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| westernhorse51 |
Posted - May 29 2006 : 05:03:08 AM
Good morning farmgirls,
I have to vent just a bit OK? I was at my sisters all day yesterday w/ other family and we were having a great time. Suddenly, it started as it SOMEHOW usually does. Siblings STILL trying to understand WHY I want a small farm and STILL trying to talk me out of it! It is not any different now then it's EVER been but now because it is getting closer (to them, not close enough for me yet) they have to joke about it, poke fun at me for wanting it,make it sound like it's the worse thing in the world. WHY, WHY, do they ALWAYS do this to me?????? They don't have to want it, thats fine w/ me. They were telling me how I'll never be able to do another thing in my life because once you have a farm you can never leave it. Like living in OZ!! They just don't get it. They were even trying to tell my husband it's not what I really want, can you believe it?X**!! These are my sisters, what is wrong with them? Thet know I have wanted this all my life, nothing has changed. I know they love me & God knows how much I love them but I never tried to tell them not to do something that THEY loved. What a night of "ME" bashing about my farm. I just wish they could understand. Thanks for letting me vent. At least HERE I can be understood.
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
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| dargaonfly1054 |
Posted - Jun 10 2006 : 03:57:47 AM
Boy do I understand how you are feeling!! I only have one full sister and she bashes everything about me. Oh, Georgette, don't be so wishy-washy, or oh Georgette, you can't do that, or Georgette, don't be silly............and the list goes on and on! I've read what eveyone here has said and yes, some people eventually would accept it, but there are those who would never ever accept what we do.........such as my sister. So I just stop telling her things! You have to follow your heart and do what is right for YOU. We all are behind you here. Good luck and hang in there!! Georgette
"We need the tonic of wildness, to wade sometimes in marshes where the bittern and the meadow-hen lurk..." Thoreau |
| shellybien0319 |
Posted - Jun 06 2006 : 08:51:45 AM
Michele,
People (especially the ones we love and are supposed to love us back) mock what they don't understand. It is a simple reaction to fear.
I am with kim. Talk to your siblings. Explain it to them. I am willing to bet that once they know more about your farming move and adventures, they will be more accepting of it. And in the rare case that the talk doesn't help, don't be brought down by THEIR fears. The farm is what YOU want. Don't ever lose sight of YOUR dreams. Take it from someone who knows about putting dreams aside for others. It's expensive. It costs you your dignity, your mind, your self-esteem. Please, don't allow yourself to be brought down by this mockery and snobbery.
Michelle |
| garliclady |
Posted - Jun 01 2006 : 11:40:23 AM
Hang in there and follow YOUR dream. My family is ok with me being a farmer though they didn't take my "little hobby" serious at first. Now they brag on me and bring city folks to visit. they are thrilled about our farm now. My sister always backed me because there was a time in her life she did the same thing I am doing now though she lives in the city now. My parents couldn't understand my quiting teaching and becoming a farmer . Give your family time and let them see what a special life it will be .
Tomorrow a reporter from the big city where I grew up is coming to take pictures and see our farm for an article he is doing on our farm. My family is thrilled and maybe some of my city friends and relatives will finally see what I am really doing!
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| sillyfoulks |
Posted - Jun 01 2006 : 06:23:46 AM
I know where your coming from. When I broke the news that we where moving 2000 miles away to our farm, I got all kinds of reactions. Good, bad, and ugly!!
I am the youngest of 6 children, spanning 20 years. I always felt as though my siblings thought they had to take care of me, and they just had trouble letting me grow up. I had one sister say she would never come visit me, she was so opposed to the move. Yes, my feelings where somewhat hurt. However, we moved anyway, and don't regret anything. I have grown, matured, and had adventures that they could never understand. All my siblings live within 60 miles from where we grow up, all safe a secure in familiar surroundings. I am proud that I took the leap. If feels as though my life really started they day we moved.
Sometimes siblings think they know who we are, and what is best for us. But only we can decide who we are, and where are lives will lead us.
Elizabeth
Not how long, but how well you have lived is the main thing.
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| santa_gertrudis_gal |
Posted - May 31 2006 : 11:16:49 AM
I'm very positive that our urban society thumbs their noses at two sectors of the economy. Farmer/Ranchers and the trucking industry more then any other sector of the economy. Without those of us active in Agriculture and Trucking the urban folks would not enjoy the lifestyle they have. One they have to eat and two that plasma TV had to be transported by truck along with the milk they enjoy on the oatmeal the farmer grew. Imagine if every farm and ranch quit producing or the trucks stopped moving. In one week of trucks not moving there would be no food in the stores.
My brothers too, make fun of me at times, but they know when it comes down to the nitty gritty my passion for my animals is a part of who and what I am. My SIL's on the other hand really don't understand. One even leaves me with the impression that 'You don't live up to my expectations.' I actually feel for her inability to understand her fellow man. That's forgiveness.
Talk to your sisters, you might be surprised at the change. I'm sure they love you as much as you them. Then the teasing and manipulation will probably lessen if not quit. Remember this is your life and your marriage, so live it with gusto because God gave you this day to live it to your fullest. You don't have to live up to their expectations, only your own for yourself. You'll find you'll be happier, thus being able to contribute to the happiness of others.
To all of my farmgal sisters. When I learned I could not make another person happy it was as if a weight lifted from my heart. It became much easier to contribute to another's happiness. Emotions are the choice of the individual, I choose to be happy, mad, sad, jealous, hateful, contrite, etc. I prefer love as the emotion I always want to feel, yet I'm human, it's how I react to those other emotions that moves me forward as an individual.
I hope and pray that your choice to be on the farm comes to pass.
With love,
Kim 
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| westernhorse51 |
Posted - May 29 2006 : 09:50:37 AM
Thanks girls
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - May 29 2006 : 09:37:04 AM
I have had the "farmerjenny" jokes my whole life. (not in a nice way) and it is hard when these are people who you love!! I think finally in the last year or two they have all started understanding me and accepting me. At least it seems like it. Maybe they miss me since we moved 12 hours away from them.
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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| LJRphoto |
Posted - May 29 2006 : 06:40:11 AM
Siblings can be so bossy. I know my family pretty much thinks we're a little nuts too. They especially don't think that I can handle our animals becoming food. I just didn't talk to them about it that much at first and when it's brought up I make jokes, like, well, when the processor comes for the pigs I'll just be out getting a manicure (even though I'm not really a manicure type girl). I just try to turn it into laughing with me instead of at me and the mood has gotten lighter as we've gone along and people have begun to find the whole thing more interesting instead of ridiculous.
"I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for man if he spent less time proving that he can outwit Nature and more time tasting her sweetness and respecting her seniority." -E. B. White
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| JanO |
Posted - May 29 2006 : 06:07:08 AM
Oh Sweetie, don't let them get you down. Just cause you have a dream that they don't share, or understand don't let them put you in a funk. The only thing that's important is what you and your DH want. My sister, step children, work associates, just about everybody I ever knew always gave me a hard time when we were planning our move. I finally quit listening. Now though, everybody wants to come to my house. They say they like having a place that's quiet and stress free to "escape" to when the city gets to be too much. I call that sweet revenge.  |
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