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| OmgsItsTashaRose |
Posted - Nov 17 2011 : 2:32:16 PM
Your love? Do you have a Fella or a Lady? how did you meet? What drew the two of you together? how long have you been together? What keeps you together? Do you have a defined value-set in your relationship in order to keep it part of, but seperate from the relationship of your family culture?
I am very interested having been through two long term relationships in the past but never feeling how I feel now, with Travis.
I will answer these questions also :)
I have a Fella...a wonderful wonderful, loving, giving, compassionate, passionate and powerful, goddess worshipping, god revering Fella. We call each other "Lady" and "Fella". We prefer that to "partner" or "boy/girlfriend"...one evokes the idea of a gay couple-of which we have no opposition to, we just aren't a gay couple- and the other evokes the idea of 17 year old high school romance...and we are clever ;-) so "Lady" and "Fella" it is...
more later :-)
Formerly GaiasRose
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| Tn.Earthmama |
Posted - Dec 10 2011 : 1:48:57 PM
oh, forgot to say, he proposed on April fools day and threatened to yell, April Fools, when he got to the altar. good thing I have the same warped sense of humor. Phyllis |
| Tn.Earthmama |
Posted - Dec 10 2011 : 1:44:24 PM
my hubby and I met on a blind date, 38 yrs ago today. we married 6 months later. think I'll keep him. : ) Phyllis |
| msdoolittle |
Posted - Dec 08 2011 : 08:18:15 AM
My story seems pretty seedy, too. Mainly because my ex worked for my (now) Hubbs. See? Told you it sounds horrible! Lol!
It's pretty obvious how we met, but anyway, the fact was that we were both in completely miserable relationships (unbeknownst to each other). So, there came a time when I was trying to fix up my grandmother's house because I had bought it and wanted to move in quickly. My mother and I worked SO HARD on getting this house ready and my (now) ex did virtually nothing to help. As I found out later, he was apparently out fishing/playing pool/whatever while my mother and I were slaving on this project (See why he's an ex???) Anyway, my mom thought, without telling me, that if she didn't come, maybe the ex would come and help...as he should have been anyway. Nope. WEEKS went by with just me showing up to work. In absolute desperation, I called the ex's boss (my Hubbs now) because I remembered at one time he had volunteered to help if we needed it. I was freaking out about the house not getting done because I was already paying to live there and in a rental house, too.
So, he shows up and helps for 2 days straight. As we were talking, we discovered that we were both extremely unhappy. I cut a joke about Wife Swap (that show) and said, "What if someone swapped and didn't want to go back?". After giggling madly, we got back to work. I was MOST IMPRESSED when "Aquarius" came on the radio and I said how much I loved that song but didn't know who it was, and he said, "Isn't that 5th Dimension?". I think my eyes nearly popped out of my head! Someone who knows 70s music!
Fast forward a few months later. With no planning (I swear it), we both left our exes, and we ended up talking. And talking and talking and talking. And then getting married the next summer. We will be married seven years next year, and I have enjoyed every minute of it!
Not only is he a great husband, he also is the best father to my two girls (one is not biologically his). I wish I could clone him!!!
FarmGirl #1390
www.mylittlecountry.wordpress.com |
| bizemom |
Posted - Dec 08 2011 : 04:59:08 AM
What a cute thread:) I met my hubby when my bff asked me to get to know this guy so I could introduce them! I was only 14 & he was 18. We were hanging out at a bowling alley. I introduced myself, we started talking & I walked out & told her "I wouldn't date him if he was the last guy on earth!" Haha he was so cocky! Well I introduced them, they became friends nothing more. About 6 months later I seen him again & we started talking...needless to say we started dating & married 5yrs. later:) We've been married almost 21yrs. this March. She was happy for us:) She is still my bff & our son's Godmother!! She has an awesome guy & I got mine:)
Proud mama to 2 AMAZING kiddos & wife to a WONDERFUL man!! |
| jessabelluh |
Posted - Dec 02 2011 : 07:54:28 AM
Add me to the list of meeting in a bar, and following the band. lol
I went with a friend to see a band. We liked them and saw that they were playing another show a few months later, so we went to see them again and sat closer to the front that time. After the show, he walked up to me and was about to ask if I wanted to buy a tape, then he saw that I already had one. We chatted for a few minutes before he asked if he could give me his number. I called him the next day and we've been together since.
~jess |
| JessyLynn88 |
Posted - Dec 02 2011 : 06:13:18 AM
well mine is a pretty crooked story. I originally met him when I was 16 at the homecoming dance and completely blow him off. 4 years later my marriage to my high school sweetheart was at its end and he already had a girlfriend before I had even left. A girl that was my good friend in high school and my husband's ex fiance. My husband and I started talking on myspace after he had bought his ex on some app and her "friend" was getting mad and she asked me to buy her back. I did and sent him an email telling him why I did, if he remembered me, and to please stop buying her on the app. Well he is in the Army and decided to surprise me and come visit on r&r since he had no one to come home to and we had become friends. Even though I refused to ever be alone in the room with my now husband my ex got mad and accused me of cheating even though he was openly with someone else. He got violent one night about it and came after me. Needless to say my husband busted down the door yanked him off me and they got into a fist fight which my ex lost and ended up in jail for domestic violence. My husband packed me and my two kids at the time up and moved us in with my parents 4 hours away. We have been together ever since. We got married as soon as my divorce was final and now have 4 (2 from my 1st marriage that he claims) kids and the 5th on the way.
-JessyLynn
Farmgirl Sister #3675 |
| edlund33 |
Posted - Nov 29 2011 : 8:05:28 PM
I met Paul while I was working. My family owns a landscape business and he worked at a lumber yard that we maintained. He was the assistant manager and I had often talked to him when we checked in during our weekly site visits. I was busy one Saturday afternoon repairing some irrigation pipes and wires that had been disconnected due to construction work. It was about 100 degrees that day and Paul walked up and offered me a cup of hot coffee. I thought he was nuts so I said no thanks! He immediately asked me what I would like and came back with a cold soda a few minutes later. I was so focused on what I was doing in my ditch that it didn't even dawn on me that he was hitting on me until I got home from work and there was a phone message from him. (We also had an account with the lumber store, so I found out later he didn't have to work very hard to find my parent's name and look up the home phone number!) He's ten years older than I am so at first I wasn't sure about it but I finally agreed to go on a date. We went to a movie then talked for hours and hit it off great. That still hasn't changed after 15 years!
Cheers! ~ Marilyn
Farm Girl No. 1100
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. - Ralph Waldo Emerson |
| lisalisa |
Posted - Nov 29 2011 : 7:03:00 PM
Oh, aren't you ladies all so sweet! Great stories!
We worked in the same large office. I didn't like him at all!! Too cocky, sure of himself. I was a single parent reeling from a bad marriage.
He cancelled our first date, called from the emergency room - he broke his nose! I didn't believe him, and we've been married 16 years now and he never lets me forget it! 
He's been a wonderful father, especially to my (our) older daughter. He was always her coach if she asked, always said to "eat your vegetables", "don't talk that way to your mother", you know, all those un-glamorous things that go with parenting. And the same with our two younger ones, too.
Life wouldn't be the same without him----
---Lisa
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| Missus Miranda |
Posted - Nov 26 2011 : 07:53:40 AM
*giggle* I'm having to keep from getting all teary eyed, sitting alone here in my office. My folks would have been married 43 years this past January, had Daddy lived. He passed just a few months shy of their 40th!
And, like you, they struggled through it all, but made it.
I am learning that hard work is required AND worth it for a relationship to work. It's a blessing, though it's not always easy!
"I'm not trying to be mean or cantankerous. I just wish people would do the right thing, and use a little common sense." ~ Farmgirl 3535
Pflugerville, TX
http://www.tawnycow.blogspot.com/ |
| ceejay48 |
Posted - Nov 26 2011 : 07:28:22 AM
It's rather old-fashioned really . . my "hubby" and I met at Arizona Bible College in Phoenix, Arizona. We were both in our sophomore year. I had transferred there from another college so I was new to this campus my 2nd year. Our first date was to the Arizona State Fair in November that year, we went shopping for a ring and announced our engagement at the college Valentine/Sweetheart Banquet the following February, planned a wedding and were married in December. We dated on a Honda 90 motor bike which belonged to his roommate, since neither of us had a car. (My dad did buy one for me before Bill and I got married)
We will celebrate our 43rd wedding anniversary in December this year!!!! (So now you can figure out the math as to how long ago that was. .  )
We were young, we have struggled through all kinds of difficulties . . . not enough $$ off and on for many years, raising a son with Down Syndrome, the divorce of our daughter, losing our home in an arson fire, losing our parents, our own individual "mid-life crisis" years and all the craziness that brings, sufferings of family members (suicide, accident causing brain injury and total disability, terminal cancer, and many others I won't get into)
What has kept us together? Christian committed love! Working through the things that were trying to tear us apart, knowing that it was worth it! Laughter! Knowing what battles to pick! Laughter! Love! Friendship! Facing the struggles TOGETHER! Embracing the individuality in the other one and not trying to change that person into a mirror image of ourself. Laughter! Patience!! LOVE!!! Working side by side, sharing the load . .whether it be building our house, chasing the bull back to the pasture, planting the garden, raising (and disciplining) our children, making dinner . . whatever the task was/is. Laughter!! LOVE!!!! PRAYER!!!!!!
Sooooo, sometimes I call him "honey", sometimes "Sweet William" or sometimes "Bad Billy". But, no matter what, he's my HUBBY and he's a keeper!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665.
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| adnama |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 9:07:07 PM
Wow, all you ladies stories are keepers. I too have one that I will share when the mood is right, but it's wonderful to read all of them, I am wiping my eyes at the love that is being shared. |
| Missus Miranda |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 8:26:46 PM
haha! Hopefully I don't do that!
We're sitting on the couch watching one of his... movies... and I'm recovering from pie baking and cleaning the kitchen. Glad it's not a work day tomorrow! I can sleep a lil later!
Maybe I'll talk OM into making the coffee... LOL
"I'm not trying to be mean or cantankerous. I just wish people would do the right thing, and use a little common sense." ~ Farmgirl 3535
Pflugerville, TX
http://www.tawnycow.blogspot.com/ |
| Amie C. |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 7:09:46 PM
He sure sounds like a 'keeper', Miranda.
My husband and I were a couple for about 6 six before we got married, and we had the opposite problem. For a couple of years after the wedding, I'd slip and refer to "my boyfriend". That got some strange looks! |
| Missus Miranda |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 1:39:16 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Apache Lady
Marc and I get the giggles every time we go somewhere and people refer to us as husband or wife. We're not married, but it doesn't bother us one bit. We get a kick out of it. Someday :)
haha! Old Man and I went camping on Lake Towakani (between Dallas and Shreveport) in April, and met this fella who lived at the campground we stayed at (we had a little cabin, it was great!).
Anyway, Bobo asks of Old Man "What's your wife's name?". Being that he'd been married before and we're not currently married, without thinking he blurts out "Kristen.... CRAP!! NO!!! MIRANDA!!" He explained to Bobo as I stood there trying not to giggle. Bobo walked off to give us a moment, Old Man was still blushing, looking sheepish. I finally took his face in my hands and smiled and said "baby, why are you still upset?" "Because, that shouldn't have happened... it's just, he asked wife, and my brain automatically went to my ex-wife's name.."
I kissed him and reassured him "You didn't offend me. I knew why it happened. It's never happened before, and I know you didn't mean it. Now snap out of it."
That worked ;)
Then, a few months later, when he'd moved back to Texas, I was invited to go see Reverend Horton Heat down in Houston with another couple. I told Josh I just wasn't up for it... I was exhausted from the move, and the stress of Chadd's death and all that and I just didn't want to drive down to Houston without my husband like that.
Next thing I know, he's giggling at me, asking me if I knew what I had just said.
"No, what?"
"that you didn't feel like going to Houston without your husband."
I was MORTIFIED!! I know we're going to get married, we've talked about it several times. But, we're not married yet, and getting remarried is a little scary for him. He laughed and hugged me and said not to worry, it made him happy. I think I got lucky 
"I'm not trying to be mean or cantankerous. I just wish people would do the right thing, and use a little common sense." ~ Farmgirl 3535
Pflugerville, TX
http://www.tawnycow.blogspot.com/ |
| GaiasRose |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 1:09:54 PM
Fella and I have the next 4 days together without kids :-D Kids are going to dad's and we are going to my aunt's then his step-moms and then spending Saturday in bed...I am so excited!
Just had to brag a little ;-)
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Farmgirl Sister #88
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| Apache Lady |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 1:00:55 PM
Marc and I get the giggles every time we go somewhere and people refer to us as husband or wife. We're not married, but it doesn't bother us one bit. We get a kick out of it. Someday :) |
| GaiasRose |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 10:56:00 AM
quote:
Originally posted by J.F. Brown
Oh, and Tasha, I know what you mean about what to call each other! I never got the hang of 'husband' and 'wife', though my John didn't mind them, and used 'wife' long before we had any paperwork- and he was a diaper-changing, home-birthing, guy, not traditional in any sense.
That is totally how me and Travis are :-D Love it!!
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Farmgirl Sister #88
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| J.F. Brown |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 10:44:32 AM
Oh, and Tasha, I know what you mean about what to call each other! I never got the hang of 'husband' and 'wife', though my John didn't mind them, and used 'wife' long before we had any paperwork- and he was a diaper-changing, home-birthing, guy, not traditional in any sense. |
| J.F. Brown |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 10:41:43 AM
I met my late DH in a coffee shop. I was pouring coffee, he was drinking it, both of us thinking we were characters from a 1940 film noir clip, or a Tom Waits lyric. We stayed sort-of flirty friends for a long time, he'd come to my house and rub my neck when I had a migraine, I would pour his coffee... black, of course.
Eventually he showed up at my door with his guitar, and I cringed. In the 1970's, every California boy with long hair and ripped jeans thought he was James Taylor. However, John played me 'El Paso', and 'Uncle John's Band', and a whole lot more, in tune and he knew the words- all the words- to 'This Land ', so I let him come play as often as he wanted.
We still hadn't so much as had a kiss or held hands, and then one day he hung out at my work, we went for coffee... then to a bookstore... then lunch and more coffee... then dinner at a friend's house... then out for a drink... then home, and he moved in, and we were married through 20-plus years, four children, sick old parents, music, endless pots of coffee, till the day he died. I still drink a lot of coffee. |
| Apache Lady |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 07:14:51 AM
REading all these stories gives me the warm and fuzzies. |
| GaiasRose |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 06:51:54 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Amie C.
At risk of sounding like a groupie...I went to see his band.
That's friggen sweet.
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Farmgirl Sister #88
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| Amie C. |
Posted - Nov 22 2011 : 5:48:31 PM
At risk of sounding like a groupie...I went to see his band. |
| Missus Miranda |
Posted - Nov 22 2011 : 12:36:19 PM
Awe, Rose!
Old Man and I separated because I fell a little too fast and he was afraid to fall. When we began talking again (I PRAYED and prayed and prayed about that) we ended up going to my company Christmas party together. He's not comfortable around large groups of strangers, and had decided that this was the night he would know. We ended up getting there late, and barely had a chance to eat, but did. He got on with my coworkers as if he'd always known them! We had a casino night set up, and wandered around looking for a table, till we finally settled on a poker table...
...with one of our loan officers, a board member, the chairman of the board of directors, marketing director, a vice president's husband, and the president of our company. Halfway through the game, Josh and our president started joking like they had known one another for YEARS!
We had so much fun that, when he got back to his house, he texted me that he was falling in love with me. The next day, I babysat his dog (now our dog) and the next day, it was announced to him that he would be transferring to Oklahoma the very following week. I was devistated... things were finally going well, and now he was going away. Minutes after texting me the bad news, he was in my office, hugging me, telling me "you finally did it, I'm in love with you".
We surived the 7 month separation and became stronger, seeing one another when we could, and chatting whenever possible on the phone. He's now back home in Texas and, thick and thin, we are making it!
I believe the sweetest love is not the fairytale... but the ones that survive hell and high water.
"I'm not trying to be mean or cantankerous. I just wish people would do the right thing, and use a little common sense." ~ Farmgirl 3535
Pflugerville, TX
http://www.tawnycow.blogspot.com/ |
| GaiasRose |
Posted - Nov 22 2011 : 12:25:01 PM
For the record, we might get married and we might now, but the committment and vows we have made to one another established that for us already...the rest is just formality... :)
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Farmgirl Sister #88
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| GaiasRose |
Posted - Nov 22 2011 : 12:22:09 PM
Ok so my Fella, Travis, and I have known OF each other for a number of years...about 8 in fact...two years ago we sort of became a little more aware of one another. He credits my kids for introducing us lol...We know one another because of the non-profit we are both affiliated with.
last year when I left the kids' dad, after bouncing from a couple of friends places, and then to atransitional home facility (an apartment style shelter for displaced families), Travis offered up his basement for rent: a bathroom, a bedroom and the living area with use fo the kitchen upstairs. I took him up on the offer. I had a little crush on him and we definitely had some kind of connection. After I got my job, I got an apartment and moved out. I think we lived there for about a month. When I hugged Travis the day I moved out, I didn't want to let go of him. there was something pulling from his core , pulling at my core and vice versa. It was the most incredible embrace I've ever had.
Fast forward a few months...we get to working together as council members of our non-profit. We put on a Pagan festival every year in Southern Minnesota. After much tension and heavy flirting over the course of many weeks and texts and emails revolving around getting together, I finally stayed late after everyone else had gone home. We were at his house watching videos on Youtube and having a goofy time...then we started talking and we both kinda blurted out our feelings.
We have been together since.
At the festival this year we had our first experience in family living...that is, him interacting with my children and we all camped together. After the festival there was some drama with the kids' dad (which resulted in a protection order against him) but Travis stayed instead of bolting. A few weeks after the drama he asked me to have his baby, to which I said yes when our timing is right (planning to get pregnant after the new year :) ) and shortly after that he asked me to come back to his house and live with him :-) We have yet, since the festival, to spend a night apart. Aside from the sacredness of my motherhood, the connection and bond and relationship I have with him is the most sacred I have ever known. I always thought I was in love...and maybe I was to some degree in my other relationships...but I never have ever loved like this.
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Farmgirl Sister #88
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