| T O P I C R E V I E W |
| pinkroses |
Posted - Dec 09 2008 : 5:31:09 PM
You know?
I am sure there are a lot of yall here who have dealt with people who have hurt us and did unspeakable things to us in the past
I know I have
One thing I have learned from my past is
To forgive those who have commmitted wrong against me.
Believe me ;
It didn't come quickly.
Some times. it took years to forgive those who have hurt me.
One was my Dad
He died of cancer almost 4 years ago.
He died 2 days after his 80th birthday
I have 3 older brothers and I am the youngest
No sisters
Mom is still living ; she is 77
Anyways
I didn't speak to my Dad for almost 3 years because of some family problems between Mom,
Anyways.
All of us kids had a hard time with Daddy at times.
He thought he was right about everything
.
You know the type.
Daddy was in World War 2
He was in a German prison camp for almost 15 months
He almost froze to death and starved to death
I am sure that was the beginnning of alot of his health problems
Anyways.
He got prostrate cancer first.
He went into remisson
Years later ; he got colon cancer
He went into remisson with that
Then in his last years the cancer came back and spread every where.
My dad suffered long and hard.
We kids got a chance to come to our terms with Daddy and to
Forgive and Forget.
Sometimes,
It isn't easy to do that
Sometimes.
We don't get to say good by to our loved ones.
So,
I am glad I and my brothers got the chance to talk to Daddy.
and to tell him we loved him
The last words Daddy said to me was
"Sheila, I am sorry you had to go through this with me."
I love you
It was all I could say is
"Don't worry about me Daddy,"
I love you too, ; and I will be okay.
Daddy didn't say anything to anyone else after that
He died 2 days later after his 80th birthday.
So,
just sharing some thoughts.
Hugs Pinkroses
Sheila
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| shepherdgirl |
Posted - Dec 09 2008 : 10:35:27 PM
I was never close to EITHER of my parents when I was growing up. They divorced when I was only 2, and I spent all those growing up years being told by my grandma (mom's mom) that my dad didn't even believe that I was his kid. You can imagine how THAT made me feel, so he and I were not close. But the funny thing is, when I grew up, I KNEW, deep down inside me, that he DID love me. Besides, I could SEE the regret in his eyes every time he looked at me when I would visit him. We could never get back those lost years of my childhood, but we made the most of the years we DID have together.
As for my mother-- well, we won't even GO there. Lets just say, growing up with HER for a mother was absolute HELL! I didn't even live with her for a few years in my mid-teens, but DID make the painful choice to "give her a second chance" my Senior year in High School. And OH BOY was it PAINFUL!!! I moved out again as soon as I could, only this time it was to get married and start my OWN family. There was such a dynamic shift in our relationship not long after I got married at 18. I forgave her for all those rotten, painful, lonely years growing up as her daughter-- and it took her 20yrs to ever say she was "Sorry." I'm happy to say that I was FINALLY able to see the wonderful person that others knew her as (obviously a side she had never shown US!). We got to be VERY close and spent many happy times together.
Both of my parents died at a young age. My mother was only 47 when she was taken from us very suddenly nearly 13yrs ago. My youngest son was not even two yet, and he can't even remember her. Dad died in a motorcycle accident exactly 6yrs and 10 days after we lost mom. He was 54. One thing I can honestly say is that I am SO VERY GLAD that I was able to put all those past hurts behind me, be a bigger person, and FORGIVE them. I can't imagine what my life would be like now had I not. (I have an older sister who did NOT believe in forgiveness at the time-- so many regrets haunt her for that).
There are exactly 100 scriptures in the bible on the subject of "Forgiveness" (and all it's variables-- according to my Strongs concordance). It's such a simple little word, but it has so much power in the way that it affects our lives. We can choose to forgive, or we can choose not to, but no one can MAKE us do it. For me, I've learned it's best to just let go and move on. You never know how things will turn out in life and I CHOOSE to live mine with as few regrets to look back on as possible. And that, for ME, begins with "FORGIVENESS." Hugs ~~~ Tracy
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. ~~ George Carlin |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Dec 09 2008 : 7:32:23 PM
Sheila, you were so lucky to have had that time with your father. And Cheryl, too. My father died when I was 18. He was in Calif. and I was here. He was cremated before we got to go to Ca. So I never have had that closure. I still feel like there is something missing in my life because of that. He was a great dad.
So all you who have your parents, enjoy them (if you're able) and tolerate them (if you're not). And hopefully one day you'll get the chance to tell them goodbye, too.
Beautiful story, Sheila. |
| dutchy |
Posted - Dec 09 2008 : 6:20:25 PM
(((((Hugs))))) to you Sheila!!
Hugs from Marian/Dutchy, a farmgirl from the Netherlands :)
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http://just-me-a-dutch-girl.blogspot.com/
Again new creations added, too cute lol. Come and check it out!!
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| K-Falls Farmgirl |
Posted - Dec 09 2008 : 5:40:29 PM
Thank you for sharing.. (((hugs))) I lost my dad too and I was able to tell him how much he meant to me, I don't know of course how he felt after that but I sure felt good..He dies only hours after that. We had a special relationship althrough my life, and i was the oldest of 4 daughters.
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Cheryl #309
Farm girl sister
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