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| sherrye |
Posted - Apr 07 2010 : 07:50:55 AM
well as i sit here typing the tears swell in my eyes. we are one of the folks paying the price of the economy. there must be others on here???we have lived here farming our dirt for almost 16 years. never late a payment. now almost 18 months of unemployment and we are broke. used savings and whatever to make due.wells fargo financial calls 40 times a day. i call them and they say pay or sell or borrow. papa has gone to wy for a week or two of work.the co. said get a job and we will help you.if i had a job i would not need help. so what are you doing to get by. i am packing keepsakes and bought a used 5th wheel with my savings.we are not even 50 days late yet. i am preparing now to get mobil. the very HARDEST is giving up my gardens. where can i put them till i settle? what is your concern. i collect plants like some do shoes.lolwe are happy and will look ahead for what our maker wants us to do.i know i need to get down and do the work so what are you all doing to cope and to get the whole house thing figured out.just a thought sherrye
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| Alee |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 11:18:43 AM
*hugs* I hope you get some good news soon! What is the minimum payment they will accept to be able to start re-negotiating?
Alee
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 10:38:34 AM
well i hate to beat an old horse. but i am going to. have been trying to speak with wells. all they can say is you have not made a payment since jan. your at fault send money now. any all you can. they so far are not being very nice. soooo i lost my cool. the guy was right back at me. treated me like a delinquent child. i said ok i see we are not going to be able to work together. i need someone else. he said we are all going to be like this. you need to send money and then we see you are trying and then WE WILL SEE IF WE CAN HELP YOU> it is so hard. i want to give up and walk away. wasnt i trying when my pymts were on time for a year and a half of unemployment. now i have income and i felt like i was a total loser when he was finished with me.
SOOO hopefully delicia will see this or anyone that might know the answer. if i bankrupt. then when the loan for the mortgage is reaffirmed can the terms be negotiated and set to modify the loan.? i may have ask this already. they got me bad last time. i just dont want to end up with this loan written this way when its over. its a 20 year 7.75 fixed at 1681.96 a month. its tooo much. stressed sherrye
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| cheneygal |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 7:04:48 PM
Sherrye, I too think you are in for some wonderful surprises, and some wonderful new friends as well, anyone that lives in the high desert of Oregon is wonderful, and I'm sure they all look out for one another, just as you do where you are now. We lived in central Oregon for 10 years, and the friends we made are lifelong friends. All the people in that area were and are still very near and dear to my heart!!! There is a new chapter in your life awaiting and you and papa will love it!!
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| delicia |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 2:26:35 PM
Sherrye, I think God wants to share you with some new neighbors so they can be blessed by your wonderful loving nature.
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| Old Spirit |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 12:48:00 PM
Sherrye I think there are much better days ahead and wonderful surprises waiting for you around the corner. You have such a wonderful attitude about the whole thing. May God bless you on this new journey!!!
Rae
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...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 12:26:29 PM
hi linda and girls, good to hear from you linda. you will know this feeling.it happened today. those of you that have left homes behind will relate. i have been in this place almost 16 years. so this a.m. i am looking out the mudroom door. looking to see if the neighbor was in yet from his long haul truck run. nope not yet. it dawned on me i am moving. dah,,but,,i will not know my neighbors. we are a close nit neighborhood. it was an empty spot i felt. i do know i will make new friends. my dad said i never met a stranger. so i will go and meet them all. but there is a comfort here. we all look out for each other.help each other. you know. any way i will move past it. but in the moment it shocked me. still happy days sherrye
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| prayin granny |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 10:05:58 AM
Sherrye and Nicola, My situation similar, yet not? But I know that one step at a time we will get thru! Change is NOT at all easy! Adjusting to new surroundings and things is tough. But it is often for the better, we just need His strength to get thru each day! Take care and the very best to you! Thanks to this forum and all these wonderful farmgirls! Linda
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| Old Spirit |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 07:18:14 AM
How true, how amazing it is the way we can stretch a dollar. For years I only used 1/2 pound of hamburger in hot dish, still often use less than a pound. We really work hard on using up leftovers and really how often is "stuff" missed.
Prayers out for all of you struggling. I know what it is like and probably always will as farming will be our retirement  We will never be rich $$ wise but will be rich in happiness.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| crystalgayle |
Posted - May 07 2010 : 06:59:53 AM
Sherry, four years ago, hub and I came close to losing our home. He is also a union worker and with the ice storm we had, there was no work for four months.
Something we have come to realize over the years it that we have never actually been poor. We've had little money, eaten beans and rice and dandelions everyday for a month, but never starved.
I so feel your pain. Our neighbor, hub, and her boys are going through this right now. Their kids are best friends with our kids. Her stomach stays torn up into knots, and all I can do is bring her hot peppermint tea every night.
They filed bankruptcy five years ago on medical bills, car loans, and credit cards. They were able to keep their house by filing in such a way to pay back the money. They made one large monthly payment every month for two years but it kept them in their house.
So now, when they went to refinance the house, the company says the payoff is $130,000. Their original loan was only for $94,000. There is no way they can afford the new payments of over $1000 a month.
The blessing in all of this?
They will no longer have the stress of trying to find that $1000 a month mortgage payment. They are going to rent a small place for a couple of years, save up their money, and start over.
Keeping you in my thoughts. I know how this can work someone over. So glad you found a new place. It sounds perfect for you. Hope to see pics soon.
By the way, I've squatted in homes and lived in tents. Granted, I was nineteen-twenty, but we find ways to manage. Women are like that. :)
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| laurentany |
Posted - May 06 2010 : 8:13:11 PM
Sherrye-
My heart goes out to you- but have faith- as hard as it may be at times- there is a plan for you and your family and God will see you through it.
I will keep you in prayer.
~Laurie
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 06 2010 : 12:11:29 PM
delicia i do not know how to post pics yet.the sun is out and the girls are laying in the grass. i had to ask my neighbor cow folks if she was ok. she was sprawled out like flat with her down. kinda scared me. the old udder bag a sitting in the sun. ron said they lay like that to accomodate the horns. she is very pretty, very small, and the doe skin blonde. very stoic cow sherrye
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| Sue Feely |
Posted - May 06 2010 : 12:04:26 PM
Sherrye - I am so happy for you! What a great turn of events! Wishing you all well and keep us posted in between your packing!
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| delicia |
Posted - May 06 2010 : 06:46:39 AM
You go Girl. I am craving to see a picture of your Jersey girls...
delicia |
| Old Spirit |
Posted - May 06 2010 : 03:33:44 AM
I am so glad you have found something and it really sounds like a good deal!! Sure will take some major stress off you and as you said to be able to save and pay cash!!!
Isn't it amazing how when God opens a door it is bigger than the one that closed.
Rae
Farm Girl #647
...those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles:...
Isaiah 40:31
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 05 2010 : 7:31:11 PM
hey there girls, i went and saw the property. it is a fine piece. 26 acres already perimeter fenced. 6 acres irrigation. level areas with trees. i like it. i am hopeful. would sure make the transition easier. its close,there is a well, and eventually power. i can bring my livestock and my landscape. i sure think it will work. my jersey girls will like all the room.i will have the outdoor MJ bathtub for sure.lol when i told papa i could here relief in his voice.hes still in klamath falls. happy days sherrye
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| delicia |
Posted - May 05 2010 : 4:36:54 PM
Sherrye, I am so HAPPY for you. You and papa are the best and it is happening to everyone but, you took lemons and made lemonade. God has blessed and now you will be more abundant. Your tender words mean the world to me and if I can help you at all it is a privilege. I am so thrilled that I have found this site and am able to meet people who are like minded and know what it is like to be down but, keep your eyes on God and you will rise back up.
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| KanMogirl |
Posted - May 05 2010 : 2:05:13 PM
Praying for you! Maybe a new door will open soon.
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| Alee |
Posted - May 05 2010 : 1:45:43 PM
Sherry, your courage in the face of this adversity is truly inspirational. I can't imagine the grief and terror that you must have been going through. I know how horrible it was for me when I came to Billings and literally had no where to live the first few days because our rental fell through literally as we were driving into town. (luckily my parents were with me and we camped out a motel). *hugs* You have been in my thoughts a lot lately!
Alee
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 05 2010 : 10:58:14 AM
i was going to start a new post. not sure if its good pulling an old post ? anyway yipee, we sell our eggs at a place called school house produce. lots of organic local stuff. they also carry our soap line. they had mentioned they had 26 acres. when they opened their 2nd store at the open house...the husband said you should talk to jayne about the acres we bought. so i did today. they need their irrigation up and running by june. they know nothing. they will trade getting them up and running for a years worth of living there. i can take my plants and animals. its less than 4 miles from here. there is a well and power. holy cow. waiting on Jehovah my God is sometimes not easy. in the end i am always loved and provided for. if papa gets to continue union work we will save. in a year i will pay cash for land.for now bk. is imminent. i am going to include the house. i so appreciate delicias help. so now i see she has reached out to all the farmgirls. she is smart and knows her stuff. thanks delicia. i am vibrating right now from happiness. to know i have some where to go is amazing. will keep you posted. happy days sherrye i shall pack a few more boxes today.
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| sherrye |
Posted - Apr 19 2010 : 09:36:28 AM
melody where is land of hiawatha? i am going to dig strawberries and move to the kids place this weel. tell me what you are looking for in plants. i might have it. you are welcome to some. we did get a bit of good news. papa will go to klamath falls next week. his union boss is bidding like crazy. hoping to get some local bids. its crazy how things are. every one is so displaced.we have a high school going in one mile from us. union work. the bid went to someone over the mountain. they are shipping in union workers. our boss is concerned he will lose some of his guys to that job. he is bidding now to try and not lose his crew. that is good for us. so now the decision. should i stay or should i go now. i really think we will leave here. hard to wrap my mind around it. there is so much real estate out there. we could get some good land larger. save money from not paying pymt. and use to pay cash for larger piece. bare land.so looking at all choices. not feeling so trapped and lost these days.i think we will try to stay around here on the mtn. kids are here and grandkids. i am cleaning corral today and planting garden. i know some of you are way ahead of me. i am just starting sherrye
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| melody |
Posted - Apr 16 2010 : 09:47:36 AM
Sherry....let us know when you post the plants on craiglist I am interested in buying. Take care girlfriend!
"The best mirror is an old friend."
- George Herbert
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| sherrye |
Posted - Apr 16 2010 : 09:24:00 AM
hi to you all. well had the talk with papa. 3 days in a row i gently pushed. today the hard ball. make a choice dude. we need to get to figuring this out. so i have been thinking of all the suggestions here. i think i should sell all i can this year from the gardens. that was suggested here. we should spend summer sorting out our stuff. so i am going to work on a pro and con list for my sweet papa. as i said to him. he would be the one at his age 59 trying to work to keep an expensive piece of land. the commercial block he lays when working sometime weigh 80 pounds. all day in the hot sun. does he want to keep doing that. and the big if. what if no work how long can we maintain on unemployment and disability. so i will let you know the next step or thought if you want. i just do not want to over talk a post either. so i am going to get the heated greenhouse started today. so by next week i will be ready to post plants on craigslist from the outdoor gardens. the desert is just waking up. i have 2 daffodils so far and helebores bloomig. thanks girls sherrye
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| shabby-mama |
Posted - Apr 14 2010 : 7:11:44 PM
Hi Sherrye,
I am totally fine, thanks :) Mine is almost to the end. I am in a little house that was foreclosed too and condemned. We borrowed $ from my fil so are lucky to not have a mortgage. And since my hubby isn't working, he has been able to fix it up modestly ( enough to move into :) I wouldn't have chosen this house over my origional one, but I do think we will be happy here.
I have always been a farmgirl at heart, but didn't have so much time for myself with the kids and our 'big' house, but this one is so tiny that we are actually sleeping in the living room BUT it is a breeze to run through and clean, and I actually am always close to the kids here so they aren't into too much without me knowing. BTW they are 11, 10, 6,girls and 6, 6 boys.
My Nan was the sweetest lady on earth and she didn't have two pennies to rub together but she was very happy. She gave a gift to everyone that she came across, whether it be a tin of food, or a handmade doily, 50p, or just about anything. I asked her once why she did that and she said that there was no point in having anything if you couldn't give it away. :) I have found that to be true and LOVE to give gifts. My biggest blessing this whole year was that I had so much to get rid of with moving and downsizing and found plenty of people who needed it more than myself, so instead of being sad about letting things go, I was blessed to help other people.
NOT wanting to sound like this has been an easy year, and you really have some heartache ahead of you, but if you can try to find the blessings, they are there somewhere and will pull you through.
I would love to be able to give you good advice on this and am sorry that I can't. We seem to have made mistakes through this whole thing and so I hope to help others to not do the same.
I understand how sad you are about your plants. I was most upset about my ceiling that I couldn't take and we had a lot of animals to rehome as well. Could you maybe give them to friends and relatives for when you have another home? And notice that I didn't say house :)
Wanted to mention that I actually moved States since we weren't tied to my hubbies job anymore. I LOVE where we are now and would have never moved by choice, so maybe when this is done, you won't miss your house as much as you think you will.
I will continue to pray for you,
Hugs! Nicola
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| sherrye |
Posted - Apr 14 2010 : 3:05:12 PM
thanks girls i will check now. let you know about the site. i will pursue the hamp program. happy days sherrye
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| pinkroses |
Posted - Apr 14 2010 : 2:15:24 PM
(((((( Hugs))))) to you, and prayers , hugs sheila
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