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| sammyann |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 10:26:07 AM
Hi everyone, with the holidays so close, I need a little encouragement. I was informed on Saturday by my mother in law, (during my sons bday party) that we were going to celebrate my FIL's bday on Thanksgiving. Which is ok. However, then she proceeded to tell me (not ask), that she was inviting friends over after the meal, to our house, to celebrate his bday as well.
So, what would you do?
Does anyone have any mixed drink (non Alcoholic)ideas, that I could do, or do you think that offering water is ok? I guess these friends will have had dinner with their familys, but since it will be later in the afternoon, should I offer snacks?
Thanks Ladies.... Sammyann |
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| sammyann |
Posted - Nov 20 2012 : 04:05:38 AM
Thanks everyone. Bonnie, I have tried talking to her and she always ends up crying. Not to me, but always after she leaves and then she tells my husband that I am mean to her (and I don't even know that I was).
Yes, we are having Thanksgiving Dinner at our house. We are the only ones in the family that have the most space.
Oh well, we will get through. I think I will leave it to coffee and water. I don't know how many of their friends will be coming. She didn't give any indication of how many she invited, so I don't want to make something and have only a couple show up.
Rosemary, I love your idea. And I just might sneak off to my bedroom. Or take my dogs for a nice long walk through our property. :)
Everyone, Have a WONDERFUL Thanksgiving, & stay safe!
Sammyann |
| kysheeplady |
Posted - Nov 20 2012 : 03:33:21 AM
LOL ... Mara!
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
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| Bonnie Ellis |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 10:09:02 PM
Just this time accept this, but in a gentle way, tell your mil that she needs to talk to you first before inviting friends because it is your right to decide who comes to your house. It's not easy,but if you don't do this now you will lose control of your life. Discuss it first with dh first to find out his opinion. Good luck and God Bless.
grandmother and orphan farmgirl |
| Rosemary |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 9:14:31 PM
Wow. This sounds awful. My sympathies.
If I were you, I'd probably laugh off your MIL's suggestion about the after-party and tell her you expect to be relaxing in your bedroom after throwing a combination Thanksgiving dinner and birthday party for the family and overseeing the clean-up. If she wants to bring something to serve these people, suggest she also bring some paper plates and cups because you don't want to face dirty dishes in the morning. Tell her you hope her little party will be great fun for everyone.
I would also consider putting knock-out drops in her cranberry sauce and apologizing to all her friends when they show up, explaining that she indulged a little too heavily in the hard cider. ;) |
| kysheeplady |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 4:42:32 PM
Marianne has the right idea as far as I am concerned ... If my MIL invited guest (meaning her friends) then she had better be supplying the snacks or whatever SHE thinks they will need or want. Sounds like she has over stepped her boundries ...
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
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| rough start farmgirl |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 4:30:27 PM
I would do as the others suggested and stick with coffee, tea and water. And I would ask MIL if she is bringing a cake for her guests ...
Good luck. Family is difficult.
Marianne |
| YakLady |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 2:35:46 PM
If my MIL pulled that nonsense, my husband would put her in her place quick. Where was your hubby when this happened? I really don't get some people =/ But I would definitely see if your husband told her it was okay without talking to you first... sometimes that happens and the message never gets to us =/
Are you hosting your family's Thanksgiving dinner this year? Is that why she thought "Oh, we'll just have a party for my husband at your house because you'll already be set up for company" or something?
Maybe a punch and coffee/tea option would be good. I would have your MIL provide the snacks she wants her friends to have.
~Hen 4316~ Just a farmgirl in Western Montana.
Starting a family and raising up a small ranch using natural resources.
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| Annika |
Posted - Nov 19 2012 : 10:50:59 AM
Sammyann, here is my advice. When someone decides to invite people over to my house, I do try to be hospitable, but they do have to understand that it IS thanksgiving after all. I'd serve coffee or some kind of sparkling water with a wedge of lime/lemon and maybe spiced nuts or pretzels, if you want to serve something sweet serve some store bought little cookies if you don't feel like making them yourself, usually there are some rather nice ones. Home made or store bought freezer roll dough can also be stretched around to make a little long diamond shape, pinched together on top and filled with a dollop of cream cheese and a bit of cranberry sauce. People usually will have had dinner and some dessert. I don't think it's reasonable for anyone to expect to be fed dinner with out an invitation beforehand. And it's unkind and plain rude of your MIL to expect more at this point. Just my point of view
Hugs!
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
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