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| julia hayes |
Posted - Apr 29 2009 : 9:51:11 PM
 I'm devastated. We were at a baseball game this evening with my son and she was playing on the park playground with her baby sister and dad. She apparently slid down the slide funny and twisted her leg. It snapped right in the middle of her tibia. My husband took me and the kids home and then raced her to the ER. They gave her morphine, took x-rays and sure enough, confirmed the break. They were putting a cast on when my husband called with an update. I don't know if they'll admit her to watch her or send her home. I hope she can come home but man o man.
I'm so sad I don't know what to do. I've cleaned all the toilets. I scrubbed the trash bins. Dishes are done and put away. I finished folding all the laundry and put that away too. Took the garbage on the road..I'm pacing around feeling like I'm about to explode with sorrow. Maybe that's what I need to do....explode with sorrow..sounds messy!
Farmgirls, please keep her close....keep the light bright around her, please....~julia
*UPDATE* For today:
Last night was the worst and I finally had a little cry which helped. We weren't able to stay on top of her pain. The dosing we were giving her was based on her weight when she started treatment over a year ago and she's gain over 10 lbs since then. So, all through the night she wriggled and writhed as she tried to rest with what medicine she had that helped the pain a little and made her sleepy. It really wasn't enough though. We were giving her pain meds every 4 hours. By 4 am she was screaming. Shrieking with this bewildered look in her eyes which were huge and tearless. "OW! OW! OW! OW! OW! OW!" stuttered from her mouth like an automatic weapon. It was so awful. We increased her pain medicine and within minutes she was comfortable and was able to sleep for a good 3 hours. PHEW!
I just got back a few minutes ago from taking her in to have her new cast put on. I haven't taken pictures yet, but I will. It is a GORGEOUS purple cast and I have to tell you, I already feel so relieved to have it. She'll have to wear it for 6 weeks at the minimum. She won't be allowed to weight bear for a month, but the orthopedic surgeon warned us that within a week or 2 the hardest part will keep her from walking on it! We were reassured that if she tries to hobble around on this full length cast that its fine. Crack me up! At the end of 4 weeks, they'll determine whether or not she can go to a smaller below the knee type cast and then start walking...see see...the surgeon didn't think her cancer would slow the healing process but it could so we have to watch her carefully. We go back for x-rays while still in the cast next week.
Farmgirls, I feel better. Thank you for all your wonderful words of support and encouragement. It really does mean the world to me! I feel like we've peaked with the worst part and now we are in the juggle-wuggle mode of figuring out to navigate these new and somewhat murky waters. I'm getting pretty good at that so I feel confident that we'll be just fine.
I'll post pictures soon!! Sending love and gratitude! ~julia
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - May 08 2009 : 12:00:44 PM
Hang in their we know you have your hands full and their is nothing worse than when your baby hurts and their just isn't anything else you can do. I think you are doing a fantastic job. I will keep your family in my prayers. Keep up being the best mommy........I know Aria and a lot of us farmgirls know you are!
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
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| DaisyFarm |
Posted - May 08 2009 : 11:06:26 AM
Julia when Cass broke her leg on a trampoline, I put her leg inside a black plastic garbage bag and tucked it all in around the top. Then we sat her in a plastic lawn chair inside the shower with her leg elevated on the side of the tub so the water wouldn't run into the top. It wasn't very convenient, but it worked.
Unfortunately she ended up in an Ilizarov for nine months of sheer hell, so I well understand the totally helpless feeling when your little one is in pain and you can't relieve it.
Di |
| homemom |
Posted - May 08 2009 : 09:52:55 AM
Julia~my heart is breaking for you and your sweet little angel. My thoughts and prayers are being sent out to you. I have big tears in my eyes because I can just imagine all the what if and what will I do going through your mind. Wishing you peace and calm through this storm.
Ruth
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| JojoNH |
Posted - May 03 2009 : 05:25:07 AM
Great Big Hug from the Great North Woods. . . I am praying for all of you, knowing that each day will get a little better and all of us will help you shoulder the load! 
Joanna #566
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| 5 acre Farmgirl |
Posted - May 02 2009 : 7:06:30 PM
Done!
Prayers going up!!!!
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - May 02 2009 : 08:45:41 AM
Julia, sounds like you are in a much better frame of mind now. I hope Aria stays off it for awhile. It is hard to keep kids down, though. I bet the cast is cute. Can't wait to see pics.
Hugs, Kris
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| Sitnalta |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 12:52:30 PM
Julia-- I know that even though our thoughts and prayers are with you and that all of we girls are pulling for you and Aria, its a stinky hand to be dealt. I wish I could come over and plant a big hug on ya and lend a helping hand.
Be encouraged, that this too shall pass. Aria is so blessed to have such a caring Mommy who is so devoted to her. She is a sweet Little Miss Sunshine and I know that you are going to see brighter days soon. The valley is only so long before the mountaintops are in view again!!
big hugs for you both,
Jessie
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 12:14:59 PM
Julia - girl, you are one great woman.
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| Alee |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 10:49:10 AM
Julia *hugs* I am so glad to hear the she is in a cast now! Speaking from past experience, she will feel much better now with the cast. Her bone will ache- but will be manageable and any bumps or jolts could cause a sharp pain.
But the silver lining? Her bone will actually be stronger once healed- where the break was!
Alee
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| CherryMeDarlin |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 08:48:14 AM
Oh, Julia, my heart goes out to you and your precious little one! Trite, but true, you WILL find a silver lining in this dark cloud! And how much stronger all of you will be when you come out on the other side! I agree with all the others, make sure to take time to renew yourself, even if it's only for a few minutes a day. And let go of what you can. We mama's believe we are the only one's who can do it all and do it well enough. I'm sure if you think about it, there are some thing's you can let wait for another day or let someone else handle. And if you let other's help you out, remember that by doing so, you are opening the door for blessings to be poured out on them as they bless you with their help!
And if all else fails, I agree wholeheartedly with Jami!
Love and healing to you and yours!
~~Cherry~~
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| Jami |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 07:37:09 AM
Julia, it's time for some alcohol.
Hugs.
Jami in WA
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 06:18:56 AM
Julia, I just saw this. I really don't know what to say to you other than hang in there, girl! This too shall pass and all that jazz. Ya'll are so totally in my thoughts and prayers. Aria is such a sweetie. And I'm sure her brother and sister are a great help to you. Goodness, what a bummer. And how is she today?
Lots of hugs being sent to ya'll.
Kris
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - May 01 2009 : 01:21:16 AM
Poor Aria and poor you! I am so sorry about her accident. I will be praying for all of you!
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| Alee |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 7:46:47 PM
*hugs Julia* You are doing great! The hard casts are great and very stabilizing. *hugs* Your poor little baby. It's about time for her to get a big karma break, eh?
Alee
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| kmbrown |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 6:21:43 PM
Oh Julia~ I am so sorry to hear of this latest development for poor Aria. It's ok to feel bad but it's not your fault. It's ok that the baby is inside....we mommies feel more guilty because we know what our babies are missing but remember, they don't know and they make due with the situation they are in!!! My thoughts are with you. Please keep us posted. If you get into your post go to the little icons at the top and push "edit topic" and you'll be able to change the heading!! |
| jpbluesky |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 6:18:13 PM
Julia - I am so glad you can be so totally honest here on this site. It is okay to be bummed and not feel positive all the time - that is only being human. I have been in awe of your ability to see the bright, but it is also okay too lose that ability once in awhile. I so wish we were all closer and could give you a little time to breath and get away. Keep praying and know that we are standing with you.
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| Miss2Missus |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 5:33:19 PM
aww, im sorry to hear that. hope she gets to come home to you tonight. you'll feel better once she's in your arms and im sure she'll be proud of her cast within a few weeks. i'll keep you all in my prayers.
Karen ^_^
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| Sheep Mom 2 |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 5:24:02 PM
Know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Sometimes it just feels like we will be squashed by all that is expected of us. I know you will get through this too just don't forget to take care of you along the way. I hope you are finding the time to let go for a few minutes every day and just breathe. When you are overwhelmed it truly does help to center oneself. I'm sending Aria all the healing light I can. One thing is certain - with this group you are truly enveloped in a circle of love and light. If there is anything I can do to help I am not all that far away.
Sheri |
| Tn.Earthmama |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 3:44:04 PM
Hi Julia, I'm so sorry about Aria and all that you are dealing with. You are a good Mom with her hands full. be sure in the midst of taking care of everyone else to take care of you too.
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| julia hayes |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 3:19:12 PM
I don't know how to put in the original message "UPDATE" would someone tell me how??
Ok, we are simply managing Aria's pain today, which is intense.
We have been moving her from the bed to one of 2 couches; living room or the playroom. She has a fair appetite and we are encouraging her to drink as much as she can. She's just wiped. Tomorrow morning we go in for her full cast. I have no idea how long she'll have to be in the cast. I have no idea about when she can weight bear..crutches, bathing etc...This is all new territory for me. It is a HUGE bummer but once again we are forced to really live one moment at a time, one day at a time. You know what? That all sound so nice and lovely theoretically and philosophically but man it is a drag to actually do. I suppose I wouldn't feel so crummy about it if the circumstances surrounding our reasons weren't so crummy but there it is....it is just plain hard. It is stupid little stuff too...So this afternoon is lovely but I can't let the baby outside to play because I have to be inside with Aria. She's just too fragile to bring outside and be comfortable. I know it is only for a few days and before we know it we'll bring out a lounge chair and she'll be fine but we've been doing this for months and months and months. little things; going to the store with 3 little kids; one who is a baby that I have to watch like a hawk and another that I'll have to carry everywhere...for, I don't know...weeks maybe? Taking my son to school and picking him up toting Aria around...Sure I could get the help of neighbors but I say that as if it would be no big deal for Reo...you know what? He's never driven to school with a neighbor..It probably would be fine but it's another first that is hard. Aria won't be able to go to school anymore...These things...in the grand scheme of things are no big deal...but living them day to day moment to moment when we already do that with issues related to cancer....well, I'm frankly out of breath!
We'll totally manage. We'll find a groove. I have no worry about it whatsoever...I'm just grieving is all...
I'll know more tomorrow and will include some pictures for you!!
thank you so much for the thoughts and prayers and well wishes..it means the world to me!! Keep us close. ~julia
being simple to simply be
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 11:43:18 AM
I am so sorry! Oh, I pray that she can heal from this along with the other struggles. That little one has had enough of pain. And I am so sorry for your worry and sadness....please Lord, give Julia your strength and peace and watch over the whole family. All our love to you, Julia.
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| vintagediva1 |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 10:56:31 AM
poor Aria,
And Poor Mommy,
I am so sorry that the little angel is in pain, yet again.
You and your family have really had more than your share.
Just know that lots of Farmgirl prayers are winging your way from Michigan.
Keep your chin up and remember that you are all wrapped in love.
Michele
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| Mumof3 |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 10:17:34 AM
Oh, no!! Julia, I am so sorry to hear this. Poor, sweet girl. I'm sending hugs her way. :)
Karin
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| Lainey |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 08:35:59 AM
Oh Julia! I'm so sorry to hear about this. Aria and you all will be in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sending warm and healing thoughts her way. I hope that she's feeling better and mending soon.
(((Hugs)))
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| Jami |
Posted - Apr 30 2009 : 08:11:04 AM
Hug the gimpy girl for us and hug yourself. I'm thinking of you. Is this the new normal and if so can I cuss about it?
Jami in WA
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