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| texdane |
Posted - Jan 12 2013 : 5:35:17 PM
Hi Farmgirls,
Ugh! I think I need a vacation or something! As you all know, I live in Sandy Hook, CT. That fateful day in December was horrible and scary. The days following were surreal, too. Thankfully, my baby's school was not affected, but it was scary none the less. The first hour I didn't know which school it was. I've been counting my blessings, big time. I thought I have been overtired, but I'm sleeping okay, and Audrey is good, back to her routine. I have felt in much better spirits since New Years'. But...I am not myself! In the last four weeks, I have burned cookies, left the crock pot on overnight, left boiling eggs on the stove, forgotten until they became flying projectiles, lost the filter to my vacuum (ended up ordering another one - $20! Stupid, as I didn't needa new one, but we can't figure out what I did with it.  I owe a farmgirl a knitted item for a swap, and had to email her as I made a stupid mistake and had to pull half the project apart and am redoing it. Wrote a Christmas card to my cousin, but I don't know who received it! The one she got from me didn't even have a signature! I usually have packed up my Christmas stuff by now, but I don't have any energy lately, so the boxes are still waiting to go downstairs to the basement. I am behind on everything it seems! Wanted to take a walk with the dog and Audrey today, but couldn't find my shoes! We looked everywhere! Audrey found them tonight, behind her bathroom door! This is not like me!!! It's starting to freak me out, but a friend called tonight and she thinks it is stress. I'm wondering if the stress of December 14th is taking a toll on me more than I originally thought???  
Has anyone else done forgetful stuff like this after a lot of stress?
Big hugs,
Nicole
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| texdane |
Posted - Feb 01 2013 : 07:15:52 AM
Thank you, Shanda. I'm doing well, and getting caught up (finally)!
Hugs,
Nicole
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| shanda |
Posted - Jan 28 2013 : 12:42:28 PM
Still thinking about you and your town. Prayers are sent often.
Shanda
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Jan 28 2013 : 12:31:31 PM
Nicole, I hope things are getting better. Nothing makes me more forgetful and scattered than stress. And it can be there even when you do not know it. Praying for you and please know it will get better with time. So thankful you and your family still have each other. God's grace to you.
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| laurentany |
Posted - Jan 21 2013 : 4:22:13 PM
Hi Nicole,
Hope things are going well this week...keeping you in thought and prayer. Sending you a big HUG!
Smiles and Blessings to you!
~Laurie
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| texdane |
Posted - Jan 21 2013 : 4:17:54 PM
Thanks, Marly. Yes, much. Got caught up on my rest and having our routine back is good. Thank you all for worrying about me and sharing. We just had a lot of stress since Fall: change in school, a school bus accident, Hurricane Sandy, the holidays, and the Sandy Hook tragedy. Things are calmer and better. Love you all!
Nicole
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Jan 17 2013 : 5:40:48 PM
Nicole: I hope you are feeling better.
Marly
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| Simple Living |
Posted - Jan 17 2013 : 3:53:08 PM
Hi Nicole, be on the look out for a package this week :)
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| Simple Living |
Posted - Jan 17 2013 : 12:27:22 PM
Sweet Nicole, you shouldn't even ask such a question. Stress does crazy things to our bodies and minds. Please take a moment each day and just say how grateful you are for the day and your precious family. It's tough and you have us to hang on to and speak your mind
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| MtnGrlByTheBay |
Posted - Jan 17 2013 : 12:18:58 PM
Nicole, I'm glad you are feeling better. I go through bouts like that... but have been lucky not to have had to deal with local or personal trauma (knock on wood.) I know with my aging parents, I count every day as a blessing, and I find strength and peace hearing how so many of you women have overcome the hurdles put before you.
BTW, our school, Town Creek Elementary, (probably like many others) made a bunch of paper snowflakes and sent them up. Did they achieve the "winter wonderland" atmosphere they were hoping to once the kids went to the alternate school?
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| neeter302 |
Posted - Jan 15 2013 : 6:49:18 PM
Nicole you're such a beautiful person inside and out and it warms my heart that you open up and share everything, the good and the bad. Because you know we all go through turmoil and it's really hard sometimes to keep smiling and carry on like normal when things ARE NOT normal. All our farmgirl sisters are so precious and give so much of their heart and soul to each other, because we've been there, we can relate and together we can get through anything. So happy you have a loving supportive husband and a beautiful daughter. I find myself over-extending and over-doing, then when trauma hits it's impossible to keep up the pace, something's got to give. Hang in there sweetie, you're gonna be ok, just takes time.
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| crittergranny |
Posted - Jan 15 2013 : 09:33:28 AM
The rice thing is pretty normal for me Kristina...lol. Seriously though I feel your pain and hugs to you.
Laura
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| FieldsofThyme |
Posted - Jan 15 2013 : 08:40:20 AM
Yes.
Stress can cause you to go "wacko" and make you feel unbalanced.
My stress situations are different, but I too, feel what you are feeling.
I made a recipe that I have made for years, and left out two ingredients. I did this with another one. I decided to put all handmade projects to the side for awhile, as I cannot make one of them yet. I keep making stupid mistakes. I made rice and turned the burner off instead of on simmer...just things that would not normally happen.
Do take a break. It does help. Even if you have to leave dirty dishes sit.
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Jan 15 2013 : 08:00:04 AM
Nicole,
HUGE HUGS TO YOU this morning!!!! 
CJ
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Jan 15 2013 : 07:35:46 AM
Nicole, I just saw on GMA some kids from Sandy Hook school. They were so cute and were singing Over the Rainbow. It looks like they are making an album to raise money but I didn't hear the rest of it. But they all looked really good and trying to get their lives back on track. Didn't know if you'd seen that or not.
Kris
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| texdane |
Posted - Jan 15 2013 : 07:22:04 AM
Thank you all. This week is starting out much better. I got more sleep than I have the last month and will be more mindful about not burning the candle at both ends. I'm also turning the morning news off. And I've received lots of cheer from some very special farmgirl sisters! ;)
Nicole
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Jan 14 2013 : 04:03:13 AM
Nicole,
It is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. My DH and SIL have had the same symptoms after retuning from Iraq.
I am sorry you are dealing with this, but time will help. Continued prayers to you, your family and your community.
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 8:36:04 PM
Nicole,
Yes, be kind to yourself. The tragedy in your community was more than enough to turn the world upside down. Add holidays and all that means, with a new year rolling around . . . there's just a tremendous amount to impact you.
I'm praying for peace and confidence, strength and comfort!
HUGS TO YOU MY FRIEND!
CJ
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| shanda |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 5:47:51 PM
Be kind and gentle with yourself, get lots of rest and I hope in the coming days you feel the peace and strength from your farmgirl sisterhood's prayers.
Blessings
Shanda
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| queenmushroom |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 5:15:43 PM
I was quite nerved up over it myself. Hope this helps some. Take care and take things a little slower. Don't put so much on your plate.
Lorie
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| queenmushroom |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 5:11:58 PM
Nicole,
Laura seems to have said it best. As far as prayer is concerned, the lord knows your needs before you ask. Keep it simple. And always thank him for his provision. If you want some councilling and can't afford it but attend a church regularly, ask your pastor or priest for help. He or she may be able to council you themself or know of someone who can. Prayers are sent your way. I have a cousin who lives in Greenwich but not being familiar with Conn. I wasn't sure of the proximity of the school to her or if her. Children attended it. This same cousin was also supposed to be in the etc on 9/11. So it
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| texdane |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 5:10:53 PM
Awww, thank you girls so much. You are all so sweet. For one thing, I know I've got to go to bed earlier than I have. I got in the bad habit of staying up way too late the past month, which isn't helping. I also haven't had much down time at all in the last month. DH made sure I had a relaxing day today and helped me get more caught up on things. Hopefully, this week will be better. Thank you all for sharing with me.
Love my farm sisters!
Hugs,
Nicole
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| jenne.f |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 10:42:17 AM
Nicole,
My heart goes out to you. You have lots of good advice here. I also went
thru several horrible events in a short time which left me with depression, panic attacks and PTSD.
For me, meditation seemed to help the most. Of course, I also took time for prayer.
But I think just giving my mind some time each day to rest was very beneficial.
If you are unfamiliar with the hows or even why's there are lots of resources, books, online sites, groups and classes. It helped me very much.
Sending love and prayers,
~blessings~
Jenne
Farmgirl #4616 |
| crittergranny |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 08:58:26 AM
Hi Nicole, hugs Sweetie. In 2006 my mother got sick and died from lung cancer and then in 2007 I became 24-7 caretaker of my Dad who died in 2008. Both on Nov 8th. Then right after that my husband was laid off for 3 yrs from work. During this time I had 18 horses to feed and many other animals, and all the usual problems too. Any way my point is that especially during the time my Dad was under such intense care I had so much to remember like Dr. appts. and medications and other stuff to think about that it seemed like that was all that could fit in my head and as a result my brain just deleted everything else. An example is I forgot a whole bunch of names of people, even people I had known all my life. To this day I offend people cause I don't remember their names. I also forgot a lot of other weird stuff like how to spell a lot of words. I homeschooled my children and have always been an excellent speller, but no more.
It's sort of like a turtle, you just go into a shell for a while and try to focus on what is important. Just give yourself some time. You are also grieving. Even if you aren't grieving someone you know you are grieving maybe a way of life, not to mention all those innocent lives, and to an extent may have to embrace a new outlook on things. You may benefit from reading some material on the stages of grieving maybe from a hospice or online. Put aside some time to just think about things and pray if you can. I found prayer hard for a while to be honest. Remember that you are grieving and don't take on too much even when you are having times when you feel better. On the other hand don't let it become permanent, in that you get into the habit of being too inactive. These kind of things sometimes lead to people becoming hoarders and things like that and just sort of giving up on life. Just keep plugging along at your own pace and take some time for yourself to do things that bring you joy and don't worry too much about what other people think. You have enough to deal with right now. Things will never be the same, but life is still good and the clouds WILL lift slowly one at a time. Take care Dear and take time for the little things, I will be praying for you. So sorry you are going through this, hugs, hugs, and hugs.
Laura
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| wooliespinner |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 07:26:38 AM
Nicole give yourself some time to decompress. I have been in your shoes but for different reasons. The things you are experencing to me are normal for someone under stress and probably in the back of your mind you are worried that it could happen again. With the news talking about this stuff constantly it doesn't help either. You will get back to your old self I think in time. Just be kind to yourself. Prayers and Hugs to you.
Linda
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| sherrye |
Posted - Jan 13 2013 : 07:17:07 AM
i also think it is a form of pts. i am on the east coast and i cannot bear to think of what happened. you are in it. this was a huge event in all lives. we joke here if you cannot find the phone look in the fridge. i pray Jehovah will give you the peace that excels all thought. i send hugs and love to you. may today be brighter for you.
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