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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 1:40:50 PM
I went to the bank yesterday just a few minutes before it closed. One girl was opened and said to the young man working next to her you can leave if you want to. His reply was I have to wait for my mom to pick me up. She then said why? whats wrong with your car. He said I need gas and I told my parents they needed to fill up my tank, because my brother doesn't have a job and they give him gas money so they should give me the same. No one said anything, We just looked at him, I finished my transaction and looked at him and said you sure have a lot of growing up to do and I left..I still can't believe what I heard. If that was my son he would be walking. My son would never do that. Thank God.
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| magnoliakathy |
Posted - Aug 01 2010 : 08:23:31 AM
The problem is too many children have parents who feel like they have to buy their kids affection, the parents want to be their friend, and they don't want their children to be angry with them, so they buy them off, make excuses for them and the children wind up failures. There are too many children who could do for themsleves, but are never taught to and there are those who can but won't. I have two children, raised in the same home with the same rules and expectations, one works hard, saves his money, takes care of his wife and family. The other is on state assistance, is about to get married for the 6th time and she doesn't understand why life is so hard on her. I don't know waht happened here, but some kids just don't "jell", like my daughter.
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| jill skane |
Posted - Aug 01 2010 : 07:49:15 AM
I have a grand daughter who just turned 16, She has a job thru the year while in school she works part time at. In the summer she works full time, she has band practice during the year, and still manages to pick up her 7 year old sister with her gas money because I have offered her some.
She says no Nana I have my own money,and watches her at night also for my daughter who as an OR tech and son in law is a detective police. They are very lucky she is willing to do this. She does not ask them for money for watching her either. She is a good kid, my gran daughter is her 1/2 sister and she is very good to her.
For 16 she is very responsible.
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| Faransgirl |
Posted - Aug 01 2010 : 07:09:46 AM
I have a brother that is 50 and still lives with my Mom. He has 5 kids (My Mom raised 2 of them) and their Mom's raised the rest of them. I also have a sister who thinks she should be handed everything. I have met many many kids (friends of my kids) who think just like that young boy and many parents that would go a pick him up or put gas in his car. I have one daughter right now who has had a really bad year and I am helping her more right now than I am helping her sisters but what is happening is out of her control. Her sisters are really wonderful and not only understand but have helped her out themselves. They know as I do that she is trying to pull things together. I am so proud of them that they do not feel as that boy did and think I need to treat them the same just now. They know that if the time comes they are in need as their sister is they will get as much help as we can give them. In the mean time they are proud of the fact that they are doing things on their own.
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - Jul 29 2010 : 10:58:09 AM
What gets me most about it is that so many brave sons and daughters are in harms way overseas and the ones that aren't should be ashamed. They give no thought to anyone but themselves. I have been sick since Sat and have watched alot of TV, which I usually don't. I saw something called Jersey Shore. What a disgrace. The Secret Life of an American Teenager. This is a family show??
We need to make sure that we teach ours self respect and honor.
I'll get off my soapbox now.
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| gypsy goat |
Posted - Jul 26 2010 : 06:01:45 AM
sorry i guess he's not lazy he does have a job-but still that is uncalled for-now i feel better i will get off my soapbox |
| gypsy goat |
Posted - Jul 26 2010 : 06:00:15 AM
wow if he was my kid he would be in for a big surprise when i didn't pick his lazy selfish butt up
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| MagnoliaWhisper |
Posted - Jul 25 2010 : 09:06:33 AM
wow. My parents would of never allowed it.
However, grandma was like this to my mom's brothers. It sure didn't help them sadly. Her youngest died just a few years after she did.....she was 80 when she died, her youngest died at the tender age of 40! Yeah...(he was her last child and had him at a older age). My mom asked her one day why she "spoiled" him so much. Grandma said it was because they all told her he wouldn't live, and when he did she was so thankful and it was hard to say no to him. Sadly he hated her for it. Was evil mean, vindictive, etc and drank himself to death by age 40. A fine how do you do, huh?
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| Leilaht |
Posted - Jul 25 2010 : 08:43:37 AM
There is this weird sense of entitlement with kids today. I dont get it. We are breeding a society of narcissistic sociopaths.
fat people are harder to kidnap.
I really don't know what is causing this. My kids have the same thing and I don't hand them everything. I have always made it plain that they had to work for things, yet they think they shouldn't. That is why I get so mad at my son. He works when he wants to. Last time I called him on it, he got mad and moved out. He is 19. Go right ahead. I can't be responsible for him forever.
Liz
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| farmmilkmama |
Posted - Jul 24 2010 : 8:33:39 PM
Well, not to be devils advocate...but that could have very well been my husband 15 or so years ago. He shared a car with his older brother (who was one year older than my husband). My husband had two jobs (one after school, one on the weekends). His brother could never keep a job. So when it came time to be the brother's turn to fill the car with gas, he couldn't. So mom and dad would always step in and fill up the car. Then it would come time for my hubby to fill up the car, and he'd put in his money to fill it with gas...all the while his brother using it as well. My hubby got fed up. He said "Why don't I just buy the car from you (parents)." He didn't understand why he couldn't be in football or anything else because it conflicted with work, but his brother could sit at home, not work or do sports or whatever, and still basically have a free ride. So my hubby thought "fair enough" and he'd just buy the car. Well, his mother showed up the next day to my hubby's afterschool job and handed him $100. She said "I'm buying the car for your brother. Hopefully this hundred will be enough to put towards a used car." My hubby's jaw hit the floor. And so it continued on, all through high school and college, his brother continued to get his "wheels" paid for my his parents.
Now I'm not defending snarky attitudes in kids, because Lord knows there are plenty of them out there. And I'm not sure that demanding that your parents come pick you up with a tank full of gas is the right way to voice your opinion. But I do know that when one kid is working and contributing to the funds and the other is getting everything handed to them, it can be a tad frustrating. As a teen, he probably wasn't the most eloquent in voicing his concern.
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| OneCraftyBugger |
Posted - Jul 24 2010 : 8:09:21 PM
Insane,,, thats what it is, insane. For some reason, alot of folks are raising children who have a HUGE sense of intitlement, it makes me sick.
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| hour3suns |
Posted - Jul 24 2010 : 2:04:37 PM
Seems to me that man needs to put his big girl panties on and grow up. I have a sister that continues to be handed pretty much everything but I sure don't expect the same thing. What goes on between her and my folks is between them. I would never expect the same thing nor do I want it.
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| CrazyKylie |
Posted - Jul 24 2010 : 1:26:38 PM
I hope his parents DIDN'T pick him up!!!!
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - Jul 24 2010 : 08:04:56 AM
The gall of some people today. Poor kid, he has so much to learn.
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| Sarahpauline |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 7:58:25 PM
Especially with the economy what it is right now, he could be helping his brother as well rather than trying to get more from his parents. What happened to working to help your family? There is this weird sense of entitlement with kids today. I dont get it. We are breeding a society of narcissistic sociopaths.
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| barefootmama |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 3:25:01 PM
WOW!!!!! unfortunatly in my husbands family there are several people with the same attitude.....one lives at home with his mom still and is almost 40....no job either........I will shut up now because the very thought of it makes my blood boil
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| 36paws20hooves |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 3:22:06 PM
I can't stand when I hear things like this. I have worked HARD to take care of myself. I have put MYSELF through school, paid off my truck (from start to finish), just bought a new tractor, I had my 10 acre farm when I was 22.... yes, it was hard and no one wanted to take me seriously but I did it by myself and that makes it 100X's better... I am a better person for it. That BOY is in for a rude awakening one day!!
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| 1badmamawolf |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 3:20:43 PM
Wow, not only would I NOT fill his gas tank, I would disable his car so NO ONE could figure it out, and he would be on foot for a very long time...
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| melody |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 2:55:16 PM
What is it with some young people?
---My middle son is a prime example of expecting everything handed to him on a silver platter and brand spanking new thank you very much... as if he deserved it-
I used to feel guilty him being so young when his father and I divorced and would mistakenly try to make it up to him. I tell you he played me like a violin but not any more-
He is 24 going on 7 and I do believe that he will have this attitude as long as he lives. Sometimes I can hardly believe he is one of my own.
Melody
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| Alee |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 2:43:52 PM
Wow... I can understand being frustrated that you work hard and your sibling ends up getting a free ride (literally!) but at the same time I would be proud that I wasn't mooching off my parents!
Alee
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| Karrieann |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 2:03:10 PM
..oh my
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| melanie47601 |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 1:56:43 PM
Some nerve he had. If he had been my son and said that to me, he wouldn't be waiting on me to come pick him up cause he would have walked!
Melanie
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