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| catscharm74 |
Posted - May 15 2007 : 11:56:24 AM
Well, I chatted with a few docs at the hospital today about things that have been going on, and they believe I am going through some sort of early/mid life crisis. I am only 33, though I know people who have had theirs early in life too.
I don't mind the fact that I might be a little crazy... ...just need to know how to go about handling this. I feel disorganized, antsy, stir crazy, forgetful, wanting to sell everything I own and run away to an island. Part of my coping process has been what I posted about cleaning out the house. It really has helped but I feel very stagnant and stressed about things not moving along...or they are but just not at the pace I want...
I know something wonderful is in the works and I am very receptive to the fact that when I get that little funny feeling in my tummy, it means something good is about to happen. I am just...gosh I don't know what I am...
UGH!!!! Insigh dear farmgirls, ideas, chocolate??????
Cheers,
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - May 17 2007 : 06:11:31 AM
I feel kindof blessed, then, I guess. It was 25 for me that put me over the edge! A lot of factors certainly contributed, though: had to quit dancing because of injury, divorce final a few weeks before my birthday, financial uncertainty...I felt like a total loser, and I can't count how many times I rose from my bed in the middle of the night and drove west a few hours, stopping in some little all night truck stop, crying over a piece of cherry pie. It's the truth!
By the time I made it to 30, I was...satisfied--with my new-found inner strength, confident and happy. The only thing that made me blue around that milestone was that my father died before he could really SEE me happy. I felt like I'd finally succeeded.
I guess I really haven't hit that "down" since that time...sometimes I wish I could do something a bit different, or go back to school, but overall, I'm pretty satisfied--I think it's because I had so much turmoil early on in my life(?).
I wish you gals love and light. You'll get through it. Even though few of us can chat in person, and we're spread across this country, I've learned from this site that we farmgirls are resilient and true of heart!
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| MariaAZ |
Posted - May 16 2007 : 5:44:07 PM
catscharm, you might have something on that "rite of passage" thing! My 30th birthday was a nightmare, I think I cried the whole week prior. Our world is sooo youth-oriented, and society seems to place such a premium on one's 20's that I felt like I had wasted the best years of my life. Silly, I know, when one considers that average lifespans are well over 70! The 40's were much easier, I simply decided that there is no way I will ever be in my 30's again but I sure as heck could be the best 40-something I could possibly be.
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - May 16 2007 : 4:27:18 PM
Good lordie!! What is going on with all of us and why do our Mother's not warn us of this? Is this some cruel right of passage thing??? : )
What's next- the moustache lip, widening mid section, grey hair, eating less and gain more??? UGH!!!! CRAZY!!!
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| brightmeadow |
Posted - May 16 2007 : 4:05:41 PM
Me too! Me too! Me too!
My first reaction reading your post was, gee, I've felt like that my entire life! Then I read Amanda's and Maria's posts..tee hee... I see I'm not alone!
Hang in there! Here's a virtual hug!
You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands - You shall be happy and it shall be well with you. -Psalm 128.2
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| westernhorse51 |
Posted - May 16 2007 : 06:25:25 AM
I think it is LIFE! Things seem to be out of whack for many people right now especially with the restlessness. Everyone I talk to seems to be feeling the same way. Breathe, pray, meditate, get outside.
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| simpler1773 |
Posted - May 15 2007 : 7:47:41 PM
Heather ~ My jaw almost hit the floor when I read your post! I'm 33 and going thru the exact. same. thing!
I'm fairly certain if it weren't for my kids ~ I really would run away to an island (or city or something!).  I've already sold or given away almost all of my crafting and sewing stuff just in the last few months.
Let me know if you find any answers and if you just want to chat my email is oldquiltlover@hotmail.com
~Ricki~
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| MariaAZ |
Posted - May 15 2007 : 5:04:12 PM
I'm with Amanda! Pretty much my entire teen/adult life, I've gone through cycles of being vaguely to seriously dissatisfied with where I am in life. And like Amanda suggested, I try to slow things down a bit, to be alone with my thoughts and see what's REALLY bothering me. I think of these cycles as being good for me, as it forces me to re-evaluate what I am doing, where I am going and where I WANT to go; it's rather like a direction adjustment on a journey for which there's no map ;)
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| kitchensqueen |
Posted - May 15 2007 : 3:04:12 PM
If those are the symptoms, I've been having my midlife crisis since I was 17! :-) I think once in a while we all start to get all jumbly and stir crazy inside, and that's healthy. It's an indicator to slow down, take things one at a time, and really figure out what it is you want and need in your core.
I've been going through a similar phase lately, and I have to remind myself to just breathe. When work gets awful and I start to get upset I have to say to myself "Wait a second! This is just advertising. No one is going to die if you don't finish this today/mess this up/'insert other bad thing here'". Same thing with my family-- when things get stressful, I tell myself it's okay to check out for awhile and focus on myself when others aren't.
I sympathize with the stagnancy feeling-- when I want something, I want it NOW, I don't want to have to go through all the motions and wait. Just remember that patience is a virtue for a reason, and if you want something, you need to be active in fascilitating it's happening.
And when things get really rough, remember that "this too shall pass". But it sounds like you're on the verge of an exciting time in your life, so make so you're focusing on you.
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| lisamarie508 |
Posted - May 15 2007 : 12:18:49 PM
I went through this several years ago (in my 30's also). What works for one person may not work for everybody, but here goes. A friend gave me a small plaque that said:
Free your heart from hatred, free your mind from worries, live simply, give more, expect less, thank God for everything.
I took this little plaque to heart and vowed to try it. Freeing my heart from hatred wasn't very hard. Hate is a very strong word (and feeling) and there were only a couple people/things that I had to reconcile my feelings with. I have to admit it is hard to free your mind from worries. But I did learn to let the little stuff (that's ANYTHING that is not life or death) go. I deal with it if possible; if it's out of my control I just let it go. It took many years to get to this point. But that one thing, if you accomplish it, is very liberating. Living simply is difficult with teenagers already used to STUFF but becomes much easier once they're gone. Expecting less is easy and so is thanking God. It's sort of a moving meditation thing.
It actually takes a while to get through what you are going through. I don't know if that little plaque actually made the difference for me or if I would have "outgrown" the crisis anyway. But it did give me something else to focus on.
The only other thing I can think of to tell you is stock up on chocolate, take a deep breath before doing anything drastic, know that many women have lived through this and there is a light at the end of the tunnel if you just keep moving along.
All the best to you. God bless.
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