 28 2005 : 09:34:55 AM
I recently spent time with someone who is a hospice nurse. She is a lovely person, who did not seem sad, but more drained than anything. It made me think about posting this topic. Having studied Cranial Sacral Therapy, I am always intuned to people's energy. It is very easy for someone to be completely unaware that someone is draining their energy for a number of reasons. It is not always for power (like in an argument). But, have you ever been in an argument with someone, knowing you were right, and in the middle of it get confused, or couldn't think straight? This is an energy drain. The other person's energy has overtaken yours, and a symptom of that is a loss of clarity. Has anyone told you their problems and left you feeling laden down and exhausted? Do they seem to be lighter and feeling better? You have taken their energy on. Someone that you live with might be so negative and dysfunctional that they give you their negative energy every day. It will leave you confused, depressed, exhausted, and can ultimately make you ill.
A constant draining of energy is not a good thing for anyone, and there are many ways to block this from happening. People don't understand (unless they work with energy) that you can control it. You can maintain your energy by simply being aware that someone else is trying to drain it, and say to yourself "I am blocking your drain of my energy. You cannot have it. It belongs to me and I won't part with it." Pay attention to how you feel around others. First block your energy, and then do something that rebuilds, heals, and manifests more energy by doing yoga or meditating. Invision a white, protective bubble around yourself, that makes you impervious to being drained. You will feel better, more vital, and have greater clarity. Also, energy is what keeps your immune system strong. If you have an energy drain on a regular basis, you cannot fight off disease as easily. So, take care of yourself, and work on keeping your energy at its optimum level. |
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| KarenP |
Posted - Oct 30 2005 : 05:54:44 AM
Hi
I too have had an energy vampire, at work, everything was a big drama, everything thing in her life was a drama, she would come in and just drain everyone.
She would be on some drug or another and woe was she, and then go on about how her grown kids run her life and the 11 dogs she has attached another dog and so on and so on.
If she came into your office she spilled coffee on your desk, on herself, and probably on you.
I told her many times that alot of her problems are of her own making, and really didn't want to hear about it. (just to save my own sanity)
I felt sorry for a co-worker who had to fly to the west coast with her.. she was late, she packed to much stuff so she had to take more into her carry-on, she dropped the carry-on on some poor persons head in the plane while putting it up in the overhead, her checked bag didn't show at the destination so a scene insued. ETC, ETC.
I think I would have had to stuff her in the oveheard!
Thankfully shes left for a better job, we are all recoving now!
KarenP
"Purest Spring Water in the World" |
| dg7954 |
Posted - Oct 29 2005 : 2:27:42 PM
I have read all the above stories and I have a lot to say. I too was the MOM figure and therapist for everyone and still am if I think about it, but it is not done the same way anymore. Firstly, please read the post I wrote on shaking hands with your soul (it is in the across the fence forum). The reason I am saying this is that if you are working with your soul energy, instead of your "brain" or body energy, it changes everything. You, for one thing, give much better advice, but more importantly, you retain your energy. Your soul is a natural protection to energy drainers. It really comes down to self-perception. If you see your soul energy giving advice, it will naturally take over and protect you. You will actually have more energy!!! Another thing. I do not believe that protecting yourself is selfish. Selfishness gets a bum rap a lot of the time. Loving yourself, protecting your soul from dysfunction, and generally taking care of yourself when dealing with someone who doesn't care how you are being affected by their energy is NOT SELFISH! If anything, the soul drainer and dumper is the selfish one. I believe that protecting yourself from dysfunction is the primary reason we are here (so that your soul can flourish and gain knowledge and wisdom). But, once you do that by regenerating, doing soul work (communicating with your soul energy), and gaining insight and wisdom, you can be free to help someone. But, you will find yourself putting the brakes on must faster when you spot a drainer. Your soul will not let you go deep into the abyss of dysfunction anymore. You will be able to council, but ON YOUR TERMS. Judes, the person you were dealing with sounds highly dysfunctional (which explains her constant problems and inability to fix them). She was also manipulative, by sensing that you were pulling away and gifting you to create guilt. She is the type of person I would only "visit" occasionally. In the past I would have done exactly what you did. A major negative act would be the only excuse to cut her off. Your energy and advice belongs to you. Do not give your power away. Remember that you are giving a gift of love when you try to help someone. You don't have to give them the entire store. Another thing is that, if you start to council someone constantly you are not really doing them a favor. You should only be a guide not a parent. You are getting them into a dependency where they can't and won't think for themselves. So, there go their life lessons out the window! And lastly, anytime you are telling yourself that you are selfish, that is your brain talking not your soul. Your soul would tell you what I just did. |
| ladybugsmom6 |
Posted - Oct 29 2005 : 08:10:21 AM
hmmm, with six kids, i thought it was just caring for them that was wearing me down. but i recognize that my hubbys work stress drains me, and so does all that bickering, 5 girls under ten! i wil have to keep in mind the energy thing. can you recomend any good books i can check out at the library? i have a nasty cut on a finger and wont be doing much more than teaching and reading for awhile!
-Tami
livin' right and loven' life! |
| catscharm74 |
Posted - Oct 28 2005 : 8:32:33 PM
This is one of my biggest problems in life.. I listen to EVERYONE's problems and they always come to me to fix everything. They didn't call me Mom at my last job for nothing. I am making an effort to honestly not ask how someone is doing with whatever problem/life crisis they are having. I know that sounds mean, but it is so draining on me. I found the less I ask, the true problems come to me and I can stave off the rest. I am finally starting to take my energy back. I spent the last at least 20 years solving everyone else's problems and being the solution worker for everyone else, putting myself on the back burner. It is quite a process and I have to remind my self daily of my goals. But I will get there...being selfish is high on my list right now. Being 5 months pregnant is forcing me too be selfish. It is a hard change for me but I know I have to make them for my well being and my babies well being and my families well being. Working on this with hubby too... |
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