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| rksmith |
Posted - Mar 09 2012 : 06:51:14 AM
The other day I took several dozen eggs to the office where I work to give them away as I had too many and didn't have the materials I needed to preserve them. I'd already composted 2 dozen that had gone bad. A couple of people in the office were glad to get some. The majority though kept asking why don't I sell them. I told them because I thought I'd give these away to people that I like, but if they wanted to pay me go ahead and pay whatever they felt was appropriate. Only one person paid me. Last year, we had lots of extra stuff from the garden, so I took it in to give away and was also asked why I'm not selling...and again said if you want to pay me then pay me. No one did.
I was taught growing up that when we had our own supplies taken care of, if we had extra you offer it to family and friends for free and if someone wants to buy you sell. It doesn't bother me that no one paid me for the things I brought in, because I wasn't trying to sell. What bothers me is that these people are so focused on money that I "could/should" be making off of my goodies yet don't bother to contribute, or for the most part say thank you. We garden and have chickens primarily because we enjoy it and it provides us with food. While it is nice to make some money with it when we can, it is not our primary goal--besides that we don't produce enough to "make a living" at it and I don't mind one bit sharing with people I like (which isn't very many). It just really gripes me that so many people are too focused on what I *should* be doing to appreciate what I am doing. At any rate, most likely I will not be taking my excess to the office this year as I am investing in equipment for preserving what I do get, but it still irritates me. Have people gotten so far away from the idea of helping out and sharing that they can't even appreciate or enjoy if you try to give them something just because you like them?
Rachel
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| goneriding |
Posted - Mar 11 2012 : 12:28:37 PM
Ya dun good.
I think now we live in two worlds. One is where my neighbors and we share and take care of each other. The other is the 'outside' world where we are on guard and have to be on point to take care of ourselves first, to be a bit suspicious. Took me a long time to realize that.
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| rksmith |
Posted - Mar 11 2012 : 11:43:58 AM
True true ladies. Thanks for the insights. It just bugs me that some people just can't accept a kind thing without making it into something else. And yeah it does bug me that if they're so worried about why I'm not selling my eggs (cause I don't want to that's why) but at the same time don't offer to pay anything..people are strange. I put up 2 1/2 dozen eggs last night, so in a few months I'll crack open some to see how I did. Guess I'll just have to be more selective in who I attempt to give stuff to.
Rachel
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| knitnpickinatune |
Posted - Mar 11 2012 : 10:45:54 AM
I'm with Lora- why mention the fact they feel you should be selling but not offering you any $ when they're taking the eggs you're offering? Like Kristin suggested,you could put up a donation jar which could help cover the expenses of taking care of the chickens.You do have a generous heart-don't lose that. I had a similar situation in which I had a spare fiddle I offered to a co worker at the college for what I paid for it-under $20 with case & bow. All she could ask is "why so cheap?" and never took me up on the offer-she suspected I was passing a dud to her. Well I wound up playing the fiddle more,did some adjustments on it,and wound up keeping it for myself. It bothered me that she would think I would try to sell an instrument off that was "junk". Don't let them get to you.
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| rock003 |
Posted - Mar 10 2012 : 8:11:12 PM
I agree with Audrey and Debra. Even I myself find at times having difficulty accepting a simple gift, comment, or jester at times wondering what the catch is. I say we change that and start freely giving more! |
| Debra B |
Posted - Mar 10 2012 : 08:59:43 AM
While they are saying you COULD sell it, I'm sure they are grateful that you have given it to them. It was still offered as a gift and accepted. That's some people's way of saying that your gift is valuable.
Debra
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| Annab |
Posted - Mar 10 2012 : 08:52:41 AM
I get it too sometimes. Giving becasue it makes you feel good and people want to know what the "catch" is.
Sometimes there simply is none and we good hearted people simply give stuff away becasue it makes us feel good-- pure and simple.
They just don't "get it".
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Mar 10 2012 : 05:55:45 AM
You could put a jar next to the egg carton with a donation sign on it. Are you getting the cartons back? You are very nice for just giving them away. I only give eggs to family but sell the rest. And I can't keep them.
Kris
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| farmmilkmama |
Posted - Mar 10 2012 : 03:44:04 AM
That is ironic that they would ask why you don't sell your eggs...and then don't offer you money for them. People can be so strange sometimes! Thank goodness you're a kind person and so generous...
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| acairnsmom |
Posted - Mar 09 2012 : 2:01:56 PM
I think it is, as you pointed out, that we as a society are so far removed from kind acts that we don't know how to respond. People used to bring their abundance in to share with people just as you tried to do. But back then others appreciated it. Today, we are used to everyone else being selfish and no one shares anymore so when someone does, it throws them for a loop!
Just let them come up with their uninformed ideas and you just keep on being an example of a KIND and GENEROUS person. Who knows? Maybe you'll infect someone else with your "strange" ideas and you'll start a generosity movement at your office!
Audrey
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| FieldsofThyme |
Posted - Mar 09 2012 : 11:46:14 AM
My family always offers to pay, but I always tell them thank you and give them the eggs free.
You have a good heart. :)
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| FARMALLChick |
Posted - Mar 09 2012 : 09:30:28 AM
It is sad when people will gladly take what you offer and tell you to sell, but when asked to pay up, suddenly they don't have the money. I am with you - if you want to give excess away so that it doesn't go to waste - then do it. Even better that you will be able to preserve what excess you do have.
Lora
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| Naked on a Mountain Top |
Posted - Mar 09 2012 : 09:14:26 AM
I am often the receipient of a coworkers extra eggs at my work.
However, I almost always pay if have have cash on me (she does have to buy feed right?) but even better I bring her my extra baked goods!! She's always happy to barter eggs for cookies - besides they are her eggs in my cookies.
Too bad you work with so many ungrateful people. Perhaps they didn't attend kindergarten - where we ALL learned to share.
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| Penny Wise |
Posted - Mar 09 2012 : 07:58:16 AM
rachel, you have a good heart. don't lose sight of that !
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