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| TejasFarmgirl |
Posted - Jul 08 2006 : 7:06:05 PM
Well, our dream is almost coming true so why do I feel so stressed out? We finally sold our house (after 1 1/2 years on the market and taking a big loss!) and we are scheduled to move next Saturday to our 4 1/2 acres. The problem is that our new house that my husband has been remodeling for a year is not done. We don't have a kichen, the mudroom is not finished, the master bath has no sinks, shower or toliet, and the trim is not painted yet. The sink I wanted (farmhouse sink from IKEA-great deal!) won't be here until a week after we move in so we can't put counter tops in.
Why can't I just "go with the flow"? I am sure we can do just fine without a sink and a master bath for a week or two. And the house is going to be great (when its done). I am so emotional right now. I am yelling at my kids (I hate to yell) and my husband and I are working and living in two seperate parallels. He is a very focused person so he is concentrating on getting the house ready so I am doing all the packing, paperwork, utilities, etc plus working. Sometimes I feel I am going to go nuts!!
I have been eating terribly, getting no sleep, basically a mess. I keep thinking that after the move and we are living there (even if it is not completely done) that everything will get better.
Any words of wisdom? Thank you for letting me vent (my chickens are tired of hearing about it!!).
TejasFarmgirl |
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| Bridge |
Posted - Jul 14 2006 : 3:38:43 PM
Life is just one big adventure!! Think of it that way......
What is a problem today will just be a memory tomorrow....
~~Bridge's Boutique~~
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| connio |
Posted - Jul 14 2006 : 1:39:51 PM
Hey Farm Girls!
Dawnn Just hang on, everything will be fine. I also don't mean to minimize what you are experiencing but, I think that you just have to recover from living in a greed-based, consumption-oriented, highly stressed place like Dallas. Now that I have been living in the country for 3 years, I have learned to take life with a relaxed attitude and really do count my blessing each day, as KJD mentioned.
We are all so lucky in this country. You and your family do have the basics of food and shelter so you should be fine. If you consider how others live around the world, it will probably give you comfort. Many families share 1-2 rooms for sleeping, eating etc and are still quite happy according to articles that I read.
I can remember when I lived in Dallas and thought that I was having a crisis when my housekeeper "called in sick"! I also thought that every person in my household should have a private bath. I had to have a new car before the mileage reached 80,000 miles I laugh at all of this now since it's just me out here cleaning the barn, dealing with the hay, driving my old Volvo station wagon and living with little a.c. I have never been happier.
Hang in there and give it some time now that you are in the country and away from the insanity of Dallas. I am confident that you and your family will love your new home and all will be well with the passage of time.
Connie
Texas Farm Girl
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| dargaonfly1054 |
Posted - Jul 13 2006 : 06:14:15 AM
Geez, I was feeling the same way and all I was doing was remodeling the kitchen. My sweetie just moved in with me, so that was a big adjustment in itself and then to take on the remodeling project...... talk about two different planes...........he was the focused one (and retired and able to give the job his full attention) and me, well, I was just stressed out. So I so know what you mean, although on a smaller scale....... Take a deep breath, it will all come together. Georgette
"There is a voice that doesn't use words........Listen." |
| akcowgirl |
Posted - Jul 12 2006 : 1:00:36 PM
Good luck with the move, my other half and i moved 6 time in a year and a half so i can sympathize, i hate moving. We also moved into our unfinished house. it is hard a first but it gets easier, when we moved in we had no insulation in the floor, no counters or sinks and no running water. It has gotten easier as we have gotten things finished, so i guess all i can say is don't sweat the small stuff and it is all small stuff. Good luck and Big huggs
Valerie
Yes, I live in my own little world. But that's ok they know me here.
Deja Moo: The feeling that you've heard this bull before.
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| KJD |
Posted - Jul 09 2006 : 2:52:12 PM
Not to minimize what you're going through, but something my son and I saw last night on CNN gave us reason to pause and give thanks for very basic things. We saw a show called Undercover in the Secret Society (or something like that) about North Korea. I'm telling you - these people have nothing! It was a "teachable moment" for myself and my 12 year old son - I said, "Look at this beautiful room we're in right now". I always say my prayers of thanksgiving each morning, for our family, military, etc., but realized I forget to thank Him for our freedom. Watching that show put a lot of things in perspective! Just recognize that you and your family are safe, secure, have the basics (OK - a little less than basics right now) but you see daylight! It's going to be worth the wait... |
| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Jul 08 2006 : 11:23:30 PM
I have moved SO many times and hate it!! But...what I have learned to do..and it really helps me..is to have one box..with my favorite small things in it that I will want to put out and have close by the very first day. I keep that box WITH Me..not let it get put with all the other zillion boxes that get put where ever and unpacked when you can.
I always put a good book, a scented candle and a few special things that I MUST have in my kitchen right away..and some chocolate if possible. and a notepad and pen for sure..hard to locate when you have moving mess.
What a great thing to be a listmaker! That will help you so much. Life is so much easier when I am organized at least a little!!
Good luck..keep smiling..and remember..this is your dream..and that is wonderful!!!!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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| TejasFarmgirl |
Posted - Jul 08 2006 : 10:20:10 PM
Thanks so much for the advice. Catherine - you are so right about me being a big picture person. Tonight after I wrote the post, I sat down at the kitchen table with a pad of paper and made a list of everything that needed to be finsished in the house before we moved and then did a calendar for the week-then I discussed it with DH. Turns out what he thought my priorities were, aren't! I can live without a kitchen for awhile...the best solution was to get the mudroom sink and counter tops installed so we have a place to prep food and clean up...my top priorities were getting the kids' rooms totally done so they had a santuary during the chaos...then we went step by step through everything...We both feel so much better!
You both are right...I am taking deep breaths, putting a smile on my face, and "going with the flow"! Thanks so much for the cyber shoulder and words. It really did help! |
| berries |
Posted - Jul 08 2006 : 7:19:58 PM
We all have been there. Think positive thoughts! Yes, you can do it! It won't be easy, but think of camping. I too waited for the big country sink by Koehler (sp), but love it. It was worth the wait. My husband and I have moved (due to his job) so many times! Always in the very heat of the summer like July! We swear it will never happen again, but it did. Now we are on our little piece of heaven, and I say they will have to carry me away from here, I'm not moving every again. But of course if we do, we do! I know it's hard right now, but think of the whole picture! You will have what you want and how you want it. Remember you will be makin memories!!!! You'll look back and laugh! Take a few minutes and take some deep breaths, say a prayer, and take in some calm. It could be alot worse. You will be in my thoughts and prayers!
Thinking of you, one farmgirl to another,
gloria g.
Richards, TX
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| cmandle |
Posted - Jul 08 2006 : 7:18:22 PM
Well, when I was preparing for the birth of my son, one of the midwives told me that while I don't know *how many* contractions I was going to have, once I got through one of them...it was gone. Over. Done. Never have to deal with that contraction again. Small successes.
So I guess that you could apply that to this situation by focusing on the small things that you *have* done to get the move ready. You packed a box from the kitchen. Over. Done. You don't have to worry about that box until unpacking time comes. You switched a utility company from one address to the next. Over. Done. You don't have to do that again. You worked one more day this week. Over. Done. Only X days left until the weekend and you get to go home to focus on those projects.
Does this help? I'm a big picture sort of gal myself, so I totally understand you on the overwhelming thing. But just try to take a deep breath (don't you hate it when folks say that to you when you're stressed?), focus on one step done - move on to the next, and know that you will be moved in and sleeping soundly in your new bedroom (with sink nearby!) within a couple of weeks.
Hang in there! This, too, shall pass!
Catherine |
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