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| rachels7683 |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 10:22:49 AM
What is your opinion on this? What if you don't care for jewelry or what if it's still at the jewelers but the moment was right?
*~*~* I'd rather be raising babies and animals*~*~* |
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| acairnsmom |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 11:41:58 AM
Oh my goodness YES it is a proposal without a ring! The ring is merely a symbol of the committment two people have made for each other. When DH and I married 33 years ago I didn't have an engagement ring and never felt the need for one. Now the wedding ring? Yes, I wanted that and have proudly worn it all these years. But that too is just a symbol.
On our 15th anniversary DH bought me a beautiful 5 diamond anniversary ring that I now wear with my wedding ring in the place of an engagement ring.
DH on the other hand has never had a wedding ring. He never felt the need for one and I didn't care so we're both happy.
Audrey
Toto, we're not in Kansas any more! |
| Blessed in Colorado |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 07:00:00 AM
Thirty six years ago when my husband proposed to me he simply could not afford to buy me a ring, but I loved him so much so I did not care. Who cared, my mother! She was appalled that I did not get a ring and said our marriage would never last and here we are 36 years later still very much in love and happy. Our wedding rings came from Kmart mine was $20 and my husbands was $26, we still wear them today. It is the man we marry not the ring, just be happy, have fun and don't worry about the small stuff or what mother says as she is not always right!
Farm Girl Hugs,
Debbie
#1582
If you are lucky enough to live in the mountains you are lucky enough. |
| batznthebelfry |
Posted - Feb 01 2011 : 11:15:44 PM
I think this is so funny, my husband didn't even propose he just looked up from the TV & said" When you want to get married, let me know"...he was in college at the time & I was teaching so I ended up buying my wedding set at a pawn shop for $75. I decided if I had to buy it I was getting what I wanted so I found an old set from the 1950's that fit my personality. I still wear it though I have had to repair it once since it was so thin it broke. !8 yrs later i still have to smile at that proposal of sorts from him.....Michele' #2622
The Old Batz Farm |
| Prairie Gypsy |
Posted - Jan 31 2011 : 11:26:02 AM
Diane - there are sites on the internet that sell non-blood diamonds (as some refer to them). Also, an engagement ring doesn't have to be a diamond. I've seen them made out of everything from bone to spoons. My ex-SIL had a sapphire. If she doesn't want one that's fine to obviously.
Certain religious groups don't condone flashy jewelry (diamond rings) so they give engagement watches, which are considered practical. Never got how buying a $1500 watch was any different then a $1500 ring but to each their own. It's another option though and they could always get something engraved on the watch.
Farmgirl Sister # 2363
http://twilightburrough.blogspot.com/
Warren, MI
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| HollyG |
Posted - Jan 31 2011 : 11:25:08 AM
No ring. Now, that's not saying I wouldn't love to have a rock after 17 years of marriage against all the odds, but it's what's in your heart, not what's on your finger!
HollyG
Farmgirl #2513
www.mydeepwoodslife.com |
| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Jan 31 2011 : 10:57:24 AM
I tried to get my son to buy his girlfriend an engagement ring but he said she did not want a diamond ring because they are harvested by child slavery rings. He is waiting until she decides what if anything she wants. He hasn't been on bended knee yet but they are thinking about getting married in a few years. The wait is because her brother is getting married out of the country and they know it will be expensive on her parents and they don't want them to worry so hopefully this summer he will get on bended knee and ask. I believe once he or she ask's and the other say's yes it's at that time it's official.
Cogratulations on your engagement.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| ddmashayekhi |
Posted - Jan 30 2011 : 2:35:29 PM
I also did not want a engagement ring, so we purchased beautiful matching wedding bands instead. I work with my hands a lot and the band holds up to everything I do indoors and out. We've been married 8.5 years now and I'm still happy with the band and my husband!
Dawn in IL |
| pnickols |
Posted - Jan 30 2011 : 08:48:58 AM
my proposal came with no engagement ring either, still going 25 years later |
| KayB |
Posted - Jan 29 2011 : 8:37:14 PM
Never had an engagement ring. DH and I have been married almost 14 years. His proposal was that he had been waiting for me for over 15 years (we dated 30 years ago and split up). Good enough for me. Never formally asked either, just told me we had to get married.
Congratulations to you.
KayB
Life's a dance you learn as you go
Farmgirl Sister #2351 |
| Princess_Of_The_Barn |
Posted - Jan 29 2011 : 7:22:40 PM
DH and I were in college when we met. I laid eyes on him on June 23rd. We went on our first date on July 2nd. On Thanksgiving he came over to my brothers because I was housesitting while he was on vacation. He came over when I was working a double shift and made beef stroganoff for dinner. He had the fireplace going and even opened a bottle of wine. He was planning on proposing, but I was so tired I fell asleep!
He "popped the question" the next morning while I was in the bathroom! Not exactly romantic, but it works for us! We've also agreed that we're shooting any guy who proposes to our daughters while wearing nothing but his boxers! 
As for the ring....I didn't get one until January. We were poor broke college students and I was tired of every girl saying that he was cheap because he didn't get me a ring. We finally went and sold some of his comics and a pistol and I got a $150 ring. It's in the jewelery box now because I'm still not a jewelery person.
But if he asked, you said YES! and are planning a wedding....YOU'RE ENGAGED!
CONGRATS!
Livin' the dream! |
| Montrose Girl |
Posted - Jan 29 2011 : 6:42:23 PM
Absolutely, positively! Because the boyfriend just proposed this week, too.
Laurie
http://www.inntheorchardbnb.com/ |
| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Jan 25 2011 : 05:37:27 AM
Hubby proposed to me -- without a ring. Instead, we opted to use a wedding ring set that belonged to my great aunt Becky and her hubby David. It's an antique and unusual, so I liked it better than anything I could have purchased at a store. Yep! You're engaged - with or without a ring!
from the hearts of paradise... |
| country roads |
Posted - Jan 25 2011 : 05:21:52 AM
DH and I were still in high school. We were working on his old truck when he proposed. As he was asking me he was slipping an empty cardboard ring from a roll of electrical tape onto my finger :) I accepted and it wasn't until the next summer that he'd earned enough money throwing hay bales to buy me a "real" ring. As long as you love one another it doesn't matter what is or isn't on your finger :)
Take care, Melissa.
Farmgirl # 352
~Think happy thoughts~ |
| natesgirl |
Posted - Jan 25 2011 : 05:16:57 AM
My Hubby proposed to me without a ring. I don't care for jewelry and am very picky about what I will wear. We picked out our wedding bands together and then honeymooned in gatlinburg. I seen a beautiful ring there that matched my wedding band so he got it for me so I'd have a set. Mine are black hills gold, very small, no stones. The wedding band is the leaf pattern with the tiny gold ball in the middle. The engagement ring is an open heart with a leaf on each side. Not exactly traditional, but they are perfect to me.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
| jpbluesky |
Posted - Jan 25 2011 : 03:07:21 AM
I did not have an engagement ring until our 25th anniversary. When we decided to get married, I wanted a gold band, which said married more than anything I can think of. We got matching bands. But on that memorable silver anniversary, he gave me a large diamond and has since added two other diamonds beside it and a diamond band. I have enjoyed them a lot. I wish my hands were still young and pretty, though, because the rings would look a lot better!
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
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| melody |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 8:04:12 PM
Funny story...
My husband proposed to me on New Years Eve, on bended knee, in front of a dozen of his friends, and their girlfriends and wives. He tore the end of one of those sparkly horns you blow on New Years Eve and slipped it on my finger while asking for my hand.
Later on I picked out an engagement "band" with rubies and diamonds so that I would be reminded of that goofy little sparkly horn/temporary engagement ring. I still have it! We will be married 20-years this June.
Melody
Farmgirl #525
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| AmethystRose |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 6:44:53 PM
You are engaged if the two of you agree that you are. You don't have to have THE RING, you can have just a ring....or not. My engagement ring was a half inch piece of copper pipe, just for fun. We'll be married twenty nine years this July. |
| rachels7683 |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 6:33:14 PM
Thanks ladies..I will keep you all updated!
*~*~* I'd rather be raising babies and animals*~*~* |
| SherBear |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 6:29:53 PM
I didn't make a big 'announcement' right away when he proposed since I didn't have an engagement ring, since the first thing people say is 'Let me see the ring.' However, most people noticed because I was wearing the little silver ring on 'that finger' and they figured it out :)
http://sherrileesgarden.blogspot.com/ |
| msdoolittle |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 6:27:55 PM
I find that perfectly acceptable. I told my husband NO RING. I think it's a silly thing myself to spend that much money on a piece of jewelry that I will likely lose! I guess you can tell I'm not a 'jewelry person' anyway. We don't even wear wedding bands (I am forever washing my hands with my chores and he welds and works on heavy machinery, so...) It's what's in your heart that matters :0)
Congratulations!
FarmGirl #1390
www.mylittlecountry.wordpress.com |
| MrsRooster |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 3:33:28 PM
I don't wear my ring either. It is an old ring and I am worried about losing it.
Sounds like you already have a ring. Plus it is the words that count.
God Bless you and your upcoming wedding.
www.mrsrooster.blogspot.com
Farmgirl #1259
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| rachels7683 |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 3:24:45 PM
Well, the reason i;m asking is because he gave me a promise ring about 3 years ago and he made the comment a few weeks ago if he took it to a jeweler to ''spruce it up'' if that would be fine if it would be my engagement ring. We both feel that it would have meaning to it.I went to wear it on Saturday and it was gone from my jewelry box. So, with saying that we are going on a short getaway in a few weeks so i could see him proposing if the mood was right but if he didn't have the ring back yet.
Corrine- I hope she comes around. I have also thought about if the ring wasn't ready and he proposed if i would tell people..because the first thing most people are going to ask is ''can i see the ring?''. Argg!
*~*~* I'd rather be raising babies and animals*~*~* |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 3:05:51 PM
I asked my hubby. We had rings but I don't wear mine anymore. It kind of got in the wya of all these farm chores. I need to get it back on one day though. I love my ring. I think it's fine to not have an engagement ring. He asked you, didn't he? You said yes. So there.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| CountryBorn |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 2:44:12 PM
Well, if having an engagement ring makes it official, then I guess the last 45 years of our marriage are not official!! I am not a jewelry person myself. I have a wide gold band and on our 30 year anniversary he got me a beautiful diamond anniversary ring. It is weird because you would swear that it was made to fit right on the top of my band. I love that too. But, I don't think anyone needs a ring if you are committed to each other that is all that counts. (My daughter absolutely loves jewelry so she probably has another opinion!! lol!)
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
| BarefootGoatGirl |
Posted - Jan 24 2011 : 1:17:09 PM
this is a topic that my mom and i are heatedly debating right now. he's asked and i've said yes. we are planning a wedding, but my mom doesn't want me to tell the kids because "its not official."
http://www.alittlebitofred.webs.com/ |
