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| Beverley |
Posted - Aug 15 2012 : 9:45:23 PM
my daughter just wants to help a child or 2 out, she already has 5 and she is in michigan, she is starting by being a foster mother. Since she has 4 girls and her oldest is her son and he is going off to college next year, her hubby and her have agreed to take in a boy or 2. her hubby says they need more testosterone in the house!! hehe
she is hopefully looking at 0-2 or 3 years of age and is going through the state . Anyone have any good suggestions for her and her hubby...?
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| MtnGrlByTheBay |
Posted - Aug 29 2012 : 7:06:37 PM
I know a Christian Adoption Consultant in Indianapolis. She especially works w/ special needs cases. PM me & I could put you in contact.
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| rschaaf |
Posted - Aug 16 2012 : 8:48:58 PM
my hubby and i are foster parents of a 22 month old boy (our first foster and first child, ever). we have had him since he was 10 days old and we will know next week if his case will progress to reunification or file for perm. custody.
i can't say that the last 22 months have been without ups and downs, but for the most part being a foster mom has been fairly uneventful. i think is becasue he is so young is why it helps. you don't have to deal with the school stuff and alot of the emotional stuff, not to say that babies don't sometimes come with some baggage...he had colic for 2 1/2 months, but has been a very normal child.
the foster system depends alot on your county and state. when we went to trainings recently, one trainer said (because ohio has 88 counties...) that there are 88 different kingdoms with 88 kings and queens. that was a good analogy. i think the county that we foster with is good. we have assistance if we need it, great caseworkers (at least with this placement, who knows about the future...) and i feel like the county does well in making sure we have the financial support we need to care for him as well. ther are bureaucratic things you have to deal with, but for us it really hasn't been too bad. but, like i said every place is different.
we are foster-to-adopt parents, so we hope the children we take may get to be our own someday, but nothing is ever for sure.
the biggest thing i try to keep telling myself is "just let me take care of this child and if i need anything, i will let you (the agency) know". but in the back of my head, i know he isn't mine, so that helps keep things in perspective; plus i see his birth parents every week, that helps too. but, you will get attached; youre not human if you don't. it is recommended that you do attach and they attach to you. that is how healing and trust begin. lots of these kids come into your home where the trust cycle has been repeatedly broken, and the trust cycle is the foundation for a healthy, well-adjusted person--which is why these kids arrive in the shape they do sometimes. just make sure your daughter and SIL get as much training as possible. if not much is available, read read read. use the library. there is a good book called "one small boat" i don't remember the author though. very good book about a foster moms journey with a foster daughter they had.
with the little boy we have now, i finally got to be a mom. that was what i was craving and what he needed. at the end of the day that is what matters. we each filled each other's need.
fostering isn't for everyone, that's for sure. if your daughter and family have the drive, heart, commitment and love to go through with this undertaking (because it is an undertaking...) then i say more power to them. glad to have another foster family in the world to help those little people that need a temporary--or forever home.
if your daughter would like some more information about our foster journey, email me through the website here and i would be glad to share what i know. i am by no means a veteran, but can at least shed a little light.
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| Beverley |
Posted - Aug 16 2012 : 7:28:12 PM
she signed up for 0-2 and she has already bought different size clothes and 2 different size car seats and things of that nature and of course and crib, She had to have certain things ready when they did the home study. so for that she is ready and both of her youngest daughters were premmies so she had to do stuff for them when they were young. so I think she is ready in that respect. I just hope she does not get to attached and then have one sent back cause the parents "cleaned up their act" That would be hard...
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| sjmjgirl |
Posted - Aug 16 2012 : 6:07:34 PM
Beverley I see many foster children where I work and I commend your daughter and SIL for wanting to share their home w/ a child in need. However I hope that they are carefully considering the fact that the child they would likely get will have some emotional and/or physical problems. They may be asked to take someone in at a moments notice, with little or nothing at all for clothing, toys, baby equipment, etc. Not to mention the time and effort it can take to get health insurance info, school info...Its not something that someone should get into thinking it will be like when they raised their own children. They will most likely have multiple state agencies to deal with and believe me, that is not easy. If they still want in, I say go for it, because it can be extremely rewarding. But they must go in with both eyes wide open. Good luck!
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