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| mellaisbella |
Posted - May 14 2008 : 05:01:17 AM
Hello my dear farm gial friends. I am looking for some Christian Fellowship. I can't seem to find any Christian friends that want to talk about the bible or any good books that they have read. I am trying to grow as a Christian and would like to chat with others who feel the same
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| knittinchick |
Posted - Apr 30 2010 : 2:46:36 PM
Angela, personally, I believe that's how prayer should be. It shouldn't need to be anything structured, otherwise you'll be bored and then won't want to do it. In my opinion, sometimes the best prayers are the ones that are spontaneous and are in your own words.
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
At heart, I am both a sassy city girl and a down-home country gal. |
| Old Spirit |
Posted - Apr 30 2010 : 04:27:15 AM
Angela I think most of us have struggled as you have for one reason or another with our walk with God. You aren't alone and prayers out for you and your family.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| natesgirl |
Posted - Apr 29 2010 : 10:31:50 PM
Well, I am still struggling with a few issues. I still haven't opened my bible and started studying agian yet. I have been making a consciuos effort to pray more often. I have prayed a few times for my MIL and our whole situation, it has been difficult but it seems to be helping. I even found myself standing in my garden today looking around and praying that God would help it grow for my family. I wasn't consciously wanting to, it was more instinct. It felt natural. I just wanted those of you who have offered advice and prayers to know, I think I'm pretty much facing the right way, now it's time for me to start walking. Thank you to all of you for helping to pull me back up and for pointing me in the right direction.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
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| Old Spirit |
Posted - Apr 19 2010 : 03:54:30 AM
Hello all! I appreciate the continued prayers. It seems to be one thing after another for my FIL. My SIL is going to be contacting the VA about a skilled living arrangement for him. He at this point can not take care of himself. It is so sad as things were really turning around last week and then the major set back. His poor body is worn out and tired so appreciate prayers for him and our family, especially the hubby.
With God all things are possible and have to trust in his plan, hard as it is at times.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| classygram |
Posted - Apr 19 2010 : 01:37:35 AM
Angela I am so happy to hear that things are working out for you and you beautiful family. God Is Good! He hears all your thoughts and prayers and he's right there beside you. Let him guide you sweetheart! Your three little girls sound so sweet and I can just see them at their dinner table all in prayer. What a wonderful site.
Rae, my dear friend, I am so sorry that all of this is continuing for you. Stay strong and as you know the Lord will be guiding you.
My prayers are continuing for you both that all will work out.
HUGS, Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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| natesgirl |
Posted - Apr 18 2010 : 9:38:33 PM
Well, it's been a week since I posted about my DH and the MIL situation. I was so scared that it was gonna all blow up and affect my marriage. It hasn't. It seems to have actually opened his eyes. He now stands behind everything we talked to her about and adds to it everytime she tries to interfere in a new way. He has been a little more affectionate towards me here lately than he normally is. He said he had a lot to make up for and he really wants me to see it. Our house is becoming a rather happy place. My DH has been saying a prayer at every meal we have together and our youngest is trying to imitate him. It is so sweet to hear her gibberish between 'Dear Lord' and 'Amen', which is all she can say clearly most prayers. I had to laugh out loud yesterday at her though. It was a very clear prayer that everyone heard. She said "Dear Lord. Daddy cooked. Amen" I just lost it! My oldest daughter looked at us and asked "does she know something I don't know about dinner?" My DH said it was a prayer of thanks not of fear, but I found it hillarious and am still chuckling as I type this! She has said this prayer a few times before I think, but I couldn't swear to what she said. This time the whole room heard it! I am making an effort to pray more often, but it is still hard. I do feel as if I'm recovering somewhat and I am going to try to move forward. I have 3 girls who need to be led in the right direction and it's my job to do that. Thank you to everyone for giving me a place to rant and support. The ideas and reading suggestions are very helpful. Thank you all.
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| maggie14 |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 7:35:30 PM
Prayers being sent to all of you wonderful ladies!
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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| knittinchick |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 10:30:15 AM
Angela, prayers sent for your new phase with your husband and God. Rae, I hope your FIL and SIL get better soon! Prayers sent for both of them.
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
At heart, I am both a sassy city girl and a down-home country gal. |
| Julia |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 09:56:48 AM
A good beginning, Rae. Kudos to your hubby! It will take time for your MIL to adjust to the changes. Hang in there, prayers ascending!!!!
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
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| classygram |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 07:52:38 AM
Rae prayers are coming your way. This has to be a very trying time. Prayers for FIL and SIL.
Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
| Old Spirit |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 07:45:13 AM
Spoke too soon, FIL went backwards last night so will go after work today and see what is what. Keep prayers coming please. They give hubby and I strength.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 07:31:17 AM
Rae,
Glad to hear your FIL is doing good!
Keeping your SIL in prayer.
hugs,
God is good....all the time.
Denise
www.torisgram.etsy.com |
| classygram |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 05:07:32 AM
Oh Angela God is hearing you. He knows exactly what your thinking and what is in your heart. Through all the prayers he is working miricales. He loves you and knows that you are struggling to let it all go, but he's right there beside you. He'll keep showing you the way and we'll all be praying that you will be able to give it all to him. I am so happy that DH has seen how things have been and this has brought you all back to being a family. God was answering your needs when he brought you here where you felt safe enough to open up. God Bless you sweetheart, it gets me alittle mushy just knowing that you want God in your life. Prayers will continue for you and your family.
HUGS~~~Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
| Old Spirit |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 04:18:10 AM
God certainly blessed you with your husband!! I am so happy that he can see what has happened. It will take time but put it all in God's hands and he will show you the way.
Also please pray for my SIL, Anty, as she goes through this very hard time and loss in her life.
Rae
FIL still doing good!!
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| natesgirl |
Posted - Apr 09 2010 : 12:56:54 AM
I wanted to thank everyone for the suggestions and the prayers. I had a long talk with my DH about the MIL interference and he didn't believe me at first. After talking to practically half our families he decided to watch and make a note everytime she asked for help with something she had always done for herself before or when she interfered with the children or us. After 3 days the whole page was covered! He went to her and sat down to talk to her with me there to keep him from caving. It was horrible and loud and long! She finally admitted she did it because she wanted him to pay more attention to her than to me. I had felt all along it was on purpose but couldn't prove it. She said she was jealous that our girls chose us over her, especially when they chose me. He was livved! He demanded that she agree to building a place for her on the back side of the house that was seperate fromus. He also made her agree that she would leave the kids to us completely unless they were doing something that would hurt them and we weren't around. He then made her agree to having to ask to join if we were talking or doing something together and said I was the one who gets to say yes or no. Then he told her that she had to sit on his left side no matter where we were. She threw a fit about the car rides together because it puts her in the back seat. He told her that as his wife I come first so that means I'm "up front" in his life and his car. He also told her that if she was going to insist on this certian variety of vegetable or that certian variety of fruit she could grow her own. He actually told her the garden was mine and she should stay out of it. I couldn't believe my ears! He flat stood up to her and told her I was handling our life in just the perfect way for us. Then he told her if she couldn't handle her finances any better than she had been that she was gonna turn them over to us and he'd put her on an allowance because we weren't going to keep paying her bills so she could shop and run up her credit cards on silliness. Then he informed her that he was dropping the kids off and taking me to get some things I needed for the garden and that she'd have to fend for herself for dinner we'd be out late. As we were getting ready to leave he turned to her and told her she wasn't shopping with us anymore either since she critisized every choice I made at the store. If she wanted to shop she could take herself instead of going with us. Then he tookthe whole family out for mexican since we couldn't do that with her with us. After we left the kids with my mom we went shopping for gardening things and he said he wanted to go back to church and that the day before church he would flat tell everyone no to anything they wanted help with so we could be sure to get everyone ready and in bed early enough to get up the next day. I bawled like a little baby and he apologized over and over agian for what I'd had to go through for the last 16 months. I feel so much lighter that before. I never thought that this could happen. I really thought 'my' life was over. Now I actually have hope! I even stopped and prayed for a family I was reading about here on mjf in a thread about foreclosure today. It was tight lipped and uncomfortable and very, very short. I am still not able to lay it all out on the line in prayer. I am scared of God right now. I know I haven't done anything right in the last 16 months and I can't bring myself to face it all yet. I guess I need the right push. I thought about writing it all down and then just praying over the letter. Does that sound stupid? I just can't make myself start rehashing all this to Him yet. I feel horrible about that. I do credit God for leading me to this forum and for keeping my DH from losing it when I went to him. He's not the most open minded person where his mom is concerned. This time he was. He doesn't even seem to be acting any differently towards me since all this happened. I feel like there is a light at the end of this tunnel and I think I can see it!
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| knittinchick |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 8:46:02 PM
Rae, I'm glad that your FIL is doing better. The power of prayer is pretty amazing sometimes.
God's Blessings,
Megan aka Loretta Rae
At heart, I am both a sassy city girl and a down-home country gal. |
| tea_lady_tammy |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 6:18:52 PM
Thank you Julia for praying for each of us. It is such a blessing to know that we have others praying for us. Rae I am so glad to hear that things are better for you. enjoy tonight. Rest is good for your soul.
Blessings and hugs
Tammy
Tea is like being in the stars with God.
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 3:18:20 PM
Rae,
I just now got up to speed on this thread. Will keep you and your family in prayer.
hugs,
God is good....all the time.
Denise
www.torisgram.etsy.com |
| classygram |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 3:12:32 PM
Rae, let the dishes go and just cuddle up with your hubby and soak up his love. You deserve it! So glad things are going better for FIL. That's good news. Take care and get some rest.
Love and Hugs, Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
| Old Spirit |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 10:35:20 AM
For my dear friends who have been praying for my family, thank you from the bottom of my heart. My FIL is actually doing better, 3 days in a row now so that is good. I am tired but feeling better than I have and we are even taking tonight for our own selves and doing things at home (very scary place right now, don't think there is a clean dish!!)
Thank you
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| Julia |
Posted - Apr 08 2010 : 09:33:45 AM
I just wanted you girls to know that you have all been prayed for this morning. It is so great to have this thread going, that we can come together, across the miles, and pray for and encourage each other. Though I don't know all your specific needs today, the Lord does. May you all be strenghten in the love, power, grace, and mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ. Blessings to you all!
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
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| MasterGardener |
Posted - Apr 07 2010 : 12:30:06 PM
Hi Angela,
First, I agree with Julia..
Then, I know it may sound like an impossibility, but have you ever, even through gritted teeth and a seething spirit, said a prayer "for" your MIL? It's amazing what can take place in your heart, the Lord understands, and because of who HE IS, can give you the grace for that day. By praying for the other person, even in the midst of our own anger, (acknowledging this to God) bringing the other person to the Lord in prayer can be the beginning of releasing the power of a living God in the circumstances. Even w/ an angry spirit, bring it to the Lord because when you do,it short circuits the power of the enemy.
I don't know if the books I'm going to recommend can be of help while you're still "in" the circumstance, but they're the ones that made a difference in my life.
I've had years of battles with bitterness, unforgiveness, resentment...it kills us, it destroys our walk with the Lord. Recently with the help of these books and prayer, I've been able to overcome these negative emotions toward people I've been angry with my whole life. It was preventing me from making any progress in my life, maturing, growing in my relationship with the Lord, moving forward,because I was staying stuck in the emotions of the past.
I had to do the work though. I realized that I needed to be obedient to God in my own life, my walk, but obedience is the only thing that helped me. Obedience to the scriptures that admonish us to forgive because we've been forgiven.
Sometimes all I was able to do or think about was, "this too shall pass"
and when I memorized and repeated:
Galatians 5:22-23 (King James Version)
22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
I would experience peace. It was possible becauseI would check my behavior, through the lens or filter of this scripture. Again, the change was amazing, regardless of the other person's behaviors and choices. It takes the focus off the other person, and onto me, because, realistically, I'm the only one I have ANY control over.
The book titles that have helped me were Joel Osteen's "Your Best Life Now" specifically his chapter on forgiveness. Lewis B, Smedes book "Forgive and Forget" , Neil T. Anderson's and Rich Miller's "Getting Anger Under Control...Overcoming Unresolved Resentment, Overwhelming Emotions, The Lies Behind Anger. Neil is the author of "The Bondage Breaker" and that's a great book also.
Angela, you'll be in my prayers...I'll lift your name and know that God is in these circumstances with you, even if it doesn't "feel" like it, He's there, waiting for you to acknowledge His presence.
Say to them, may the Lord bless you and protect you, May the Lord smile upon you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you His favor and give you His peace. (Numbers 6:23-26)
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| Old Spirit |
Posted - Apr 07 2010 : 11:39:34 AM
Family meeting time. Maybe if you all sat down and said this is the way it will be and that is that. This isn't up for negotiation, and you will certainly respect her and expect the same.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| Julia |
Posted - Apr 07 2010 : 11:24:58 AM
Angela, The wonderful thing about the Lord is that He meets us where we are. He is gracious, merciful and faithful. Cry out your heart to Him, tell Him how you are feeling, all of it, He has incredibly large shoulders, He can take it. Ask Him to heal your heart. Ask Him for forgiveness, He is ready to give it. It is easy to beat ourselves up, with what we should be doing. Let it go. We have all been where you are. If not, someday will be. I know there is now greater place to be than daily in the Lords presence. His word is our daily food. Even if you just read a Psalm for the day, it will get you back on the right track. Know that I will be praying for you.
For tomorrow and its needs I do not pray, but keep me, guide me, love me, Lord just for today.
St. Augustine
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| natesgirl |
Posted - Apr 07 2010 : 06:34:24 AM
I used to go to church but was never comfortable with the pastor. I have been thinking of at the very least building on to the back side of the house to make her an apartment kind of. I just don't know how to bring it up without a fight. I'm not even sure if that would help or just be a waste. We can't move because we're in a mortgage and she won't go to the local senior housing. She says it's just a holding cell till death. Has anyone done the apartment type thing? Does it help? How do I even suggest it without going into a break down or starting a big fight?
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