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| JessieMae |
Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 5:48:50 PM
When you were waiting for your babies, did you have certain expectations about them and then find your expectations were totally wrong? I always pictured my little girl barefooted, reading Little House on the Prairie books, eating an organic apple under a canopy of trees in the backyard.
Now, the reality is she's never been exposed to anything but cheap, processed food and refuses to eat anything she's not familiar with, i.e. fruits and vegetables, meat that still looks like meat, bread with non-identical slices, etc. And she hates to read. And she's totally uninterested in nature.
But then, I was always sure I was going to marry a farmer, and I ended up marrying a man who won't even mow his own lawn, so I guess that shows what I know! 
Jessie Mae
Farmgirl Sisterhood #134 |
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| alterationsbyemily |
Posted - Jun 18 2011 : 6:16:31 PM
Jessie, you and I were ment to switch places. I was to raise a daughter in the middle of a perfect Ryan housing development, use pre-processed food and make sure my kids always had sunscreen on. Not what happened, I live in the middle of nowhere, my daughter can't get enough of raw goat milk, and she is developing a nice tan. I wonder, what ever happened to my plan sometimes, but then I realize that as long as they have the values then it is all worth it.
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Farmgirl #2951
Currently renting-farmgirl wannabe |
| Joey |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 11:11:34 AM
OK, I expected my children to be boys. We would go to see Dad play in the office softball games and I would be a den mother and pack snacks for the football games. I even bought the blanket and cooler:..only I wound up being the first divorce in my family EVER and had an only girl. At least I knew what to do with a girl, sorta and my friends had boys so I got some, sorta...OK, I send her to private Christian school and get her every cultural advantage that she could get in a city of 3 million people-opera, ballet, Broadway, Washington D.C. etc. I took her friends camping in the tent with me every summer so she travelled and we got nature. She did 6 weeks in Europe with her grandparents for goodness sakes...and she married a wonderful man who is a dairy farmer with 1200 acres and had never been anywhere except to Wisconsin for the Dairy show. NOT at all what I expected but they are happy, healthy God-fearing people and that's good enough for me. There is an old saying, "If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans." Joey
Well behaved women rarely make history. |
| CMac |
Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 7:23:40 PM
So very well said Kris. I agree absolutely.
Connie
"I have three chairs in my house: one for solitude, two for friendship, three for company."
Author: Henry David Thoreau |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 6:41:48 PM
jessie, that's where I went wrong with my kids I think. I had great expectations and none of them are what I expected. I wish I could go back and change things but I can't. They are what they are and there is nothing I can do about it. I think if I had known I would have been different.
All you can do at this point is embrace who your daughter is right now. And hope that you are the person she needs in her life right now. I am sure her life is as different with you as night and day. And that is a good thing for her. Just be there for her and introduce things slowly and maybe one day she will be there at that place you envisioned.
It's so hard when a child has had such a rocky start in life. And so sad. But God has placed her in your family for a reason at this time in her life. You have the ability to shape her and help her grow into a beautiful young lady. The lady she is meant to be. And who knows what that is right now? She is still young. And moldable.
Just be patient and give her time and a chance to see these things for herself. Take her places and do things with her now. Have fun with her and remember where she came from. And where she is right now.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| CMac |
Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 6:29:14 PM
We are a family of dark haired, dark eyed, olive complected people. All my nieces and nephews and and my first born had full heads of black hair at birth just like the generation before. My second child was born with a fuzz of blondish red hair, eyes that were obviously going to stay blue and a pale complexion. Thank God I had natural child birth and was fully awake when he was born or I would have sworn he was not mine. The names I had picked and envisioned my baby being called were suddenly all wrong. It took two days to name him. He was like a changeling and one of the best things to ever happen to our family. His personality is as sunny as his looks. I always thought I would have dark grandchildren too. Nope he is the only one to have children and he gave me two blond blue eyed girls!
Connie
"I have three chairs in my house: one for solitude, two for friendship, three for company."
Author: Henry David Thoreau |
| Penny Wise |
Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 6:17:10 PM
disappointing isn't it! same kinda things here!!!
Farmgirl # 2139
~*~ counting my pennies and biding my time; my dreams are adding up!~*~ |
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