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| one_dog_per_acre |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 08:23:00 AM
My MIL doesn't wear underwear with her short nightgowns. It is the main reason that I never want her to visit. That, and she walks naked from the bathroom to the guestroom. I am not a prude and I don't think that the genitals are dirty, etc. I am just tired of seeing it. I have a son, he is a baby, but I don't want it to be a habit, and noone wants to see their Gramdma naked. She is a very dramatic person, and I am not sure how to deal with it. I think I could handle this behavior for a short stay, but she has asked to stay for at least a month-three. I keep telling my husband two weeks at the most please, as she will be' "hogging us," for the summer. We have other relatives that want to come see us.
i have a lot of issues with her, but this is the worst one, and everyone of my friends just laughs. I am afraid her next stay will turn ugly if I don't think out some plan before she gets here.
I have wanted to ask you farmgirls for your opinion since I signed up, but was afraid due to the sensitive content.
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| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Oct 24 2011 : 12:20:18 PM
I almost choked when I saw that you had bumped this thread again, Trish! Oh God!
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Oct 22 2011 : 6:32:20 PM
I can't wait to hear how this story turns out!
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| LuckyMommyof5 |
Posted - Oct 21 2011 : 3:18:51 PM
This whole thread is hilarious - I almost laughed till I cried. Dorinda, I am with you - I want my kids to shoot me if I ever get to the point I don't care who sees me "taco" anymore! LOL! Thank goodness my MIL has never done this - I think the sight of that would burn my retinas to bits.
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| JoyIowa |
Posted - Oct 21 2011 : 10:08:05 AM
Does anyone you know have an RV or camper they could loan you? (one that has curtains of course) Then you say the opportunity came up to borrow the camper and you jumped because you know how hard it is to be a guest in someone else's house for more than a couple of days. Just a thought
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| one_dog_per_acre |
Posted - Oct 12 2011 : 05:52:48 AM
She wants us to visit her house. We can't take time off, so I'm sure she'll be here by Christmas.
I think I should have guests ALL of the time when she is here. The bathrobe is a beautiful idea.
Trish
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| FarmDream |
Posted - Oct 05 2011 : 8:02:07 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Dorinda
That for some reason she did not care who saw her Taco any more.
Dorinda
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| 22angel |
Posted - Oct 05 2011 : 5:16:45 PM
Oh this is hilarious! My grandma used to walk from her bathroom to her bedroom (which were right next door to each other) with her underwear & bra on, but I don't ever recall her walking around naked! That's just wrong! I mean, fine if you're living in a nudist colony or something, but there are clothes for a reason! lol I don't want to see everyone - there are things that are just meant for your & your spouse's eyes only! And I don't think it's appropriate to do so in another person's house especially! The only ones who should run around naked are babies! lol But that's just my opinion :p. How did it turn out with your mil Trish?
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| Cherime |
Posted - Oct 05 2011 : 4:17:38 PM
I only walk around at night to the bathroom that way. ;>)
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| Dorinda |
Posted - Oct 05 2011 : 12:01:32 PM
Oh my gosh my Mother was doing the same thing and probally still is. The last time she was in the hospital she was walking all over the place naked. When her sisters came to visit her they kept telling her to cover her self up. I told them I did not know why she kept doing this. That for some reason she did not care who saw her Taco any more. I thought it was disgusting because I felt like she was doing it for attention. My mother was always very modest so it surprised me. I hope I don't do these things when I get old. I'm going to tell my boys if I start walking around in front of yall naked when I get old just shoot me and get it over with!! LOL. She sits in her recliner all day long like that and her recliner is stained and stinks from it. We bought her a new recliner and she refuses to sit in it. Disgusting I say. Neither one of my grandmothers ever did that!
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| Cherime |
Posted - Oct 05 2011 : 08:22:52 AM
Maybe a lot of wanna be or were flower children????? I would try the robe and make sure to get her name or initials embroidered on it. "Look a lovely gift for you." Gotta tell you I live alone and stumble from bed to bathroom sometimes a couple of times a night. But, in another person's home I wear a robe. Cannot stand to sleep with a night gown at home, I toss and turn a lot and they wind around me like restraints. In another person's home you bet I wear a nightie. I would not dream of doing that their home.
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| FarmDream |
Posted - Oct 04 2011 : 7:47:00 PM
Ugh! What is with the older generation?! My mother did that too. How come they're running around without underwear?? Seriously. I don't get it.
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| njaw09 |
Posted - Oct 04 2011 : 6:44:30 PM
Too funny. Thank goodness my MIL doesn't do such a thing. My MIL is great.
I did have an incident once at work few years back. I walked to the ladies room and one of my coworker was undressing & she say don't be shy it is all natural. My mouth was wide open & I dash back out and went back to my office and I told my other coworkers. I think I just went blind & told them the incident. I told them I am going to wear a pair of shades next time she is in there. She came back and my other coworkers ask & told her of what happened. We all started to laugh to this day. |
| farmmilkmama |
Posted - Oct 04 2011 : 6:01:43 PM
Is she visiting again? Oh no! Did you get the robe purchased yet? ;)
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| one_dog_per_acre |
Posted - Oct 04 2011 : 3:56:06 PM
Time of year to BUMP this one.
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God is with me, nothing can defeat me.
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| 22shortie |
Posted - Apr 27 2008 : 4:02:02 PM
haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! OMG! I wish I could say I can't imagine someone doing that but My MIL does the SAME THING! I just ignore it because I think it is a disgrace to her and I'd rather not be assocaited with the whole ordeal. As for my daughter seeing that, hopefully she'll see how disgusting it is and never act like that. Once, my MIL got out of her hottub, striped down on the back porch and waited several minutes before she bent over facing the window, and grabbed a towel. I saw IT ALL! YUCK!
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| Mumof3 |
Posted - Jan 31 2008 : 04:37:46 AM
I'm sorry, but I had to laugh at this. I like the idea of hanging a robe just for her in the bathroom. You could hang a sign next to it that says "No nudes is good nudes." She might just get the hint!
Really, your husband needs to talk to her about this. If it comes from you, it will be like an act of war. If it comes from him, as the head of his own household, it may humble her into complying. If not, take her that hotel and let her stay there until she can behave. Good luck!
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| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 9:48:37 PM
you can always give her a taxi cab ride to the nearest nudist colony..she might actually enjoy it.(joking) but you've recieved good advice here. hope the situation improves and she umm learns to enjoy wearing clothing in your presence.
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| myfairlady636 |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 3:28:54 PM
I'm with Chandra- When others are in your home, they should respect you, your home and your values. Personal boundries are very important and it is obvious that she is crossing that boundry. I like the "this is your robe" idea and I think you should just be forthright and honest about your feelings with her. What is the worst that can happen? I also think that seperating the behavior from the person is the way to go.
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| MasterGardener |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 2:05:54 PM
On a more serious note, it sounds like disrespect to me...disrespect for you, plus to sulk is immaturity and it also sounds like it's a dominance/manipulation issue to threaten to go to a motel...I'd say, "let me call you a cab" Some situations need guidelines, boundaries and limitations. What she does in the privacy of her own home IS her business, but this is YOUR home & YOUR boundaries ARE important...
I'd be asking myself "how strongly do I believe this (topic/situation) needs to be confronted/altered and make the decision to follow through...With children, we say, "I love YOU, but THIS behavior is unacceptable"...which seperates the behavior from the person...same applies to "grown-ups"..."I love YOU, but passing between the bathroom and guestroom without clothes on is unacceptable to me/us or my parenting values or because it sets a bad example, etc.,...then the "this robe's for you" idea sounds like an excellent solution!
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| myfairlady636 |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 12:22:05 PM
Did I mention.. at the time I was running a deli, and had sent out more than 30 full thanksgiving dinners with all the trimmings that day and had been at work since 3:00 am.? Ya.. LOL.
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| myfairlady636 |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 12:20:29 PM
I hope you are not offended that I am laughing, I just think life is so funny that way. It's a good thing that I can look back and laugh about all the things that at the moment seemed like such a crisis.. like when I got home from work at 6:00 pm on Thanksgiving day and she wanted to know if I was going to put the turkey in for a traditional thanksgiving meal. I think I probably had to pick my eyeballs up off the floor when she said it wasnt too late to have a nice meal together as a family, and it is Thanksgiving afterall. A smart person would have said NO... well, that is obviously not me. Here I am making pies, rolls and YEP.. a turkey for a lovely 9:30 pm dinner. I look at it now and laugh a lot. But then.. I was so mad I am sure I was slamming dishes, cupboard doors and probably even muttering something profane. LOL.
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 12:03:34 PM
I'm so glad that you're finding a little bit of a tickle 
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| one_dog_per_acre |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 11:59:50 AM
Wrap around apron LOL
Thank you all for trying to help me. I NEVER though I would ever laugh at this!
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| Hideaway Farmgirl |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 11:54:00 AM
I also like the "This Robe's For You" idea, and how about also getting her a cute pair of pj's (top and cute boxer shorts) to wear while she is at your house. You could use that gift as a gentle way to bring up the subject at the istart, nstead of shreiking loudly everytime you happen to see her disrobed. Although shreiking might also get the point across.
I wonder if we can find a pattern for a front-to-back wrap-around apron for her to wear?
I would just be honest with her, that it is something you didn't grow up with, that you are not used to and don't want to get used to, and that it makes you uncomfortable and embarrassed. Hopefully she is caring enough to respond to that. After all, it's only for two weeks, hopefully, that she would have to modify her behavior while being a guest in someone else's home. Remember, when in Rome...
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 11:20:15 AM
Hey, Patricia...anyone who has a pittie is cool in my book (that includes Janice--Miss Bee Haven, incidentally)...I too wish I lived closer. Idaho is one beautiful state, and I don't at ALL mind being an example you use to get your mil to cover up!!!!
Farmgirl Sister #80, thanks to a very special farmgirl from the Bluegrass..."She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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